Women begin dreaming about their big day as little girls. Planning extravagance and preparing for one of the most special days of their life.
There are approximately 2.5 million weddings a year. Everyday someone gets married. The wedding industry is a 30 billion dollar industry.
In the US we are used to witnessing the announcements of celebrities nuptials. This was no different when this weekend, pictures of the style icon, DJ, and artist, Solange Knowles emerged. Something was a bit different though...people went crazy over the pics, in an awe-inspiring way.
The photos were symbolic of so much, but in an effortless manner, Solange was the embodiment of beauty and the value of simplicity. There was no large wedding, over the top location or dress. Everything was simple. She wore a beautiful customized pants jump suit with a cape. All of her wedding party wore simple white dresses of their choosing. Her and her husband departed the scene on two white bikes. Simple.
The classic simplicity is what really has people buzzing about the event, but even more so, it’s a reminder, you don’t always need “more”, “bigger” or “better.”
It’s in the pursuit of appeasing our ego that we often lose sight of what values and people in life matter most. Applying matters of simplicity to all areas of life can contribute to balance.
Pressure is great. Wanting more, keeps you moving and growing. Desiring to obtain as much as you can get is proof that abundance is always available. Yet in all those desires and environments that may exists, they don’t make up for the intangibles like emptiness, loneliness, love, joy, and health.
Anyone that follows Solange, knows she's an earthy, simple, and au naturale woman. She is truly an ambassador of self love because she often talks about people learning to become comfortable in their own skin, embracing their individuality, and living a life of passion. Values that are simple and lead to so much gratitude.
So next time, when you feel discontent, truly consider your blessings. Take time to consider the difference between things you really want vs. need. When it comes to bigger, better, or more, could you be simple and still be satisfied? Consider, what would really make you joyful? Not artificially happy, but joyful from your core.
Written by: Tiffany Wright
There is a lot going on in the world and the media is having a great August so far. Story after story about international combat, death and violence; national story after story about police brutality, suicide, violence, and racial discrimination. These stories are powerful and the words used to report tell as much of a story, as the commentary the public has about them. Todays edition of "What We Can Learn From Wednesday" is dedicated to power of story telling! There's too much going on, that I don't feel justice is singling out one event or person.
One of the major premises of BE! lies in the power of story telling. Sharing of your mind and spirit to others or even back to yourself in reflection is powerful. Life is defined my transformation. To have life means that one organism is birthed, serves a greater function, duplicates, and passes along. From the amoeba, to the rose, to the elephant, to the human. We have the elaborate gift of communication, higher thought, and extravagant invention and innovation.
We as humans depend on one another for everything. Food, labor, and most importantly love. The lives we live are never just for ourselves. No matter how selfish or introverted one may be, we are connected and of course we get to choose how to embrace those connections. Story telling is truly utilizing the power of words to connect us to one another; to connect the past to the present and the present to the future. There are power in your words, no matter what others say.
There's many idioms that seek to play down the power of words.
" Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me."
"Actions speak louder than words."
"Talk is cheap."
" Its not what you say, its what you do."
With anything in life, its just not that black and white. Those statements are not only inaccurate but absolutely contextual. It depends on the culture, the person, and the context of the situation. Words are powerful. Words create wars, fights, relationship conflict, job terminations, and total shifts in people's self esteem.
Why am I bringing up all of this? Well I've had an overcharge of words since the weekend, which is partly why I hadn't wrote a post. There are so many stories currently circulating about death, hate, depression, rape, abuse, and violence! International, national and local news, everywhere, and it's become a little overwhelming. It's overwhelming because the words used to describe the incidents are so pensive; the stories told along with such incidents, spirit arousing. There power in words.
Make sure you understand the power of your words. The power of life's story. Do you share to heal and help, or hurt and spread hate? Do you know that your story, any story, of your life can change someone's life? There's so many stories I remeber from childhood that my elder family members , family friends or whomever else would probably never remeber sharing with me. There's power in words.
Because humans respond to matters of sex, violence and negativity, our society is really good about promoting anything along those lines. It gets people going. Likewise, social media perpetuates those storylines as well, but what if more people just shared themselves? Shared their true lives? Decided to be transparent every now and again, o how this world would change. It's began to happen with transparent figures like bloggers, vloggers, instagram, twitter, and facebook superstars!
The power of our words and stories can transform the world. It's been done time and time again. Words can bring about revolutions, healing, deliverance, joy and so much more.
When you speak, consider your words. When you want to speak about someone, consider your words. When you entertain someone speaking negatively about another, consider the words they're speaking. When you overcome or go thru a trialing period, consider the worss you can share.
Written by: Tiffany Wright
Today young spirit bird, Willow Smith, released a song entitled 8. The song, title making reference to her numerology Life Path number, explores the importance of identity, security and confidence. It's a rather interesting topic to be sung by a 13 year old because most teens and even those "adults" up to their mid-twenties are more concerned with abiding by societal expectations rather than living as individuals.
When most songs nowadays are talking about bottles, twerkin, poppin, flippin, partying and living a careless yet "wealth inflated" lives, she's singing about one thinking twice before creating images on social media that are not indicative of your true lives; letting go of obsessions over materials things and learning the importance of understanding the truths of life.
I find the song to be potentially transformational for many. Whereas most entertainers feed the idea of projecting false images, this will hopefully plant a seed of enlightenment for those who listen to the song and grow to love it. A mental renewal is so necessary in our society. People are spending money to create images of themselves that do not exists. Women and men alike are investing in cosmetic surgery to satisfy ideas of perfection, when in actuality no matter how high or low your confidence is, your spirit is dead and you will continue to live a life of dissatisfaction.
Living your life for the mere attention of or pleasure of others leads to a lonely life. People will be attached to an image of you that does not exists, and this can in turn truly cause loneliness because you will get to a point of frustration when you cannot be yourself. Living a life to strive for perfection for the mere satisfaction of others is the antithesis of self love. Enjoy life. It's okay to love fashion, music, and the YOLO mentality, but the only truth that matters is that, which is reflected in your mind during silent times, when no is around; when silence forces you to reflect and answer to yourself.
True happiness and satisfaction starts with you; loving you and knowing you. Whether on social media or in real life, when you find yourself having second thoughts about just being authentic, ignore it. Just BE You. At the end of the day, there's power in who you are.
Written by: Tiffany W.