One habit I have when I write is to sometimes leave pieces incomplete. Of course this can be aligned with my tendency to be inconsistent and lose concentration, but the "Present" and "Nonjudgmental " Tiffany would say, when I'm moved to share, it happens accordingly. When a piece is ready, I know, and this one had to be revisited because of a conversation today.The first part of this post was written during a meditation challenge. The second part, was written today.
Part.1 (Written May 15) One major lesson I've learned recently is the act of forgiveness. Not forgiveness of others, but self-forgiveness. Yesterday I listened in on Speaker and Life Coach Lisa Nichol's call "Power Week and Beyond" and the call's topic was centered around the statement, " Living between no longer and not yet." Such a powerful statement. Between that, my Deepak Chopra 21 Day Mediation challenge about finding security, peace and happiness within, and coming across the quote pictured today, I have stepped into and received a COMPLETE shift in relation to myself.
I WAS one of those people who wouldn't need the critique of another because I handled it with the discipline of at least plus 3 on my own. In the past, when I've done something that I wasn't really confident in, and experienced discomfort during and after the situation, I would let time pass and build up around rationalizing the role I played in the situation. I would look at the black and white, and totally ignore the grey, my emotional reality. It served me to protect my identity, strength, and distance to that person and situation, but I learned over time that distancing yourself from a person or situation, doesn't take away the pain. It doesn't help you process, and it actually just feeds the beast of living in resistance. In the long run, it's harder to walk away from pain because its roots will find you, and some times lead you to regretting its source, but there's peace in coming to terms with it.
Love and pain drive you to grow as an individual. All opposing forces serve their purpose, for we would not be able to recognize, acknowledge or appreciate one without the other. To love yourself and others, allows you to live a life of freedom, gratitude, reciprocity, and abundance. To experience the pain from loss of love, whether in a relationship or physical, can bring about a different transformation. Often pain may occur, and we decide to not feel it. Its' only by means of the "what goes up, must come down" law, that no matter what we do to resist our emotions, they will emerge if we spent so much energy suppressing them. The reality is, you cannot escape the truth. Hurt, dishonesty, dysfunction, treachery, betrayal, disappointment, hopelessness, etc.... All the feelings you felt in the moment of a situation, which you manage to expeditiously suppress, will eventually emerge. The reality is, we must live our truths, even if pain exists in them. When you can accept a situation, and process the source of your pain, you can find peace. In that peace you can walk with confidence, embracing every aspect of your journey. That's how you find peace in pain. It will be difficult, and may take time for you to realize how you played a role, how this pain is repeated throughout your life, how you were an unfortunate victim, or even that unwanted change is a part of life. In all of the pain, you become a stronger person. There is another brick added to the foundation of your being. When you can take a step back, and examine what you've been thru, and who you've become, you can selectively find pride and peace in who you are.
The benefit of finding peace in pain comes when you can touch another with your experience. We build strong connections when common experiences are shared between one another. For myself, I know sharing is a tried and true purpose-driven gift. There is something powerful about sharing a lesson and an overcome pain with another. It unlocks power and peace for both of us; knowing that we are not alone. I spoke with a friend, sister, and mentee today about my experience and journey of self love thru the body, sexuality, and sexual assault. She had no idea about my experiences, and began to cry because they paralleled her own experiences. I recently came to peace with how my experience of sexual assault, and early understandings the power of y body and sexuality affected relationships and my choices or lack thereof due to fear and vulnerability. Finding peace in that pain allowed me to touch another life, and expand a layer of being, thus expanding my mindfulness around my purpose on this Earth.
Take a step back, and examine what you've been thru, and who you've become, you can selectively find pride and peace in who you are. Think, reflect and write on pains that have been unresolved. Learn to find peace, and radiate to the level that you should be resonating on.