Us women (in general) seem to be really keen on highlighting what we are unhappy with about ourselves and our lives. We love the drama that we create within ourselves that allows us to worship another woman's body, life, career, charisma, family or relationship.
In a world driven by digital snapshots and millions of videos daily, we (myself included) can get so caught up in the fantasy that perfection exists in someone's life, way beyond our own reach. The reality? It's BS!
There is actually perfection is imperfection. Imperfection is the constant state (when compared to our fantasies) that we all are constantly in. Let's get comfortable with the word imperfection. Rationally, its the adjective that makes the most sense when we try to compare ourselves to or strive towards something that doesn't exist. The fantasy of perfection is merely a fantasy. If we compare ourselves to our fantasies, then we might as well accept that we are imperfect.
You are perfect the way you are because perfection is an ideal. Perfection is a construct. You are human. You are the epitome of imperfection. In all your imperfection, I hope that you see your beauty, resilience and potential.
You're not small enough, thick, tall, short, dark, light, smart, expressive, creative, gentle, or enterprising enough. You're striving to be who your idol is. Striving to be whoever your "#goals" SEEM to be.
We must truly learn to embrace who we are and the paths we have walked. Every path is unique, and everyone carries the weight of their lives different.Do not rely on merely what you see, because as the saying goes, even salt looks like sugar from afar.
When you can learn to get up EVERYDAY and embrace who you are, you release the pressure of that you've put on yourself through these fantasies in your head.
There is so much freedom in juts loving you, and being content with who you are until you become someone more dynamic.
You smile, cry, laugh, get scared, and have insecure moments. There's lessons you've learned and times in which you feel like you made a mistake. It's ok.
You can be confident, confused, and insecure at the same time. You can be helpful and inspiring to others, and have no clue what to do about your own relationships at times.
Who said you can shine light while you are in darkness? Who says, that you can't be a teacher, while you are learning? Who says you can't lead, while you are learning how to follow?
Life is not black and white. People are not black & white. No matter how much we want to put ourselves or others in about, people do not fit in boxes. One of my own personal mantras which is now a shirt reads " Enough. Now. Always. Forever." It's so crucial for us to walk in the freedom of knowing there is beauty in our imperfection. It is so crucial for us to embrace that we can be walking contradictions on a journey of continuous transformation.