Us women (in general) seem to be really keen on highlighting what we are unhappy with about ourselves and our lives. We love the drama that we create within ourselves that allows us to worship another woman's body, life, career, charisma, family or relationship.

In a world driven by digital snapshots and millions of videos daily, we (myself included) can get so caught up in the fantasy that perfection exists in someone's life, way beyond our own reach. The reality? It's BS!

There is actually perfection is imperfection.  Imperfection is the constant state (when compared to our fantasies) that we all are constantly in. Let's get comfortable with the word imperfection. Rationally, its the adjective that makes the most sense when we try to compare ourselves to or strive towards something that doesn't exist. The fantasy of perfection is merely a fantasy. If we compare ourselves to our fantasies, then we might as well accept that we are imperfect.

​You are perfect the way you are because perfection is an ideal. Perfection is a construct. You are human. You are the epitome of imperfection. In all your imperfection, I hope that you see your beauty, resilience and potential.

You're not small enough, thick, tall, short, dark, light, smart, expressive, creative, gentle, or  enterprising enough. You're striving to be who your idol is. Striving to be whoever your "#goals" SEEM to be. 

We must truly learn to embrace who we are and the paths we have walked. Every path is unique, and everyone carries the weight of their lives different.Do not rely on merely what you see, because as the saying goes, even salt looks like sugar from afar.

When you can learn to get up EVERYDAY and embrace who you are, you release the pressure of that you've put on yourself through these fantasies in your head.

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There is so much freedom in juts loving you, and being content with who you are until you become someone more dynamic.

You smile, cry, laugh, get scared, and have insecure moments. There's lessons you've learned and times in which you feel like you made a mistake. It's ok.

You can be confident, confused, and insecure at the same time. You can be helpful and inspiring to others, and have no clue what to do about your own relationships at times.

Who said you can shine light while you are in darkness? Who says, that you can't be a teacher, while you are learning? Who says you can't lead, while you are learning how to follow?

Life is not black and white. People are not black & white. No matter how much we want to put ourselves or others in about, people do not fit in boxes. One of my own personal mantras which is now a shirt reads " Enough. Now. Always. Forever." It's so crucial for us to walk in the freedom of knowing there is beauty in our imperfection. It is so crucial for us to embrace that we can be walking contradictions on a journey of continuous transformation.

BE You,

Tiffany W.

How powerful are these words?
Has this happened for you?
Have you had shifts when you truly learned to embrace yourself?
Is this something you're still working on?

This is the exact space that I am in right now. I've been on this intentional self love journey for nearly 3 years and I can say that I truly feel powerful. I feel powerful finally being in a space where I authentically see and acknowledge the beauty within and around me. My relationship with God is deepest its ever been and I've connected to the divine spirit within me. I am so sure as to who I am, who I am not, what I want, what I need, what my purpose is, and most importantly, I am comfortable showing up as my authentic self without worrying how it will be perceived.

It took time and a lot of work to get here, but I believe it's worth the work. There is an Alicia Keys song that I believe completely embodies this powerful quotation.

"Brand New Me"

"It's been a while
I'm not who I was before
You look surprised
Your words don't burn me anymore
Been meanin' to tell ya
But I guess it's clear to see
Don't be mad
It's just a brand new kinda me
Can't be bad
I found a brand new kinda free

Careful with your ego
He's the one that we should blame
Had to grab my heart back
God knows something had to change
I thought that you'd be happy
I found the one thing I need
Why you mad?
It's just a brand new kinda me

It took a long, long time to get here
It took a brave, brave girl to try
It took one too many excuses, one too many lies
Don't be surprised, don't be surprised

 If I talk a little louder
If I walk a little taller
If I speak up when you're wrong
If I walk a little taller
I've been under you too long
If you notice that I'm different
Don't take it personally
Don't be mad
It's just a brand new kinda me

Ooh, it took a long, long road to get here
It took a brave, brave girl to try
I've taken one too many excuses, one too many lies
Don't be surprised, oh, said, you look surprised

Hey, if you were a friend
You'd wanna get to know me again
If you were worth the while
You'd be happy to see me smile
I'm not expecting sorry
I'm too busy finding myself
I got this
I found me, I found me, yeah

I don't need your opinion
I'm not waiting for your "OK"
I'll never be perfect,
But at least now I'm brave
I know my heart is open
I can finally breathe
Don't be mad
It's just a brand new kinda free
That ain't bad
I found a brand new kinda me
Don't be mad"


The miracle is in your power. The miracle is in your confidence. The miracle is in your love.
Get back to yourself, and let the miracles flow

BE You~
By: Tiffany W.

Wounded woman.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
You say you feel broken,
But you did not break yourself.
It was your mother, your father, your family, the system, the lovers, the friends, the acquaintances.
The lies, abuse, neglect,  and sickness.
You took the brokenness and pursued what you thought was life but only seemed to be mirrors of your wounds.
Don't worry you can be healed if you want.
You can choose to be more, live more, and love more.
Brokenness is a state of mind. Its a state of helplessness that you do not have subscribe to.
I know sometimes you wonder, what's wrong with me?
Am I good enough?
Am I beautiful enough?
Am I smart enough?
I know sometimes you feel hopeless.
You see others smile and hope that your smile can be as genuine as theirs one day;
You see others in love, and you hope you can have a love as beautiful as that one day.
You see other women radiate, and hope that you could have that much confidence one day.
Sometimes you wish the cause of your pain didn't happen, but that is not self love.
That is not acceptance.
You must choose to evolve.
Own your hurt.
Honor your wounds.
Work towards healing and welcome with an open spirit, change, growth and transformation.
See seasons rotate, and caterpillars turn into butterflies, snakes shed their skins,  and the leaves turn colors.
Look at your teachers...the creatures and life around you.
Look at the ocean, the moon and the sun. They love like you. They live like you. They are essential to the circle of life. They are one with you.
The moon spends most of its monthly parts in pieces but what everyone remembers is her fullness.
Her wholeness shines bright and illuminates the last. Ever so often, her wholeness emits colors that the world is fascinated at and gathers to see.
You will change and one day youll feel whole and then go thru a process of evolution once again.
Despite your wounds, choose to love yourself through and through; as you do so, you teach those around you how to love you too.
You will see that the greatest love, is the love you have for yourself.
 
By: Tiffany W.