Happy  #selflovesunday BEautiful BEings! Its the day of spiritual revival and I myself and feeling renewed. Good things always happen to our souls on Sundays. Its the beginning of the week and I want to share something special with you.

Today I got the most empowering text from a good friend and sister like figure in my life. She said, "Have you been posting anything? the last post I could see is the Valentine's day one, I think something may be wrong with my browser. Let me know."

Do you know why that was empowering?  Because I wanted to quit blogging. I knew I wasn't going to quit but I considered,  what do I need to do differently to make an impact? I truly want to create content that the average gen y woman can relate to and to be honest when people don't comment,  like, repost or even acknowledge what you do, it's easy to think, well maybe it's not good. It's good enough for me because it's my truth, but I have to consider as to whether it resonates with others...

That text let me know,  that even if it's just 1 person, someone cares. 

I'm going to have a truth moment with you:

I have been frozen for literally 1 week. No writing (until last night). Little feeling. Little exposure.  Little interaction.  I've confined myself to my room for the most part. Laying in bed, praying, meditating and watching movies I've seen 100 plus times. As I've felt emotionally dead, mentally I've driven myself insane 100 plus times.

Feelings of failure,  despair, confusion,  dissapointment, and dare I say doubt. About what? The path I'm on. See, from a place of faith and spirituality, I can see the future, but the present leaves me in total confusion sometimes. One thing I know for sure is that when you get a vision from God several times in your life, that vision is showing you whats possible. I believe divine sight, inspiration and vision is real. Whatever God shows you,  will always take place. I've seen my life.  I've seen the impact, the joy, the love, the abundance,  the family, the philanthropy,  and the legacy.

The problem with having such clarity while being a typical millennial and someone with depression, is that I become an enemy of time. With visions and goals there comes action. With action, there's not only expected outcomes, but expected outcomes on my timeline. Certain times of the year falling on my face is no problem, I get that happens in life. Other times, the times in which I'm most prone to experiencing a depressive episode, my failed Great Expectations become a problem.

The reality that I know: Life is NEVER as bad as it SEEMS. If you can find gratitude in having shelter, food, health, clothing and love, you're doing better than about 2/3rds of the world. In the end, the world never really knows what might have been done (in light of failure) they just remember you're impact (whether negative or positive). The reality that my well self knows: I am enough.

Well reality has almost nothing to do with the mind of someone in a depressive state. A different darker dimmer reality exists. It's the one that says, " What I'm doing isn't working. I don't matter. No one pays attention to me. I want to give up." (If you believe "depression is a choice" or don't really understand it, I suggest you visit http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/depression/index.shtml).

I fall victim to my own great expectations.  No matter what I do or what I say, the judge in me can easily choose to nullify everything; every step, every effort and every piece of "success."

The truth is that true acceptance and perfect self love is hard for anyone. That's why its a journey of fascination for me. Not just on a personal level, but on a psychological level. In fields like Positive Psychology and Personality Psychology,  looking at all measures of self concept are the most compelling stories of human behavior. Self acceptance is hard for anyone, but especially those with the most critical, heart and mind.

Naturally, I'm critical and I overthink, but when you take account of my brain chemistry at times (the depression) I become anxious. I become obsessed. I become inundated with thoughts that counter what I KNOW to be my true being. My advantage: I'm extremely cognizant of the mental and at times spiritual battle going on inside of me, which is why I know what I need to do to recalibrate my internal state.

There is beauty in learning about yourself. There is beauty in accepting your own journey,  your own truths, your own limited limitations,  and the possibilities that exists. There is beauty in timing. There is beauty in special relationships. There is beauty in darkness. There is beauty in life.

Sometimes life gets hard and overwhelming but we must just pray and surrender, and continue to love on ourselves.

No matter what, I still chose to love on myself (even though my mind didn't connect to it) I worked out, prayed, meditated, burned my incense/sage, watched what would make me laugh, listened to my sermons and read uplifting messages.

I knew I'd come around. ..eventually.  Nothing lasts forever. Nothing . I'm glad to say I'm back.

Do you have a story of triumph? Would you like to share something from your own self love journey. I and the world want you to share your story. Please email beyou@livethebelife.com if you want to be featured as a guest blogger.

BE Encouraged~
By: Tiffany W.

I love Sundays! For me, I participate in faith filled worship everyday through song,  word and prayer, so Sundays are not set aside for just that purpose. Sundays represent rejuvenation and energy of spiritual reset that I feel all around me.

This year, I'm setting aside Sunday for you! Yes You! Any followers or supporters I have who want to share their stories,  send me a Selfie (with no makeup on), or who want to honor others in their lives.


