Hey Ladies! The timelines you have in your head about these "milestones" you must meet, are not real. I'd first like to bring to attention, the obsession with 30. You know what I'm talking about. 

For starters,  most of you want to be in your dream career, job, car, and/or living situation by 30. Yes, the idea of pure independence and social power as a woman definitely seems like the way to go. You possibly spend your 20s sacrificing your physical and mental health so you can satisfy your ego and obtain the "things" your heart desires. If you have all that, or are working on all that,  that's wonderful for you. It's great to have goals to work towards. It keeps life fascinating.  On the flipside, are you constantly comparing yourself to others if in fact you haven't acquired those "things" yet? Are you allowing those acquisitions define your value? Do you see yourself as less or more valuable without or with them, respectively?

Secondly,  are you feeling the pressure to be a global citizen?  According to MMGY Global, 6 in 10 millennials would rather spend money on experiences than on things. Translation,  we travel a lot! With hundreds of travel blogs, social media accounts deddicated to deals and photo sharing, one could feel the "pressure" to travel. Well, one could also feel that they have to get all the adventure out of them now, right now, this very moment, especially before 30 when life "begins. " Give me a break. I get your YOLO mentality,  and I understand you never know what the future holds,  but if other generations could survive putting off travel, you won't go off the deep end if you waited.

Hmmm, what do we have next? Ahhhh good ol marriage. Now this right here...this is the whole reason behind this post. Elite Daily posted an article this week, sharing that a 29 year old woman who had been in a 2 year relationship committed suicide because her 30th birthday was days away and she was not married nor with children. Her goal: have a family by 30. May her soul rest in peace. This right here calls for major conversation.  This story, plus that of women marrying themselves,  just tugs on my heart.

Life is not defined by you obtaining a husband (or wife). You are more than a BEing waiting for a ring and ceremony.  Yes, love enhances your life so much more. Yes, having a committed long term partner makes life a little sweeter, but life is so much more. Do you love yourself?  Like, reeeeeaaaallly love yourself? Do you give to others? Do you pour love in others? Have you connected to and began walking in your purpose?

Marriage is an institution of security,  moreso for the woman than man. A wife secures a man to bear children and obtain wealth. That's the history of it. Marriage until the late 19th century, has never really been about Love. Its been about security. The presence of motion pictures began to really idolicize notions of romance. Now today, partially thanks to companies like Disney and DeBeers, we are obsessed with romamce, rings, marriage (as an event more than a committment). Women in the US, used to get married in their teens because they had to. Now we have the power to choose because we don't need marriage for financial security. Dwell in that.  For the most part, your life in 2015 is marked by a sense of freedom. You don't live in 1920. Which also means you can speak up and become more involved in the process.

This married by 30 business can lead to diminished esteem, depression, anxiety, and desperation. First off, anyone can GET married but it's not just about getting married...its about staying married. Learn who you are. Find your purpose. Live your happy. Fall in love with you and you'll attract what you want, I'm so sure of it.

There is no rule as to when you "should" get married. It's a mental and social construction.  ITS NOT REAL! Come back to reality please. You're causing yourself unnecessary stress and pressure, and that is not healthy.

Ask yourself,  do you a wedding or a lifetime of commitment with someone? Do you realize that marriage is not just about having someone forever? Are you the person you need to be, to even be married? Are you selfless? a good communicator? aware of your faults? actively working on healing past hurts and trauma?  trusting? a committed person?

Hey woman, let that obsession go, whether you're 25 or 35. Live life and whatever you're searching for, will find you.

BE Unrestricted,
By: Tiffany W.


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Is there something you've been wanting to go after and try, but you just keep talking yourself out of it? You know deep down inside it's something you should be going after because there's a tug on your spirit. Well...just go. Just Do It! Even when you doubt yourself, when you feel afraid, and especially if you're uncomfortable. All it takes is one step, then another, and then another.  Convincing yourself is 90% of the battle.

People who have a weak connection with their spiritual selves, and allow their minds impose too much on their lives, tend to live in confusion and are indecisive.   Clarity occurs when you know how to silence  your mind and allow your spirit to guide you.

" If you'll become a confident, decisive person, you'll accomplish a lot more with less effort."- Joyce Meyer

Look, this life is meant to be lived with you giving and receiving love, joy and abundance.  You will get what you want when you learn to surrender and give away whatever you're supposed to give. We are all blessed with different talents, passions, purposes, and ideas, but unfortunately most of those blessings go to the grave. They never see the light of day because their vessels lived a life of fear and may have walked away from their purpose because of doubt, confusion or even past mistakes.

