Oh yes to a New Year! Hopefully in your reflections you've let go of limiting beliefs, behaviors, and even people that do not serve you anymore and our entering into a new space in 2015!
Today I want to talk about the power of friendships or mutually beneficial emotional and mentally supportive relationships :)
First off we know that not all of our "friendships" are mutually supportive relationships. Some people just needs us to listen to them go out with them, affirm them or give them something. Likewise, we may have others in our life that we call friends, for the same purpose; but if you don't give and get, is it really consider a friendship?
For some reason the older we get, the more difficult it is for women to create authentic relationships. Let's think about this. A man can meet another guy, start hanging out, and slowly over time become more open and trusting and boom, they have a new friend, bro, or homie... but its not so easy for us. Haha.
Women (on average) tend be a little more emotional, comparative, and complicated.
Which is why when we do have these authentic, genuine, and mutually beneficial relationships, we must pay attention to why they are so valuable. I'm blessed to have had 3 stable sister friends for nearly 15 years (2/3 in the photo above). The nature of my relationship is different with each of them but I know that I genuinely love and care for them and they do the same. We may not even see eye to eye but I can say I've never had a major argument with any of them. Maybe disagreement that caused a little space, but no back stabbing, physical altercation or even words of disrespect. I've had many friends come and go, as any 20 something who's social may have, but these women have been staples in my life. It is one thing I'm extremely grateful for, authentic relationships that can stand the test of time.
Now of course because of timing and life transitions, we experience the pleasure of having different authentic relationships with others at specific stages. We meet great women in so many different places; maybe college, at work, the city we live in, in fitness settings, or places of worship, but once circumstances changed that setting, so did the nature of those relationships.
Relationships expire because of time, location, career and maybe even the change of a mutual friendship. They also expire because of our own personal growth.
Consider the direction you see yourself going in mentally, spiritually, physically or even financially. Do you have friendships or close relationships that will nurture what you need? Are you being the friend, mentor, or support system you want from others?
Having amazing friendships, especially as a woman, is really important. With the stresses and pressures of the world, its always good to have someone in your corner; someone that pushes and reflects you. Likewise, it feels great to be that for someone else. When you fill yourself up with love, its required that you pour that out into others.
Yes affirmation and recognition from a good sister friend can be powerful when we need it most. The times when you don't feel that you look or are being your best; after a breakup or the ending to a potential romantic relationship; when you're too afraid to go after that job, business idea, or opportunity that's been tugging at your heart.
BE A Great Friend! Find a great friend. Hold on to a great friend!
May your relationships and spirits flourish beyond 2015! :)
By: Tiffany W.