"I'm so excited!"
"You got this"
"Yes! It's almost over. Wait...not yet? Omg that was only the half point!"
" I want this to be over!"
"Ugh why'd I do this"
" I am more than a conqueror. I can do this. I trained for this. Just think how good Boiling Crab is going to taste."
" My hip...my knee. I want to stop."
" Yessssss! I did it! Whoa! That was good!"
These are the incremental thoughts and sentiments I had last Saturday when I ran my first 15k Double Road Race. It's a new style of racing that provides an extra challenge for runners because you're essentially running 2 events in 1 day; a 10k=6.2 miles and then a 5k=3.1 which are separated by a mandatory recovery period.
The challenge comes during the second leg, after the recovery because your body has been resting and really believes its done with gruesome long distance running. To its suprise, you have to get back up and finish out the race. Now, I've been preparing for the race for about 6 weeks, but there's nothing like race day. New environment, different altitude, the distraction of hundreds of other people around you. It was challenging but so enlightening. Not only was I proud, but I placed 4th in my age division. Beyond the metal, there was so much gratitude for the journey getting to the finish line.
Physical fitness is more than an important activity for health and aesthetics (if thats your focus). It is the most simple test of mental strength. You get to see what type of person you are when things get tough, when you want to quit or when you're finding it difficult to just to keep moving.
How you speak to yourself really determines your beliefs, your faith and how healthy your relationship with yourself is. Do you speak words of encouragement and affirmation? Do you speak words of defeat? Do you focus on the unknown fearing for or worrying about the worse?
How do you love on yourself in the quiet, lonely amd intimate moments with yourself? Are you gentle? Do you speak power into yourself like you would do another?
Tuesday is deemable as #transformationtuesday across social networks, so today I ask, how can your mind be transformed? How can your relationship with yourself be transformed?
Despite the fact that my race was challenging, I would absolutely do it again! There were so many times I wanted to walk but I chose not to. Even if I slowed my pace, I was not going to quit. I was so proud of myself, I decided I would run a half marathon in November.
"The true measure of a (wo) man is not where (s) he stands in times of comfort and convenience but where (s) he stands at times of challenge controversy"- MLK
Stand strong. Do something that takes you out of your comfort zone. Whether big or small, physical or not, test yourself!
BE Strong. BE Transformed~
By: Tiffany W.
You are a Spirit BEing. All the love, answers, and direction you need is INSIDE OF YOU. Looking for fulfillment thru others and thru things will not complete you.
As women, our strength is in our ability to love, nurture and connect. Far too often we're trying to love, nurture and connect to others, yet neglect ourselves. You are your first priority. No matter what you're life's obligations are, the center of your being must be put first.
As you understand the importance of mindfulness, trusting yourself, and being aligned, you'll see how important the 5 Commandments of Self Love are. ( Honor Thyself, Honor Thy Mind, Honor Thy Body, Honor Thy Spirit, and Forgiveness).
Remember that fear is natural but courage is a choice. Walk, run and live thru your fears because on the other side of fear is a life you deserved.
Afraid to use your voice? Do it. Afraid to say no and set boundaries? Oh please do it. Afraid to leave behind the people, environment or job that traps, starves, or diminishes you? Do it!
Happy Self Love Sunday BEautiful BEings!
Is there something you've been wanting to go after and try, but you just keep talking yourself out of it? You know deep down inside it's something you should be going after because there's a tug on your spirit. Well...just go. Just Do It! Even when you doubt yourself, when you feel afraid, and especially if you're uncomfortable. All it takes is one step, then another, and then another. Convincing yourself is 90% of the battle.
People who have a weak connection with their spiritual selves, and allow their minds impose too much on their lives, tend to live in confusion and are indecisive. Clarity occurs when you know how to silence your mind and allow your spirit to guide you.
" If you'll become a confident, decisive person, you'll accomplish a lot more with less effort."- Joyce Meyer
Look, this life is meant to be lived with you giving and receiving love, joy and abundance. You will get what you want when you learn to surrender and give away whatever you're supposed to give. We are all blessed with different talents, passions, purposes, and ideas, but unfortunately most of those blessings go to the grave. They never see the light of day because their vessels lived a life of fear and may have walked away from their purpose because of doubt, confusion or even past mistakes.
"If you feel that God is prompting you to give something away, help someone out, or make a change in your life, do it! Take some action and sow seeds of obedience."-Joyce Meyer
Guess what, everything doesn't work out how you want it to and even when you want it to because you as a person must be molded and formed to be the right person at the right time to be the poster child of that vision, purpose, passion or idea. Timing is everything, and even if what you want doesn't pan out when you want it to, keep going, everything will always work together.
I've never considered writing for a living and because of this blog not only do I have my first devotional book, but I'm working on second book now. Amazing things happen when you honor your spirit and walk in obedience. Choose faith over fear because there's an amazing life on the other side of what you can't see.
So today, I want you to look at your vision board, your list of goals, your journal or wherever you capture those dreams, goals, visions, etc. I want you to declare favor and ask your higher power to direct you in the way to share gift. What you seek is seeking you and it will find you if you stay open. Make steps this week towards what you want.
By: Tiffany W.
Blessed Monday BEautiful BEings!
Are you feeling refreshed from the weekend? It's a new week and new day!
Another opportunity to live fearlessly and go after life! Another opportunity to BE Fearless with life! BE Fearless in love, your pursuit of happiness, your connection to joy, your transformation, accomplishing goals and making dreams happen, and even in BEing you!
