Yesterday was the special day we call Mother's Day (in the U.S.). It's the day that a number of individuals give praise to their mothers and mother-like figures who've impacted their lives. Other individuals reflect on what it means to not have or ever had a mother because of loss, abandonment, or just never knowing them.
Mother's Day can mean so many things to different people but one thing is for sure, honoring your mother, is a step in your own self love journey.
Because you came from her, you have the ability to live and thrive; no matter what, her presence or absense shaped you. Her kindness or pain shaped you. Her affection or dysfunction shaped you. Her openness or pride shaped you. To follow the first commandment of self love is to Honor Thyself; to acknowledge everything about you and every being who's contributed to you being who you are.
Granted, most people post and share pictures with smiles and positive captions, the reality is that there's a small number of households where life actually resembled those pictures.
So what's the truth? There wasn't always smiles. Some people grew up in horrific circumstances with biological, step or even foster mothers. Some people still feel a sting pain trying to connect to the memory of a lost mother if she passed away. Some people can only try to imagine what she would have been like because she was never there for whatever reason.
The truth of the matter, honoring the presence or absence of your mother is one in the same because she gave life to you, and whatever capacity she decided to fulfill motherly duties was her choice. But this day, you are here. You are an open, conscious, self loving being who can honor every facet of your being and you know you can choose to be whoever you want.
Remember that who you become cannot come to pass without the person you've been. Therefore as you grow and expand, walking more confidently in your truth, choosing to face every page of your story will empower you. When it comes to your parents/caretakers, etc. consider their humanness. Consider their wholeness and brokenness. Consider them being your age and doing the best they could, just as you're doing.
By: Tiffany W.