It seems that a central focus for so many 20somethings has to do with romantic relationships and conquests. If someone is not interested in a relationship, then its about who they can get in bed with. I feel like I rarely engage in conversations with individuals who are content just being single.
Love love love. Its beautiful a experience. It has the potential to expand your mind, heart and state of BEing. You'll feel euphoria that you've never felt before. Maybe you find someone that understands you in such a way that no one else has. It can be beautiful but it can be challenging and everything else in between. Which is why I've been asking myself lately: Why is it that young people are so wrapped up in being attached to someone? This is really something I am trying to understand.
Is it not OK for people to just live and BE? Is it not OK to not worry about companionship and just let life bring you a BEautiful BEing to enjoy? Why can't some people see its OK to be single and not sexually active? Ladies, why would you keep going back and forth to someone who proves time and time again that they don't value you? Why do you return to situations that you keep telling yourself and your friends you're going to walk away from? Why are you entertaining the company of someone you know you're not going to want? Why do you feel worthless, unattractive, undesirable, etc. just because you're not in a relationship or dating anyone? Why do you feel so much pressure to keep up a certain appearance to attract a mate? Why are you acting so desperate? Why do you think the only way you can get someone to be interested in or stay with you is by giving up your body or sexual favors? Why stay if you're not married, and someone keeps cheating on you? Why stay or go back when someone belittles you? Why stay or go back if someone hits you? Why get frustrated that everyone around you is getting engaged, married, or has been in a long term relationship.
To be honest, I know the answers to these questions, but I ask them from a rhetorical curiosity. I mean, seriously, you are a whole BEing! You do not need someone else to define you. No person is going to fill a void. No person can really make you learn how to love yourself. Another is not going to set your value, you have to do that.
Sure there's some people out there that have the "I'm going to save him/her" mentality, but even that's a whole other issue.
Please for the sake of your self, release the pressure and step away from the BS! You are special. You are love. You are BEautiful (in and out). You are powerful. You are amazing, with or without someone. Live your life. Fall in love with yourself. Walk in your purpose. BE open to companionship, and I assure you, the right people will fall into place.
Written by: Tiffany W.