How powerful are these words?
Has this happened for you?
Have you had shifts when you truly learned to embrace yourself?
Is this something you're still working on?

This is the exact space that I am in right now. I've been on this intentional self love journey for nearly 3 years and I can say that I truly feel powerful. I feel powerful finally being in a space where I authentically see and acknowledge the beauty within and around me. My relationship with God is deepest its ever been and I've connected to the divine spirit within me. I am so sure as to who I am, who I am not, what I want, what I need, what my purpose is, and most importantly, I am comfortable showing up as my authentic self without worrying how it will be perceived.

It took time and a lot of work to get here, but I believe it's worth the work. There is an Alicia Keys song that I believe completely embodies this powerful quotation.

"Brand New Me"

"It's been a while
I'm not who I was before
You look surprised
Your words don't burn me anymore
Been meanin' to tell ya
But I guess it's clear to see
Don't be mad
It's just a brand new kinda me
Can't be bad
I found a brand new kinda free

Careful with your ego
He's the one that we should blame
Had to grab my heart back
God knows something had to change
I thought that you'd be happy
I found the one thing I need
Why you mad?
It's just a brand new kinda me

It took a long, long time to get here
It took a brave, brave girl to try
It took one too many excuses, one too many lies
Don't be surprised, don't be surprised

 If I talk a little louder
If I walk a little taller
If I speak up when you're wrong
If I walk a little taller
I've been under you too long
If you notice that I'm different
Don't take it personally
Don't be mad
It's just a brand new kinda me

Ooh, it took a long, long road to get here
It took a brave, brave girl to try
I've taken one too many excuses, one too many lies
Don't be surprised, oh, said, you look surprised

Hey, if you were a friend
You'd wanna get to know me again
If you were worth the while
You'd be happy to see me smile
I'm not expecting sorry
I'm too busy finding myself
I got this
I found me, I found me, yeah

I don't need your opinion
I'm not waiting for your "OK"
I'll never be perfect,
But at least now I'm brave
I know my heart is open
I can finally breathe
Don't be mad
It's just a brand new kinda free
That ain't bad
I found a brand new kinda me
Don't be mad"


The miracle is in your power. The miracle is in your confidence. The miracle is in your love.
Get back to yourself, and let the miracles flow

BE You~
By: Tiffany W.

Happy Monday BEautiful Beings!

This weekend an amazing life teacher, spiritual leader and author ascended above. The remarkable Dr. Wayne Dyer was a leader in transformation and teaching the world about inner peace, love, and mindfulness.

It's amazing that while living we are either striving to be our greatest selves, living in the monotony of everyday, or doing something in between. The only thing that matters when we're gone is the legacy we leave and how others remember us. While present, being the best you can be to yourself and others, is what builds your legacy. Not everyone will be a world renown life teacher, but you are the world to someone. You matter to someone. The people you interact with everyday or even passing, they matter.

This week, consider, what type of impact am I making? What type of legacy can I leave behind?

May you be encouraged by some of the following words from the late Dr. Wayne Dyer.

"I'm so excited!"

"You got this"

"Yes! It's almost over. Wait...not yet? Omg that was only the half point!"

" I want this to be over!"

"Ugh why'd I do this"

" I am more than a conqueror. I can do this. I trained for this. Just think how good Boiling Crab is going to taste."

" My hip...my knee.  I want to stop."

" Yessssss! I did it! Whoa! That was good!"

These are the incremental thoughts and sentiments I had last Saturday when I ran my first 15k Double Road Race. It's a new style of racing that provides an extra challenge for runners because you're essentially running 2 events in 1 day; a 10k=6.2 miles and then a 5k=3.1 which are separated by a mandatory recovery period.

The challenge comes during the second leg, after the recovery because your body has been resting and really believes its done with gruesome long distance running. To its suprise, you have to get back up and finish out the race. Now, I've been preparing for the race for about 6 weeks,  but there's nothing like race day. New environment,  different altitude, the distraction of hundreds of other people around you. It was challenging but so enlightening. Not only was I proud,  but I placed 4th in my age division. Beyond the metal, there was so much gratitude for the journey getting to the finish line.

