What happens when you ascribe value to your life and BEing according ro what you have?
Well, in the event you lose anything that you feel added to your value, you just might feel your value decreases and you may begin to have issues with self worth.
Let me tell you what I know to be real about self worth. Its a concept that is elusive like any other idea, but it is purely determined by you. No one can determine your self worth and nothing can increase or decrease your self worth without your permission. You can choose to accept or reject any ideas about what you deserve to your liking.
For some time, I dealth with issues around self worth. With the upmost transparency, I share this because, even as someone who understands and dedicates her life to embracing and teaching self love, I too have my own journey and ita just as complexed as anyone else's. See I prided myself on completed goals and financial stability. At 24 I felt very secure in the path I was on. I felt secure in all that I had and never ever considered that circumstances would change. At 25 I began having some internal shifts and by 26 my life was completely different than any vision in my mind. At 25 I lost my job and began wellness coaching. I was doing well until more major shifts. During my 26th year I managed end a 2.5 year relationship, spend half the year in a major depressive state, lose most of my wellness clientele due to my lack of focus, centeredness and enthusiasm in life, give up my car and apartment, and experience personal debt because of little money flow and poor judgements from my relationship. At 27, even though I was/am walking in my purpose, I HAD (up until recently) really diminished my own worth. I can count the ways, but mainly not feeling worthy of a romantic relationship because of my own financial situation. Also, not feeling confident in general because of what I didn't have.
I mean it was the darndest dissonance. Loving so many aspects of myself and life, but feeling completely uncomfortable about others. For me, walking in faith amd walking through fear while upping my acts of self love such as giving more and focusing on all the great things I am, was my focus to create a shift in 2015. My oh my, it has worked.
Why do I share this? I attached worth literally to finance and materials...that is not worth. Physical currency has nothing to do with the energetic currency your BEing can use in this world. It took loss and a MAJOR shift in a humbling position for me to get to a point to connect to my best authentic, genuine, whole, and valuable self.
It took extra effort of me looking to see how others treated me, and viewing myself through the eyes of others. BEing surrojnded and interracting with people that loved on me, whether I knew them or not, revealed a lot. Realizing anything in life can be gained or lost, should be all the more reason that one connects to their BEing, being the only constant in an ever changing world.
Your worth is not defined by what you wear, who you hang around, who you date, where you live, or even how much money you have. Consider what your purpose is? How much of yourself do you give and share with others? Consider what people have been impacted by you? What have you contributed to the world? How do you love on others?
Your worth is the value of your being.
By: Tiffany W.