#selflovesunday is all about sitting extra in that love, sharing, giving, ans reflecting the God and Divine within you.

So today,  partake in extra reflection.  Devote yourself to extra affirmation.  Honor thy self and honor the spirit.  Fill yourself up for the week. If your feeling bold, let me celebrate you!

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BE Love~
By:Tiffany W.

Can you believe this is the last Monday of 2014???? Wow. It's unbelievable that the older you get, the faster time seems to pass. I'm starting to think that may be because we begin to put limits on time itself. Its as if we create time within time. As a child, we play, we eat, we sleep and we wonder. We don't say, ok, I can play for 20 minutes each day until x. No. Often times we exceeded our play time and were firmly reminded by parents that play time is up.

This moment and each moment we receive are truly all we have. Yes we can plan, but all we really have is right now. Let the knowing of the now and it's infinite possibilities leading to every moment be reason enough for excitement!

Do you believe in what you've been committed to doing in your life? Your job, your career, your passion,  your family,  etc. When there is passion and faith in your life, your excitement is evident,  even in the smallest task.

You may not know exactly how the future will unfold,  but you can have excitement for the direction that you are heading in. Every obstacle is leading you to a greater you because each one is making you stronger. 

Every opportunity that looks like a no, is creating a path for a greater future because you are 1 step closer to a purposeful opportunity. Every severed relationship is teaching you the power of people, purpose and change. Every success shows you the possibility.  It all comes together and taking a step back, can definitely help put life into perspective especially if you're not "feeling" like being present to the possibilities.

Often times what we believe can trump what we feel and in certain aspects of life this can be beneficial;  let this time of reflection and preparation for the new year, be that time.

I wish you well in these last days of 2014 and pray that you will receive all the strength,  love, hope,  health, wisdom and encouragement you need to take you into 2015!

Let's live this life as best as we can!

BE Excited!

By: Tiffany Wright

Women begin dreaming about their big day as little girls. Planning extravagance and preparing for one of the most special days of their life.

There are approximately 2.5 million weddings a year. Everyday someone gets married. The wedding industry is a 30 billion dollar industry.

In the US we are used to witnessing the announcements of celebrities nuptials. This was no different when this weekend, pictures of the style icon, DJ, and artist, Solange Knowles emerged. Something was a bit different though...people went crazy over the pics, in an awe-inspiring way.

The photos were symbolic of so much, but in an effortless manner, Solange was the embodiment of beauty and the value of simplicity. There was no large wedding, over the top location or dress. Everything was simple. She wore a beautiful customized pants jump suit with a cape. All of her wedding party wore simple white dresses of their choosing. Her and her husband departed the scene on two white bikes. Simple.

The classic simplicity is what really has people buzzing about the event, but even more so, it’s a reminder, you don’t always need “more”, “bigger” or “better.”

It’s in the pursuit of appeasing our ego that we often lose sight of what values and people in life matter most. Applying matters of simplicity to all areas of life can contribute to balance.

Pressure is great. Wanting more, keeps you moving and growing. Desiring to obtain as much as you can get is proof that abundance is always available. Yet in all those desires and environments that may exists, they don’t make up for the intangibles like emptiness, loneliness, love, joy, and health.


Anyone that follows Solange, knows she's an earthy, simple, and au naturale woman. She is truly an ambassador of self love because she often talks about people learning to become comfortable in their own skin, embracing their individuality, and living a life of passion. Values that are simple and lead to so much gratitude.

So next time, when you feel discontent, truly consider your blessings. Take time to consider the difference between things you really want vs. need. When it comes to bigger, better, or more, could you be simple and still be satisfied? Consider, what would really make you joyful? Not artificially happy, but joyful from your core. 

BE Simple~
Written by: Tiffany Wright

Today I had an interesting conversation with a close loved one about self love. He asked me, so if you teach people self love, when did you learn that you didn't love yourself anymore? His question sparked a sense of curiosity within myself. When people who are not purposely pursuing a self love journey hear or see others speaking about it, do they feel that those journey walkers do not love themselves?

Well this post is centered around my response to his question. I cannot state a specific moment in which I can remember realizing that I didn't love myself because I do not think that was ever the case. There were absolutely moments in which I said, ok if I didn't feel as broken I wouldn't have done or allowed  XYZ, or if I was more secure or comfortable with myself I wouldn't have said, done or thought XYZ. There was never one event or time that I stopped loving myself. I feel we are too multifaceted for that to occur.