Yesterday I saw the movie, WILD, and wow, that movie sums up Fearlessness. Despite the fact that a woman who was overcoming drug and sex addiction, processing a recent divorce, and still mourning the loss of her mother, went on a 1,000mile hike on the Pacific Coast Trail and experienced generally nothing but physical pain, horrible hunger, and the resurfacing of traumatic memories, the movie was an ode to fearlessness and transformation.
When we step out on faith in any area of life and step into a realm in which we are uncomfortable, great things happen! Shifts happen. Risk and great returns occur, in the form of valuable lessons.
You may not always get the experience you expect from stepping out on Faith, but you will become a stronger and more positive person. For this fact, positivity is never something we can have too much of.
Fearlessness helps you see the silver lining in anything, and keeps you present. Depite the fact you may be nervous or fearful of an act, your spirit kind of says, hey im going to do this, hope for the best and will let it go. Which to me is much better than making up a thousand and ten reasons why something won't work, why you're not good enough, etc. Been there, done that, sheesh it's exhausting.
This year, I'm working through my own fears. Even though most of life I've been rather carefree and fearless, I realized that after experiencing a lot of loss and what I considered "failure" in my life in a small period of time, it unconsciously shook my spirit of courage and my sentiments of belief in myself. For that reason I decided my personal mantra for this year would be , Give It Up, Let It Go! Go after my blessings. Go after the visions God places in my spirit. Go after the things I have of fear of not accomplishing. No matter what I do, hoping for the best, having faith that divine order will take place, and just letting go.
So this week and beyond, I hope that you can live through an eye of faith. No act of faith is too small. No step towards fearlessness is too small. In conversations, approaching someone you don't know, submitting an application for something special, picking up a new hobby/interest, starting that side business, or whatever it is.
Think positive. Think Big. Have faith in the best outcome, whatever it may be. Be Fearless and live some life!
Written by: Tiffany W.
One of the greatest blocks that I'm learning to overcome is shame.
It feels good to be in a place to feel comfortable in yourself. Comfortable not having the answers most people expect. Comfortable with not knowing the future but staying in belief about the possibilities. Comfortable in knowing that I am doing my best despite what others may feel.
I think I got to a point of thinking, why take away my own joy in life and weigh myself in shame and guilt, when I can own my life, and float in the joy of just BEing?
I mean I used to feel shame for the smallest things. If I over committed to plans, I'd feel really guilty about telling certain parties, I'm not going to join you for x,y,z. Even if someone came over my place and I had dishes in the sink or they walked in my room which may have been unpresentable to them. If I didn't have money to put in a collection plate during offering at church. Heck, even if I realized that I totally forgot to call or text someone back in a "decent" window of time.
I'd feel shame if someone pointed out I was hypocritical about something. If I forgot to give someone a birthday card or call. If I didn't have money or take time to create a holiday gift. Even more, being 20 something with no job, little money, no car, and pretty much floating. But let me tell me you about the power of self love!
Haha...I let that mess go. I own my stuff. All of it. I accept everything in my journey, and when I "mess up" I admit it. When I'm wrong or have contradicted myself, I own it. If I do or live in some "unconventional" manner, I own that. Do you know what that feels like? It feels like freedom and obligation to only myself. I don't have children or a husband, so the only person that I'm accountable for is myself. Receiving insight of what others feel about the productivity of my life or even the alignment of my behavior no longer imposes guilt or shame on my spirit.
It is not to say I don't consider what others say, or how they react to me, but I've learned to truly embrace the 5 Commandments of Self Love, and that has allowed me to really just honor and accept myself. That is a feeling I wish more people, especially women could feel.
Women shame themselves about their bodies, their romantic choices, their sexuality, sexual or emotional traumas, eating sweets or unhealthy foods, not going going out, going out a lot, and not hitting goals "on time." Stop the shaming! Stop the guilt! I believe that when you are aligned in your mind, body, and spirit, and make decisions from a place of doing what you know is best at all times, you will be able to avoid shame and guilt. Especially for things you really didn't do.
Traditionally taboo topics such as sexual assault, rape, domestic violence, and even depression have received more of a platform because of stories that have circulated on social media in massive numbers. Understanding that no matter what struggles or traumas you experience, you are never alone or the only one experiencing them, is definitely a step towards self love and acceptance. You didn't ask to be assaulted. You didn't ask to be taking advantage of. You didn't ask to be drugged. You didn't ask to be abused mentally, emotionally, physically or financially. You didn't ask to experience feelings of hopelessness. Do not feel shame. Own your story, and maybe connect to a higher purpose, and share your story. Empower someone else. Connect to someone else.
Embrace your truth. Live in your truth. Share your truth. Heal from your truth.
Release shame and guilt. Stop wronging yourself. DO whats necessary to avoid those feelings, but if you walk into that territory, just own whatever you did or didn't do. Honor your self. Forgive yourself and forgive others.
By: Tiffany Wright.
Faith will take you farther than any skill or relationship can in this life. Those who truly have faith are risk takers. They take a chance and expect a completely positive outcome. Those who lack faith, expect the worst in people, places, and experiences. They are least likely to set big goals or even any goals, for fear of disappointment.
When it comes to self love, that includes believing that you deserve your best life. That is honoring yourself. Typically fear and doubt can get in the way of that. It robs you of great possibilities.Fear and doubt fuels the assumptions of failure you may have. It keeps you from pursuing relationships, dreams, and new experiences. Your outward source of faith (religion/a spiritual practice) can come from anywhere but your inner source of faith really begins with you. If you can have faith that something won't happen, you have the same ability to feel and believe otherwise
This week, catch yourself when you become aware of thoughts and feelings that diminish the possibility of your BEing and your life. Walk through fear, and live in faith! No matter how small or big your fair is, choose to BE Fearless and pursue something or someone out of comfort zone.
Written by: Tiffany W.