Everything in your world begins with you. Love, friendship, joy, happiness, and success, all begins with you. From a child we are taught the importance of being respectful, honest, friendly, giving, helpful, and likeable in regards to others, but we don't really get exposed to the concept of all those actions beginning with us towards ourselves. Of course how you treat others is absolutely important, but how we treat others, reflects what is going on within ourselves.
One of the easiest things to overlook is how we treat ourselves. How do you speak to yourself? How do you acknowledge yourself when you do something well? Do you keep your environment in the same condition for yourself, as you would for others? Do you dress the same to impress yourself as you would for work, colleagues, special occasions, etc.? Do you try to impress yourself? Do you encourage yourself, just as much as others? Do you believe in yourself, as much as you believe in others? Are you as nice to yourself, as you are to others?
We must learn to be our own best advocates, friends and lovers! Seriously think about the questions I've asked. I know what my answers are to some of them, which is why learning to love myself is a daily effort. Now some people, choose to be unloving to themselves and others, and that pattern causes for deeper exploration, as their life may be marked with intense hurt and pain. For others, it just seems easier to be a bed of roses for others before ourselves. Especially as women, we have an innate disposition to be nurturers. Often nurturers sacrifice themselves, for the sake of their loved one. Fortunately we are in a time where we know that self care and self love enhance our overall wellness and human experience, and this is why I say to you, BE NICE to YOURSELF!
Learning to be your own #1, will keep your own love tank filled so that you can pour into others. This looks different for different people, and sometimes you have to learn what works for you. Whether it's writing daily affirmations for yourself, looking as yourself in the mirror or taking selfies to acknowledge your beauty, or even just giving yourself recognition throughout the day, practice being nice to yourself everyday. Practice spending alone time with yourself as often as possible. Take yourself out. Fall in love with yourself because we all deserve to be loved, and it begins with us.
Written by: Tiffany W.