WHY WOMEN SHOULD TRANSFORM THEIR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE IDEA OF PERFECTION

I just want to yell to the world, Perfection Doesn't Exist!!! Its a construct and can fulfill whatever expectation you want it to!!!

Why are women so critical?  I just don't understand. I'm not one of those women who spend time trying to understand men because women are enough for me. Haha, I'm just being honest.

Women are sooo critical of themselves!  Their bodies, their hair, their clothes, their success compared to other women, what they need to do to get a mate, how good enough they are, and the list goes on and on and one. That's just one side of the coin; women spread their criticism to other women.

I am sorry, but no one is a supreme being on this planet. Even if you connect to the God withing you, you are still human. Everyone's truth is relative. Everyone has their own baggage, insecurities, and wayward decisions to deal with.

It actually bothers me when people tear down other people and even in a moment in which I realize I might be doing the same, I close my mouth and recenter myself. When women tear down themselves and other women, it leaves me baffled. Our BEings and lives are sooo complex, what benefit does blunt, salacious,  unwarranted,  and nonconstructive criticism do? to yourself or towards than other women?

Platforms like social media really magnify the "pressures of perfection" and the judgement that may reign on another woman if she falls below someone's standards and ideal. When women post pics in bathing suits or even undergarments, someone feels the need to critique their body or slut shame them. When a "scandalous" photo of a celebrity is released for a magazine shoot or even from an exclusive event, women rush to social media to critique the photos level of "appropriateness" while attacking the woman's character. Why?

In one way, we are not in control of other's reactions to what we say or do, just as other's words and actions have nothing to do with how we choose to respond, but we all impact one another to some degree. Harsh, non-supportive, and poisonous words plant seeds of depression, self image dissatisfaction, and suicidal ideations. For those who've have not got to a point in their journey in which they can learn to mentally and spiritually block/repel such criticisms the result becomes drug addiction, massive cosmetic procedures, eating disorders, body dis-morphia, and suicides. 

Life is challenging enough and to add the presence of people attacking the essence of you is just a layer of confusion no one needs. Despite what others say, your journey of BEcoming whoever you want to be will be determined by your own experiences, lessons, and revelations.  Growth from the stance of the human mind is somewhat complicated because you must be open to transforming while being connected and staying true to who you are.

Unfortunately we are not always aware of how we can improve, and insight from others can be beneficial, but there is a line drawn when people believe they are not good enough, beautiful enough, strong enough, etc. The "enough" factor implies that there is a level of perfection that exists, but please know that the very construction of perfection, is based and should be based on your own conception, not that of someone else's. Perfection is an ideal of infinite possibility. 

Perfection could be seen as something to strive for, but I guarantee its significance can be more damaging than beneficial if not approached through an eye of self love that allows one to reach their highest form of being while honoring their full selves. The problem with "striving for perfection" is that people tend to be ungrateful with the now, over judgmental of their lives, and non-accepting of their current truths. Could you learn to accept that every moment of life and state of yourself is perfect? The power of choice is that you can strive to transform yourself and life while being centered in the understanding that no matter what, you are enough. 

Just as you are enough, so is that woman you feel like judging and critiquing. You demeaning or gossiping about her does not contribute to her own self love journey. Regardless if you disagree with her decisions, her attire, her body, her job, her romantic situation, or even what she posts on social media, choose to add light rather than spread darkness.  We cannot control others, but we do often impact others view of themselves. In self love, we must learn to honor ourselves and likewise honor those outside of us. 

BE You~
By: Tiffany Wright