"If you feel that God is prompting you to give something away, help someone out, or make a change in your life, do it! Take some action and sow seeds of obedience."-Joyce Meyer

Guess what, everything doesn't work out how you want it to and even when you want it to because you as a person must be molded and formed to be the right person at the right time to be the poster child of that vision,  purpose,  passion or idea. Timing is everything,  and even if what you want doesn't pan out when you want it to, keep going, everything will always work together. 

I've never considered writing for a living and because of this blog not only do I have my first devotional book, but I'm working on second book now. Amazing things happen when you honor your spirit and walk in obedience. Choose faith over fear because there's an amazing life on the other side of what you can't see.

So today, I want you to look at your vision board, your list of goals, your journal or wherever you capture those dreams, goals, visions,  etc. I want you to declare favor and ask your higher power to direct you in the way to share gift. What you seek is seeking you and it will find you if you stay open. Make steps this week towards what you want.

BE Fulfilled~
By: Tiffany W.

You have a moral and spiritual obligation to share your gifts and walk in your purpose.  Like...it's a REEEAAAALLLY big deal.

Think about it. Have you ever watched an interview of your favorite entertainer, leader, motivational speaker, athlete or entrepreneur?  If so, do you notice when asked about how they got a point of notariety or even into their line of work, they often respond along the lines of " I'm not different than anyone else."

They are human but realise they found the answer to a common problem, fear and it's cousin, doubt. They realized that their great idea, vision, or passion really paved a road to understanding their purpose here on Earth. They tapped into it, developed it and shared with others. Now becaus3 they shared, you have someone to look up to and admire. What if they never shared?

It's not to say you have to or even need to be a well known person to make a difference with your gift,  passions, and purpose. You just have to BE You and share. Its imperative because
1. You never know who's life you can absolutely transform
2. You never know who will take away key memories of the realness of your work, speech, invention,  business,  story, etc.
3. The more you give, the more you receive
4. You will a sense of peace and joy like no other
5. The service we provide to others is the price we pay while occupying this planet
6. You, your vision,  your story, your experience,  your talent matters

So if you're keeping something inside of you, you should really work on letting it go. Creative talents, great ideas, a book, a movie, or any talent,  you HAVE to share,  enthusiasticslly, authentically,  and without expectation.

If you need any tips, feel free to email me beyou@livethebelife.com

BE You~
By: Tiffany W.

Blessed Monday BEautiful BEings!

Are you feeling refreshed from the weekend? It's a new week and new day!

Another opportunity to live fearlessly and go after life! Another opportunity to BE Fearless with life! BE Fearless in love, your pursuit of happiness,  your connection to joy, your transformation,  accomplishing goals and making dreams happen, and even in BEing you!

Yesterday I saw the movie, WILD, and wow, that movie sums up Fearlessness.  Despite the fact that a woman who was overcoming drug and sex addiction,  processing a recent divorce, and still mourning the loss of her mother,  went on a 1,000mile hike on the Pacific Coast Trail and experienced generally nothing but physical pain, horrible hunger, and the resurfacing of traumatic memories,  the movie was an ode to fearlessness and transformation. 

When we step out on faith in any area of life and step into a realm in which we are uncomfortable,  great things happen! Shifts happen. Risk and great returns occur, in the form of valuable lessons.

You may not always get the experience you expect from stepping out on Faith, but you will become a stronger and more positive person. For this fact, positivity is never something we can have too much of.

Fearlessness helps you see the silver lining in anything,  and keeps you present. Depite the fact you may be nervous or fearful of an act, your spirit kind of says, hey im going to do this, hope for the best and will let it go. Which to me is much better than making up a thousand and ten reasons why something won't work, why you're not good enough, etc. Been there, done that, sheesh it's exhausting.

This year, I'm working through my own  fears. Even though most of life I've been rather carefree and fearless, I realized that after experiencing a lot of loss and what I considered "failure" in my life in a small period of time, it unconsciously shook my spirit of courage and my sentiments of belief in myself. For that reason I decided my personal mantra for this year would be , Give It Up, Let It Go! Go after my blessings. Go after the visions God places in my spirit.  Go after the things I have of fear of not accomplishing. No matter what I do, hoping for the best, having faith that divine order will take place, and just letting go.

So this week and beyond, I hope that you can live through an eye of faith.  No act of faith is too small. No step towards fearlessness is too small. In conversations,  approaching someone you don't know, submitting an application for something special, picking up a new hobby/interest,  starting that side business, or whatever it is.

Think positive. Think Big. Have faith in the best outcome, whatever it may be. Be Fearless and live some life!

