How to Be Good to yourself

Being good to oneself seems to be a huge challenge for some and for others not so much; how does one achieve this task? Thankfully Tiffany Wright taught me the importance of personal development; I can’t stress enough the value of YOU and being good to YOU. By all means I am not perfect, but I wanted to share with you a few tips on how to really be good to yourself. These tips I learned through my own self discovery. 


It is very imperative that we understand the way we move and operate as humans. We also need to recognize our importance not by our passions but through our innate gifts, which the creator above was happy to provide for us all. When I mention the process of being good to oneself; it is not intended to come from a selfish place. Albeit being selfish is not a severe concept. Being good to oneself also does not mean accommodating ones ego, by showering yourself with material possessions, just to receive validation from certain people that you don’t necessarily know or enjoy being around either. In 2014 we all need to make changes in our lives, including myself. These changes should allow us to learn more about what we are and who we are, and how we can also stop making excuses for not holding ourselves accountable for our own missions in life. Let’s start today, together!

 Let Go!   This might be challenging for some. We all are guilty of holding onto painful experiences that have damaged us internally. Sometimes we think “Why did this happen to me.” Or “How could they do such a thing.” We don’t always understand the complexities of it all; I’m not sure if GOD wanted us to fully understand it either. I’m almost certain that there is a lesson in every story. Instead of harboring over the painful experience, really dig deep and understand the lesson. Let go of the pain and embrace the lesson. Ask yourself what shall I learn from this story and how can I affect someone else’s life by sharing it. Learn how to be vulnerable and let go. Forgive yourself first and forgive the other party second. Share your lesson!  

 Know who you are   Please understand that YOU are meant to have a very blissful life. Really get in touch with the essence of you. How others treat you, is really a reflection of how you view yourself.  Never let anyone be dishonest with you and you should in return always speak truth, and stand firm in it. I am guilty of keeping people around, due to my own insecurities. If someone is hurting you; acknowledge it and provide them with gentle warnings. If they are not considering your feelings, kindly show them the exit door. Never be afraid of losing people, especially if you do not share the same light as them. The universe will bring to you another kindred spirit. Be honest with yourself and understand the concept of who you are. Please take heed to your wants and needs. Be good to you!

Watch what drains your energy   We all know about people drainers; they can clog you up with their problems and or their mistakes. You might be a great counselor but you have to stop and think of how others problems, might subconsciously be affecting your life. Be very watchful of this. Understand your limits; what you will accept in your life and also what you will not. Protect the energy that you have, by being a human Drano. Remove the toxic waste of others energy that’s keeping you clogged up mentally, spiritually and physically. Be a great friend and lover by taking care of you first! You are the most important thing; let’s all embrace this notion. 

 Nature is calling YOU   There is nothing more exciting to me than embracing what the universe has available for me; right outside my front door. Ahhhhhh! I can smell nature right now.  You can heal your mind and soul by going outside for some fresh air, or by letting your beautiful melanin skin vibe to the golden sun. This is the perfect anecdote to cure all spiritual wounds. Please stop and realize that there is gratitude in life. Be thankful everyday that you are living and breathing; really pay close attention to universal messages around you. Messages are being presented to us every day; please detach YOU from your I-phone and androids to help you with awareness. We have become robots to society. Some things are really simple, just pay attention! Enjoy the human experience and enjoy nature.

 Be alone    Some of us are afraid of being by ourselves. There is nothing wrong with hanging out with just you. As a matter of fact it’s the coolest thing ever. If you can’t tolerate being by yourself for one day, then Houston we have a serious problem! Just think of all of the things you cannot tolerate about you and correct them. GOD is so good. He brings individuals in our lives for many reasons. If the qualities presented to you are negative, then gracefully take it into consideration and learn the lesson. Each person presents to us a true reflection of which we really are. This also goes back to universal messages. Don’t be angry with the individual; simply take heed and apply the lesson to your current situation. Through alone time, you can properly evaluate yourself fairly. Be alone and still; don’t harbor hatred. Keep it simple and learn!

BE Good~

Written By: Rena Renee

Rena is an artist and photographer in Los Angeles, California! She loves looking for all things that inspire. Check out her page of photography www.renareneephoto.com