You only get one body to live in, therefore protect and nourish it.
One thing is for sure: most people are in self-inflicted abusive relationships with themselves.
Now I know this sounds like a loaded statement but hear me out. I have not only survived, but have also been a counselor for survivors of domestic violence. When the common person thinks of domestic violence, they think of a man beating a woman, but this is a fraction of the story. Domestic violence (DV) can occur in romantic, familial or even in professional relationships. DV can be emotional, mental, physical, verbal, and economic.
In 1979, psychologist Lenore Walker found that many violent relationships follow a common pattern or cycle. There's a tension building, acute battering, and honeymoon phase. Now what's even more interesting, is that this same pattern occurs for the inner-abusive relationship with self.
As a Wellness Coach, I entered in learning another aspect of the human psyche, self-love.
Imagine that you get one body. One body to be with you until the day you die. Would you not want it to carry you optimally through all the days of your life. Should it not represent the chariot of a king or queen. Adorned properly, in the best shape, clean, running well. Unfortunately for most (speaking for US citizens) this is not the case. 69% of US adults are obese. 1 out of 6 people have an eating disorder such anorexia or bulimia. Individuals have high sodium, sugar and fat diets and are more concerned with looking at blogs and reality tv, then getting out for exercise.
When you can treat your body right, why poison or kill yourself slowly? Tension phases to me arise upon special occasions,: holidays, special events such as weddings, dates, reunions, going out, or even when you see someone whether notable or not, and admire how they look. It is when these occasions or images of others come to mind that negative self talk begins. Individuals have that negative inner talk about how they should look better, they're ugly , etc. Or an event such as stress or a breakup may cause for battering that says I don't have control, or I'm going to go crazy; I'm feeling worthless, lonely, sad, and therefore a spiral of unhealthy eating behaviors may occur, and then there's a honeymoon phase...for many this is new years; setting resolutions; for others this may be the time you decide to join a gym, weight loss challenge, start following fitspiration idols on social media. But at then of the day, the cycle repeats.
Now in no way am I immune to this cycle because I too may have breakdowns occasionally, as I most recently did with a breakup, but the fact of the matter is, if you truly love yourself, honor body, honor your temple, you will put the best in it, do the best for it, and adorn the best on it. Love starts with an appreciation of self. You can not truly love others until you love yourself. You cannot teach others to love themselves, unless you truly love yourself.
As women, it may be challenging to understand what that means. But your body is a reflection of your lifestyle. Your lifestyle is a reflection of your priorities, and if one of your priorities is loving yourself, than your body will reflect such! Today, create a health & fitness goal for the week! Don't only make the goal, but make sure to stick to it!
Written by: Tiffany Wright