Physical fitness is more than an important activity for health and aesthetics (if thats your focus). It is the most simple test of mental strength. You get to see what type of person you are when things get tough, when you want to quit or when you're finding it difficult to just to keep moving.

How you speak to yourself really determines your beliefs, your faith and how healthy your relationship with yourself is. Do you speak words of encouragement and affirmation?  Do you speak words of defeat? Do you focus on the unknown fearing for or worrying about the worse?

How do you love on yourself in the quiet, lonely amd intimate moments with yourself? Are you gentle? Do you speak power into yourself like you would do another?

Tuesday is deemable as #transformationtuesday across social networks,  so today I ask, how can your mind be transformed? How can your relationship with yourself be transformed?

Despite the fact that my race was challenging,  I would absolutely do it again! There were so many times I wanted to walk but I chose not to. Even if I slowed my pace, I was not going to quit. I was so proud of myself,  I decided I would run a half marathon in November.

"The true measure of a (wo) man is not where (s) he stands in times of comfort and convenience but where (s) he stands at times of challenge controversy"- MLK

Stand strong. Do something that takes you out of your comfort zone. Whether big or small, physical or not, test yourself!

BE Strong. BE Transformed~
By: Tiffany W.

Newness brings excitement!  Newness can also bring discomfort, especially if something is so new, it's out of your comfort zone. But that's ok, we're all about transforming and growing so we have to learn to be ok with discomfort.

Think about when you were in middle or high school.  You had 1 pair shoes you may have loved but at some point they started to get uncomfortable. They started to get tighter and maybe rub against your toes or the back of your heal. Your feet were growing and the effects were uncomfortable until you acknowledged,  ok it's time for new shoes, I can't fit these anymore.

Well it's the same with our mindsets and behaviors. We are so attached to our current ways but maybe some person, some transition, some situation, or literally time causes a shift in change, growth, and transformation.  We must give up some old ways to make room for a better life.

We are creatures of habit, so change can be not only difficult but resisted. Sometimes we say we want change but because we only know our current realities, we don't know what it actually takes to change or get the outcome we desire.

Some people want a lean, sculpted body but most have no idea of the mental discipline it takes to follow a strict nutrition and fitness regiment.  Some people want to be wealthy, but they too have no idea what level of discipline it takes to build wealth. To get from Point A to Point C, there will be change and it will be uncomfortable.

Newness can mean lots of new disciplines: Long hours, saying no to what you don't need, saying yes to what you do need, changing how you think, changing what you believe,  or even changing who you hang around.

It's a new week, and in celebration of newness, I challenge you to think about how you can grow. What new perspectives can you take on? What new habits can you begin to form to become a new and better you?

Could you improve at work? In your romantic relationship?  In your interpersonal relationships? In your relationship with your self?

BE Open to a new perspective.  Newness births greatness. Newness births expansion and elevation. Newness stimulates you. Newness connects you to a new world, a new way of living and even new people.

BE Open~
By: Tiffany W.

Happy Monday BEautiful BEing!

If you're reading this, not only have you've been blessed with another beautiful day to BE love, give love and receive love but you're blessed with the capacity to see and pay forward today's post!

I just wanted to share some soul filled reminders of how to fill yourself up today and keep yourself filled up so you can live a love and purpose driven life!

1. State your gratitude. Whether in the morning, before bed or throughout the day, consider at least 10 things, people, or opportunities you're grateful for. Gratitude is an expression of positive emotion and a foundation of an abundant life. When you're focused on what you're grateful for, there's not much room for complaint. Don't want to go to work this morning? Be grateful you have a job and an opportunity to skillfully contribute to the world!

2. Check in with a positive message or look at positive content. Messages like, " You're Awesome," " Today I choose joy," etc. are great mesaages to inhale. The more you fill your mind and spirit up with positive words, the more positive thoughts and behaviors you'll have, thus creating a life that you can appreciate more. Listen to a motivational message on YouTube (there's thousands maybe millions of them). Listen to positive upbeat music.