BE Fearless~
Written by: Tiffany W.

On our journey of life, we learn that there are infinite roads to travel. Every choice we make absolute impacts are lives. Even the choice to not make a choice strongly impacts our lives. The moment you step out the house; the time at which you call someone back; whether or not you decide to give a friend or stranger a gift. For every action there's a reaction. In the stream of this ocean of decision, are the decisions that we do not make. Whether out of doubt, fear, discomfort, lack of confidence. These are the decisions that lead to the unfortunate world of shoulda, coulda, wouldas, or furthermore regrets. What would've happened if I did this differently? or went after that dream? or tried a little harder? or had that conversation. Its a powerful state to be aware of the desires we have in our hearts and to act on them, so that we do not live life full of regrets. Now of course, hindsight is 20/20 and we can always look back and think what if because at every moment the assignment is really to do your best. Do your best and live your best life in whatever way that means to you. Often times "Life" gets in the way; you know bills, family support, pride of maintaining  (not) relationships, and just doing what has to be done. When we think of this, then it even becomes, how do you find the balance? I realize that what feels like harmony in my life, is different from your life and that is ok. This idea of "Balance" will never in fully exists, but one can be as conscious as always to prioritize what is important and maintain other compartments in your life that don't far too off of the shelf. Balance to me, is the handeling of life in a way in which I am growing yet at peace. I am pushing myself, and allowing my dreams to come true but also understanding the foundation of those dreams to be my spirituality and purpose; while understanding the why for dreams is to empower people and set up a more than comfortable current lifestyle for my family and build inter generational wealth. 
I pledge to not live with any regrets. This idea of regrets is why I founded the BE Experience. An idea, a vision, a passion that I have been sitting on since January 10, 2010 in New York City, while I was in grad school. It was finally the time to begin, so I wouldn't keep saying to my family and friends " I'm going to do so and so; I'm working on so and so."  I rather attempt a couple of times and feel I made my peace with a vision or dream, then to not. In my opinion, regrets happen when life is lived with extremes, and we ignore what seems to not fit for whatever reason. How do you live an unregrettable life? First start with your dreams and passions. Take 3 minutes in silence and write down all that you would do if money, time, age, family or any other boundaries you've given yourself, didn't exist. Secondly, what type of person do you want to be (or know you are and have been hiding). Take 1 minute and list those characteristics. Thirdly, take 2 mins, and think of the freedoms you desire: time, travel, adventures, etc. that you would act upon IF the limitations in your mind didn't exist. Step 4...start going after, and bringing into manifestation each and every one of those things. Why? If its in your heart, there is NO reason, that you should take it to the grave. Do you really want to know how to love an unregrettable life?
Today I read an amazing article entitled: Nurse Discusses 5 Regrets People Tell Her Before They Die
The Regrets are as follows:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. 
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

For the full article checkout the link : http://universityprimetime.com/school/unh/article/nurse-discusses-5-regrets-people-tell-her-before-they-die

Welcome to the BE Experience! I am so excited to begin the venture of a dream that has been in my spirit for over 3 years! It took time to get here, and I am open to the BE Experience leaving an impact on the hearts of young girls, women, and the world! As a first entry, i want to really talk about the power of your dreams and visualization. For me, I've been dreaming about BE! for some time. It was actually created in 2009 when I began my MSW program in NYC. I was in my room with a journal, and some creative spirit was upon me. That cold night God blessed me with a vision and vehicle to empower and inspire the world. Over the years i would write in my journal about where BE would go. What it would do, and the one day empire it would grow into. yet year and year, i told myself, I was not ready. 2 years ago I wrote in my journal that I had to start BE at 26!  Well I'm 26! The vision that God put in my heart was to grand to not taking action on! Because a dream without action is merely a hallucination, I told myself that this is the season that my vision would begin to impact the world! 

As someone who took some time to step out on faith and go after a hidden dream, I'm an expert in the area of excuses. I'm not ready; I'm not prepared enough; who's going to listen to me...and guess what? None of that matters because as a Health & Wellness coach, i get listened to everyday. As a friend, confidant, sister, daughter, niece, and cousin, people listen to me everyday! And I'm here to remind you, that people will listen to you! People are watching you! You are impacting someone's life! So no matter what you think about yourself, you are GREAT! and if you too have a vision in your heart, you rob this world if decide to not fulfill it! It does not matter what your circumstances look like. whether you want to walk away from everything or you want to start working on your dream around what you do, the time is ALWAYS NOW!

I will leave you with this astounding excerpt from Marianne Williamson's book, A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

BE Fearless~ Whats your BE?