I find it very interesting when I come across someone who is so clear about judging others but seems to have blurred vision when looking at themselves. When in conflict they point a finger at another but don't realize there are 3 fingers pointing right back at them!
I don't judge these folks because I was one of them and still embrace those tendencies from time to time. I'm a recovering judge. I've confessed, made my peace with and have worked on changing my mind and opening my heart. It's really the practice of self love that has released me from that prison because in learning to accept yourself, you learn to accept others.
Why is that?
Well 2 long standing life wisdoms are:
1. We see in others what's in ourselves. Whether positive or negative, that which we attach to or attack in someone else is reflective of our own possibilities or that which we don't like in ourselves.
Those who continue to tear you down and criticize you not from a place of love and concern for your betterment, but from a place of bitterness, anger, and ill will, have some unresolved issues within themselves. But guess what? When you can own who you are, who you're not, and who you're striving to be, it makes it a lot easier to handle those people and their opinions.
No one, absolutely no one is perfect. Every one has something they can improve on. Everyone has triggers that shine light on open wounds from past hurts or disappointments. You do as well those who criticize you.
It's ok to be you. It's ok to be the epitome of imperfect. You're human and imperfect is the definition of such a status. You will hurt and be hurt. You will lie and be lied to. You feel joy, happiness, anger, and frustration. Sometimes you won't know the answers. Sometimes you'll be wrong. Sometimes you'll be confused. Sometimes you'll feel like giving up. Sometimes you won't do what you say, when you say. You're human, it's not the end of the world.
The question is: Are you striving to be better? Are you learning to follow the 5 Commandments of Self Love and employ them in every way possible? Are you striving to be better for you and those around you? Are learning what it means to accept yet transform?
Embrace who you are Beautiful because who you are, is BEautiful!
By: Tiffany W.