3. Before you speak,  THINK! Look below.

4. Smile as much as possible.  It will keep you in a better move and increase your energy.

5. Get up and move every hour! Stay active to keep your blood flow healthy, keep your energy up, and keep your metabolism active.

6. Give Love. Dish out compliments,  smiles, random acts of kindness, and positive affirmations to folks.

7. BE You. Situations and people will lead you to question yourself and may even lead to feel ashamed or uncomfortable, but no matter what, just be you. BE mindful of where you can grow and improve,  but stay in a place of Honoring Yourself!

BE Love~
By: Tiffany W.

There's a whole lot that in occurs in our lives everyday. We`ve all had situations and circumstances that could have derailed our lives. We've been through major transitions that have brought about feelings of ambiguity, joy, sadness, excitement, and even disappointment. Despite all that, one thing that remains constant, is that change occurs, and we are present for it all. So when we can choose to respond and sit in feelings such as anger, sadness, doubt, distrust, or discontent, we can powerfully choose to live life staying full of love and hope.

What does that look like?

Well that is you staying in the moment and being still in the moment while choosing to balance not only your expectations but also how you choose to honor your self, mind, body,spirit, and stay in a place of forgiveness; you know, abiding by the 5 commandments of self love. See, love really has the power to transform life and all that you choose to see.

Think about it. If you've ever been in love or have known someone who's been in love, you know everything experienced is different. Love has an effect on how you smile, interact with others, and even what you truth you decide to see in life. Well, romantic love isn't the only love with life-changing impact. So is self love, and just a centrally spirited sense of love in general.

While others around you choose to worry about being good enough, the evils of the world, the amount of wealth accumulation they have (or for most of us, the amount of debt), and why it's a good reason to not trust others or believe there is even good left in this world, you can choose a different perspective. You can choose love and hope.

Yes there are inequalities, dangers, hurtful people, and many barriers that exist in the midst of a possible great life, but at the end of the day your attitude is the determining factor. Consider the perspective that there is a life of abundance, a life if love, a life of possibilities, a life in which you can make a difference, a life that you're worthy of attaining or at least going after.

Cutting your self off to the possibilities of life is not one reflective of choosing to honor your self, mind, body,or spirit. Self love is more intricate in living a great life than most people consider. So today, this week, every day and every week, work on choosing to  activate a feeling, perspective and walk of love and hope. I guarantee life will not only feel better but it will be better.

BE Love~
By: Tiffany W.

Far too often women tear eachother. Whether in silence, in private or to our girlfriends, why must women be so catty??

Why is she wearing that?
What does she have on?
I can't take her man
He'd be happier with me, anyway
Oh she hasn't seen nothing yet
Who does she think she is!
She's too skinny
She's too big
She's to muscular and manly
She's Basic
She's a hoe/slut/thot/whore/Bitch...etc.
She slept her way to success
I can do better than her...

You get the point right?

Truth Moment: Every woman has a story. We all have something (s) that others can point fingers at and judge us about...but that doesn't improve anyone's life in the long run!

The special caveat about self love and love in general is, its incomplete if you can't share it with others. Learn what it means to a reflect a sense of pride,  esteem and love upon other people. Learning to accept, support and empower others, but especially women is so important.

Just think how you'd feel with no encouragement?

No one wants to feel alone. No one wants to feel belittled. No one wants to be stabbed in the back or ridiculed.

Its ok to be inspired by other women, but there's never a need to compete. There's enough men, money, other women if thats what you prefer, clothes, style,  air and opportunities for us to all share.

In honor of Women's History Month I ask that you go out of your way to empower another woman. Whether by compliment, business support, cross promotion,  making amends or even liking/reposting a positive post, support another woman. We can get so much farther when we uplift one another.

If you don't know what to say, then feel free to repost this. Maybe it will inspire some women to be a little more positive and uplifting this month.

BE United~
By: Tiffany W.

 Good words can open the heart, soothe the soul, heal a wound, ignite the mind, and excite your spirit. Here are some of my favorite quotes!

What are some of your favorite quotes? Respond below or share them with me via beyou@livethebelife.com. I'd love to post them in your honor!

BE Inspired~
By: Tiffany W.