Somehow, somewhere, and in some way we receive messages that relationships are fixed and narrow.
-First off, when you hear the word relationship, you more than likely have a romantic association with the word.
-Secondly, relationship seems like such an intense word when you think about your association with another human being.
In my quest, especially as a hopeful romantic, I’ve learned to really pull the reins in on my traditional relationship to the word relationship and be open to all that it means.
Firstly, relationship merely boils down to a connection; Any type of connection. Whether weak or strong, deep or surface, familial, platonic, work related, or even romantic interests.
Secondly, you can choose what relationships you really want to tend to and nurture, or let just run their course. Thirdly, every relationship serves a purpose. No matter how its defined.
So what am I writing about today?
Choosing relationships that feed your soul, no matter how they look. Based off some recent conversations, observations of relationships in my own and others' lives, and a recent book read (A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson) I am really letting go of traditional ideas of relationships. For one, I think it’s no surprise or new epiphany, but you don’t have to be close to people in your family. You can choose who you want to develop intense if any, soul gratifying relationships with. What I do know is that having people in your life is important, and family could be the most stable people if its possible, therefore being intentional that despite differences or even distance, respect and support should ensue.
Secondly, it’s possible to have intimate relationships not defined by romance. There’s this belief that men and women cannot have platonic relationships. I disagree. Male and female energy are meant to interact. This doesn’t mean one or both would never have thoughts of physical intimacy or of even being a couple, but the greater purpose for the relationship could really just be supportive. For two adults to get this, I do believe they have to be very mentally and spiritually mature. Sometimes people can heal you without you falling in love with them. Sometimes they can open you up or just infuse light in your life, and that’s really just it.
Thirdly, it is sooooooo important to have soul inspiring close friends of the same sex. In general, the company you keep should make you better, but what I often witness is that many people are that “strong or wise” person for others, but they don’t have anyone to be that for them, and in actuality you should have friendships where there can be an equitable exchange of “pouring” (both parties mentally, emotionally, spiritually pouring into and building up one another.)
Growth is essential to living, therefore, establishing, maintaining and nourishing selective relationships that feed this goal are essential to you thriving. Take all relationships for what they are, but believe that there are some special relationships that should exist and will exist.
Comment below and tell me your thoughts on ideas around relationships. I'd love to hear. Have you had similar or more profound understandings?
By: Tiffany W.