I am currently reading a book entitled The Road Less Traveled,A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth by Dr. M Scott Peck and for me thus far,it is one of those special awareness expanding pieces of personal development. The book is written by a psychiatrist and he goes into how people learned to manage difficult times. The book discusses the challenges that most humans have when dealing with difficult times in life, and understanding that there are psychological mechanisms that can be in place to help us through these times. Life is perfectly imperfect; and knowing that is important. Times will not always be "easy" because there are circumstances out of our control, and others which were an unfavored outcome of our behavior. Maybe an economic crisis, the treatment from a "loved" one, weather disasters, a layoff, or a break up. A very relevant struggle for many Gen-Yers has to do with unemployment, college debt, homelessness, and couch surfing. Life happens to us all, but how we deal with it effects how our lives tend to pan out. So rather than ignore what's going or completely become depressed, The Road Less Traveled explores mechanisms such as Delayed Gratification to be used as a selective rule for "struggle." Now you may think, tool of struggle? Why would I want to struggle. Well the author so far suggests that us learning how to delay gratification directly relates to understanding that there is pain in discipline, which is uncomfortable, unwanted and undesired, but if you can delay gratification, then there will be a period of time in which gratification will feel that much more rewarding. If someone can learn the value of discipline, then they can cope better understanding that there will be time periods of difficulty, but it will be temporary, and the sun will come out so to speak.
This principle was so intriguing to me because Gen Y is a generation of INSTANT GRATIFICATION. With most of us growing up with technology and the presence of fast food/instant meals, having what we want has typically came fast. This influences the 20 or 30 something to want a nice car, home, up to date tech pieces, and be able to travel and go out to elaborate restaurants, clubs, etc. ASAP! At any stage before reality hits, many of our ideals are centered around a dream job, dream family, dream lifestyle. great dreams, but there's also this lucid idea that these things will come without difficulty and strife while on the route to that destination. The great thing to know is that these attainments are all past possible, but they will never come easy, not even if they were handed to us. Developing the perspective that life at any moment will have its ups and downs is powerful. Understanding that if you have a goal, it will not come by you easily. Understanding that if you are or desire to be in a major committed relationship, it should not be unhealthy, but it will take work at some point. Whether you're an entrepreneur or work for someone else, your success is going to take time. Be open enough to understand this concept, and don't turn away from what you want. Be open enough to understand this, and don't live a life of denial, unhealthy behaviors, frustration, or over compensation of stress because of the challenges. Self-discipline is needed in life, and make sure you do the universe a favor and remind others. As the great JIm Rohn says, "the same wind blows on us all; its not the wind, its the set of the sail."
With life, remember there is a lesson in any given moment~
written by Tiffany Wright