I do believe we may honor and accept one part of ourselves, while neglecting another. Self-love is not always a black and white concept. It's not that you have or don't have it. Sometimes its about to what degree it exists. Life is complex and so are human beings. You may honor your potential, dreams and desires by living a life of ambition, but despise looking at certain parts of your body. You may live a super fit and healthy lifestyle while speaking envy, negativity, and jealousy towards other beings everyday. You may honor your body, but there is something in your spirit that you don't honor, therefore you curse those around you. It can truly be that complex because we are literally on a journey.

I don't believe that there is a point in which you reach a supreme status of knowing. There's always more to love, more to heal, and more ways to grow.  Self Love is all about awareness and acceptance. See the value in learning is that you realize you don't know what you don't know until someone or something introduces the topic to you. Take self love for instance. People don't commonly use this phrase in their everyday  vernacular. Before your (and my) introduction to the word self love, you were familiar with it's manifestations: self esteem, confidence, healthy relationships, and maybe self worth. But it was only after realizing that self love is the umbrella in which all these concepts exist, that you can now take a step back and constantly evaluate whether you are operating out of self love.

Don't feel obligated to stating whether you love yourself. I think it might be a small fraction of people who  hate themselves and literally everything about their life. Their is also a small fraction of people who are not aware of how they think, act and feel. Just commit to working on your relationship with yourself everyday. Everyday looks different, and every day you might be grounded in a different truth, it's ok. Explore who you are and learn to love it.

BE Love~
Written by: Tiffany W.

Yesterday,the world lost a vessel of an angelic spirit by the name of Nelson Mandela. Mandela was an activist, justice maker, humanitarian and leader. He was the catalyst behind tending apartheid in South Africa , and he served 27 years total in prison for the fight against oppression in his country which he later served as President. He died at the age of 95, and this year had 2 movies released about his life. Since yesterday, I have been truly reflecting on his impact, and those of other great leaders and icons that have passed on since I have been alive, and one word comes to mind, gratitude. It is for certain that social problems such as poverty, the endless isms (racism, classism, sexism, etc.) war, capitalistic greed, and much more still exists, but I'm grateful. I am grateful for the amount of information and technology that is accessible for knowledge, personal growth, and economic opportunities. I am grateful for the legacy of great leaders to shed light on what selfless living looks like. Generation Y is truly one marked by entitlement. For the most part we watch, we sit, and we go after our winnings, but in the grander scheme of things, someone had to fight for us all to be as comfortable as we are. I for one am grateful. I have learned to find gratitude in the loss of a loved one, whether I know them or not. All of our lives represent a set of philosophies that give power to others. However that power looks, is only something we really realize after someone passes; We learn of  legacies based on the impact they had on lives. Mandela proudly spoke out against inequality, racisim, lack of education, and the greed of nations like the US. In all that he was, he was self love. He did not live his life to go down in history, he lived his life to change the future. How many of us let that become a driving force for our lives? To live a life for something greater than you, allows someone else to live in gratitude...can you believe that? Think of Icons lost in the last 2 years or so such as Nelson Mandela, Steve Jobs, Whitney Houston, or Michael Jackson. In some way or another, they all stood for a greater purpose of empowerment and life fulfillment. Because of their lives, they've affected billions of lives, dreams and passions. Yet imagine if they did not live their purpose; for that reason, our lives would be a little bit different...which is something to be grateful for. I believe when individuals bodies are put to rest, their spirit remains. Their spirit along with their legacy; whether its a global notable figure or a family member, finding a story in their legacy makes us all a little more grateful. We say things like, "I'm grateful I woke up this morning! or Grateful for having health." Whatever it is, stay grateful and in the midst of your gratitude think about what actions could you take EVERYDAY to impact another life? How can you love harder? better? more authentically? Think about how your actions will affect your legacy, and how might it impact another's gratitude? Think about, what are you grateful for? What privileges exist in your life that you take for granted?

