Hurt happens. Pain happens. Disappointment and failed expectations may occur (of course those are self imposed). Some one or some people will talk about you behind your back, on the side of you, or so blatantly loud in front of you, they might as well start a personal convo with you. You will be betrayed. You will be lied on or falsely accused. You may be cheated on. You may be fired. You will experience loss:of loved ones, of possessions, of friends, and of lovers.
This will happen, and if you're secure in yourself, and optimistic about life, you will keep living and keep thriving. Unfortunately, many people live life grudgingly holding on to the negative experience they had with people or situations. Even though they know that life is fair, and you fairly experience examples from above, they still grow in anger. Some people become so engulfed in the seemingly atrocities of their life, that they want to publicly shame and blame others. Well I have some thoughts on that.
Don't blame anyone about anything because what's done is done. Even if you've been shot or robbed, it happened, and to a degree you can try to obtain justice, but the true justice that rules over the life of someone who has caused pain in your life will come without your intervention. I believe everyone reaps what they sow, and it's for sure that if I try to step in and control what someone else reaps, I'll be reaping some not so pretty fruits myself. Nowadays people like to use social media to humiliate others or vent about the people and ways that negatively impact their lives the most.
In the past month or so we've seen people go to the extent of leaking nude photos of celebs and snap chat media of teenagers. Twitter and Facebook are abound with screen shots of inappropriate conversations and pics of people's exes doing them dirty. Every now and again I see (usually a female) venting about someone in their life doing them wrong. One of the worst, is when people think they're posting a "general" status' because they didn't mention a name, but the energy of the status emits pure passive aggressiveness.
The point of it all, learn to manage your emotions and thoughts healthily and in private. Unless you are putting out a "caution" message for someone who intentionally spreads and std, or has the tendency to abuse others in some way, avoid taking justice in your own hands. Because we all have energy that can be transferred. When you speak and promote negativity, you are literally spreading that energy. Instead of diffusing your hurt or anger in a way that will help you grow and transform, you will unintentionally ignite the same emotions in another. In addition, you begin to sow seeds that might lead to more unpleasant circumstances in your own future.
I Know that it can feel good to tell others what someone has "done to you." It satisfies your ego because you get to elevate yourself and diminish another. You get to get revenge by shaming them and secretly hoping your audience can build up an emotional wall against or mental block of the individual. I get it, I've been there, but you also must remember that the energy you decide to hold on to, and emit, will impact your health, your ability to love, and even your mental clarity. Learning to forgive another is essential. We can all be unforgivable, and you are not perfect, so you must learn to let go. It may be difficult, but learn to heal by reflecting on the lessons you learned, and how you can become a stronger, wiser and more discerning individual because of your circumstance. Use your lesson to help another heal, constructively.
Life is too beautiful to harbor on to and promote the negativity in your life. Don't block your own opportunities of abundance and joy because of another's actions. That person will receive whatever lessons of humility God and the Universe want them to experience. It takes a lot more courage and discipline to practice acceotance in the midst of hurt. In self love, if you can accept the imperfections in you, you can accept the imperfections of another. You are on an intentional journey of transformation and love, you must act like it. You don't embody peace when it's convenient. It's more important to embody peace when you have situations in your life that can normally rob it from you. Knowing and learning to keep going despite hurt is an act of strength. The more you build that muscle, the stronger it becomes. The muscle of forgiveness. it may take time, but it will be worth it.
Lastly, social media is forever. It is the ultimate technological footprint. Use it responsibly. Learn and let go.
Written by: Tiffany W.