One of my 5 Commandments of Self Love is Forgive Thyself. As we reflect in others, what is in ourselves, we must learn that forgiving ourselves means to also foegive others. See, forgiving yourself is one side of the coin, and forgiving others is another. I think this lesson has been one of major challenge in my life, and coincidentally in others. We are all doing our best, and some people's best, often includes hurt and selfishness. What parent, family member, lover, friend, or colleague have you had/ are you having trouble forgiving? It could just be one, but that one case could be blocking much from your life. Remember, you and that person are aligned. In a recent breakup, I learned that once I completely forgave myself, then I forgave my ex. When I thought, I just needed to forgive my ex....it doesn't work that way. Remember, energy is never destroyed, just transferred, so whatever you hold onto, whatever is actually end you, must be released.
Allowing the residue of bitterness, hurt, or dissapointment to remain in your life is like having a clogged sink. Even though water may flow correctly from time to time, at any point, water can rise and major damage can occur. At times, love and your spirit may be in flow, but some triggering event or thought can impact and cause total disarray in your being because you have unsettled issues.
Release what you need to, so you can have an open heart. We all make mistakes, constantly. People hurt people, people disappoint people, and people are selfish intentionally and unintentionally. You (&I) are never perfect enough to look down on or be unforgiving of another. In the wake of national and international news spotlighting wars, murders, domestic violence cases, and discrimination, emotions are high not only for those involved, but also spectators, and I say, be open and forgive.
See forgiveness isn't just an act that must occur because of what someone directly did to us. No no no, it's just not that simple. We are all connected, and everything that goes on around us affects how we feel and think. Therefore our interaction with the world, others and ourselves, are directly impacted by events outside of us.
So on all levels, learn to forgive. Learn to understand. Learn to dissect the source of pain and hurt. Learn to let go. Breathe in love, exhale peace and understanding. Let's just pray for each other's healing hearts and minds.