In your reflection, think upon some of Mandela's most notable quotes:

“I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.” --Long Walk to Freedom: The Autobiography of Nelson Mandela

“A leader. . .is like a shepherd. He stays behind the flock, letting the most nimble go out ahead, whereupon the others follow, not realizing that all along they are being directed from behind.” --Long Walk to Freedom: The Autobiography of Nelson Mandela


“The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”


“Difficulties break some men but make others. No axe is sharp enough to cut the soul of a sinner who keeps on trying, one armed with the hope that he will rise even in the end.” --From a letter to Winnie Mandela, 1975

BE Grateful~
Written By: Tiffany Wright

The holidays bring up so many great topics to discuss. Folktales, health, religion, family, materialism, capitalism, and gratitude. On the day of Black Friday, I am inspired to write about our attachment to things and expectations. A life chasing things and expectations does not leave one fulfilled. So while you're shopping in store and online, just keep some things in mind.  Do not get attach to things, for they are only the outcome of a desired experience. Staying focused on things only provides temporary satisfaction, but offers little if any fulfillment. Beyond the holidays, take this notion to your life, as I will my own. Things come and go. As we've seen through the natural disasters that have happened way too frequently in the 10-15 years, people lose their homes and belongings all the time. People have things, and want more things. Things could be material possessions, or even titles. Some people want a degree, a promotion, a relationship, a family. There's nothing wrong with these desires but what is your attachment to them. What is the "why" behind them? What do they represent? What is the desired experience and journey. around obtaining these things? Looking beyond the thing itself, offers one to live through intention as oppose to expectation. With expectation, there's a focused goal, or outcome; when even accomplished or received does not offer contentment in an individual. No appreciation. Think of times when you wanted something, and then you thought, ok whats next? no time to reflect on the joy of attaining that thing; no gratitude expressed for the journey to get there. You got it, and wanted something next.  Moving from expectation, to intention, allows one to be open to all experiences along the way. For example, many women want to get married and have children, but how many think about the experience? Not just having a family because that's what they saw in movies or were told to do, or even because they're lonely. how many set an intention of creating beings that will massively contribute to the greatness of society? or be the counterpart to a partner that will change was companionship looks like? Or for a degree, I can think of so many individuals who just got one to get one; or for better pay and not only hate their career field but didn't really care for the experience while attaining it.
When we see our lives through our hearts, from an intention setting place, we are more aligned with our God like selves. God already has abundance at our finger tips, but the ultimate goal in life is to love, teach, preach and heal. As a result, those "things" will come. 
Its the fact of staying in gratitude, and happiness will come. When you are grateful for all you have, and each experience in your life, your spirit is at ease, and you as an individual are happy. When you are happy, you are positive, and greater things tend to happen for you. Now just because you live in gratitude does not mean you will have all those riches in the world, for there are individuals in societies that do not focus on materialism and wealth as our western society does, but the point is that when you stay in intention, in gratitude, and are not focused on the "thing", the expectation, your life feels and looks completely different. 
Go through the goals you have, write them down. look at them, and beside each, write how you want to fee, or what you want to experience in their attainment. Also think about why they would be important to you? Whether its a partner, a flat screen tv, new car, or new promotion, when we are driven by "why"s as opposed to "whats" we experience life on another level. We are able to sit in gratitude, and be happier people, which in the end, increases our quality of life!

BE Intentional~
BE Unattached~
BE Free~
BE Grateful~

Written by: Tiffany Wright

Anyone out there get caught up in the fantasies of their own perfect visions? Somehow you envision a day, a moment, an event, or an interaction to be a certain way, then life says, who do you think you are?

Some days can seem so heavenly and others, not so much. Some days you can seem so centered and other days, not so much. Somewhere in you lies the perfect storm of grace, peace, joy, love, rigidness, confusion, hurt and sorrow. Embrace it all. Just do and be your best at all times. Know that your best changes moment by moment and day by day. Even in the change, being blessed with centering thoughts or support systems who can lend words of encouragement, “It’s going to be ok,” “don’t worry” can make such a difference!

Every day and every moment looks different. Your mind, body and spirit are in a constant revolution. Some days feel better than others. Some days, YOU or I feel better than others. The day in and of itself  is perfect. It in itself, is not good or bad; how we perceive it, how we react in differing moments, how we take advantage of it, is what changes. Stepping away from judgement and allowing ourselves to just embrace it all is a rather empowering stance and mindset to be in.

Change is a part of life.

That reflection in itself gives proof to the fact that nothing will always be the same. You won’t always be happy or sad. You won’t always win or lose. You won’t always feel great or less than.  When you have challenging days or moments, consider what lessons you can pull from whatever is or is not going on.  You can also consider how any time that seems advantageous or even disadvantageous has some aspect in which you can express gratitude.

Next time you’re in a rut, make sure to practice deep breathing, express affirmations that brighten your day, meditate on the thought that everything works out for me, smile, and know that whatever is going on, in the grander scheme of life, is temporary.

Embracing whatever your being is going through, is honoring yourself. Implementing a practice to help you get and stay centered is honoring your mind and spirit. Stay focused on your Commandments of Self Love™.

Every day and every moment is new! Embrace it!

BE Open~
By: Tiffany W.