It's been approximately 1 year and 2 months since I've been a single and unattached romatically woman. I've bern attached to a boy/man :) from 13 to 26 non stop. Once my last relationship ended, I decided to really fall in love with myself and it's been quite a journey. Somewhere in between an obsession with Disney, Rom Coms, and Say Yes to the Dress, I believe that I had a deep yearning to be loved and duplicate what I saw in my favorite shows and movies. It was such a deep desire, I put the idea of love before my mind, body and spirit.
Once moving past the stages of hurt and anger, I can now say I don't have any desire to speak ill of my ex or past relationship. I believe all relationships, especially romantic, teach us about ourselves. Love brings out the best and worst in us; and in some ways, it brings out parts of us we didn't even know existed. Love has it's own lessons that when in the midst of the journey or after, is great to embrace.
Here are some thoughts and questions to consider. If you were hurt, did you see it coming? Did you ignore the signs? Were you and that BEing aligned from the get go? Did you feel like you to compromise yourself? If your separation just seemed mutual and right, do you now understand the beauty of time's essence? Can you see that every love story doesn't have to be an epic novel but could be just as beautiful as a short story?
As a single millennial woman, I am deeply appreciative of my learning experiences. This Valentine's Day, I'm appreciatuve to be single and honestly in love with myself. In the time I've been completely unattached, I've been able to grow deeper and higher in to myself. I've been able to face truths about myself that are easily ignored or supported through relationships. No hodong. No falsehoods. No trying to be what I think another wants me to be.
I now can be confident in knowing, feeling and recognizing that my next love will be someone who is so spirtually rooted, so emotionally intelligent, mature, confident, selfless, creative and loving, that when we see eachother, we will see God. It will go so deep and be so beautiful, that all my lessons will be worth it.
Today, my Valentine is one of my best friends. We are on different paths of our self love journey but embrace and support each other in it. Our date tonight, the Keith Sweat, Musiq Soulchild, and Chrisette Michele concert. Falling in love with ourselves and each other, a reflection of something greater. When true live exist in your life, it's source can come from anywhere.
So whether you're single, in a relationship, or married, may today amd every day be ome filled with pure, confident, authentic, unapologetic, unpolished, unpolluted love. May you see yourself through the most loving eyes. May you share that love with those around you, both familiar and unknown.