The only thing constant in life is change. Which means that relationships change. Feelings change. Opportunities change. What may be considered change, may also be seen as lost; and naturally when the feeling of lost occurs, the brain delivers messages to the body which many times creates physical cases of pain. The result may be stomach pain, headaches, increased pains in your joints, or built up tensions in your neck and back. Lost, or change, can truly be devastating for some. One of the most common pains come from breakups.
One thing I've noticed, is that between the holidays, the new year and ironically before Valentine's Day, there's an increase in breakups. Whether you're with someone for a 3 months or 5 years, if you are truly connected to someone, it could be difficult to go through a separation. Understand that life is a journey, not a destination. Just keep going, and understand that every stop in your journey, serves a purpose. Being one that has been in long term relationships, I understand the concept of emotional investment in an opportunity.
The side effects are common: stress eating, isolation, self blame, hurt, disappointment, and maybe even confusion. As common and strong as these feelings can be, connect to the strength you have in you to choose to be happy at any moment of your life. No one can make you feel a certain way, and your brain and body have natural responses, but it is our will to to prolong these reactions.
Some Great Tips for Getting Through A Breakup
1. Surround yourself with lots of laughter. Laughter is truly the best form of medicine for a broken heart or spirit. Listen to, watch, and read things that not only make you smile, but crack up laughing! Laughing therapy is a new form of treatment and it really works because of the neuro-chemical signals that laughing sends!
2. Write down major lessons and reflect. The greatest result of a closed relationship is the person you choose to become from it. In life we should always be progressing. Whether it ended on a positive or negative note, it ended for a reason which means you learned at least 1 lesson, about yourself, and relationships. Write and reflect.
3. Become more social than normal. If your breakup pulls you towards a depressive state, make sure to intentionally surround yourself with positive, happy, and supportive people. Not saying others need to know your business, but just make sure your around people that love you, and of course make you laugh
4. Know the world is not over. With nearly 7 billion people in this world, and you having power over emotions and the qualities of a partner you want to possess, I guarantee that if you want to be in another relationship in the future, you will be.
To those dealing, don't wallow in pain too long! You have too much life to live! Look at yourself in the mirror and say, "I love me enough to live a great life!" Keep going, You got it!
Written By: Tiffany Wright