Someone hurts you repeatedly, you finally throw your hands up and walk away. Only to let time pass by, you and that someone are back at it again, and they disappoint you again. You say no more, and go back again and again. Why? Is it because you want to torture yourself?
No, you know what my answer is going to be. Increase your self love. I recently had a conversation when a male about why women go back with or stay with people that continuously disrespect them, especially when they are aware of the disrespect. It's all about self love. For one, when you lack a healthy model of love, especially romantically, it is challenging for many people to define it for themselves. For the most part people live mindlessly through the eyes they were socialized with. Secondly, everyone wants to feel loved, and sometimes people go wherever they can get that comfort, regardless if it's healthy or not. Thirdly, many women are abusive relationships and do not realize it
October is Domestic Violence Awareness month, and I ask you to look into "the cycle of violence" to educate yourself on how people get drawn in and stuck in those type of situations. Often women experience a cycle of highs and lows from their partners. Especially if a relationship has no physical abuse present, many women are not aware of the serious affects of the mental, emotional and financial abuse their partnerships may cause.
That woman who sticks around for their partner who keeps cheating on her or calls her degrading names. Walk away. It's ok. If you are fearful, create a plan, tell a friend and find a way to escape. You deserve the best, and don't ever for a second talk yourself out of it.
If there is or you suspect you are in danger, or just need to talk visit http://www.thehotline.org or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline
BE Bold and Love Yourself.