It's OK to love or care for emotionally wounded people that does not mean you have to be in a relationship with them. Misery loves company, and emotionally bruised people tend to be in relationships with other bruised people. Most of us, if not all of us, have experienced hurt and trauma. That's a truth of life. As you get older, it's not about what has happened to you, it's about your awareness and consciousness about how you deal with, face, and allow your past to interact with your present. People who feel broken use phrases like, "You complete me." You need to be as whole as possible and complete yourself. Let your partner compliment or enhance your life, not complete it. In self love, we must honor our selves. We must honor and accept that past. We must forgive ourselves and those we felt have hurt us. We must also honor our minds, bodies, and spirits, and hold others to the same honor.
Those who live unknowingly bruised, do much damage to themselves and others. Whatever deficiencies we have, we tend to look for in others to make up for or even match. Too often women who are insecure look to partners that make them "feel" safe or wanted but happen to hurt them at the same time. The problem is you go after whatever you feel is equivalent to your worth and that's not necessarily what you actually deserve.
We've been that woman or know that woman who we has a great heart, best intentions, is sweet, goes out of her way for others, may have "things" together, but ends up with someone whose disrespectful, inattentive, or emotionally, mentally, financially or physically abusive. She or you stays, despite knowing that the situation isn't supporting her/your higher being.
What's going on? She/you have not done any or enough work on honoring the complete BEing that is alive, and in dishonoring yourself, you look for and attract someone in a similar state. You're bruised, so you're with (or that woman you know) someone that is bruised. There's something in that partner that seems like a glimmer of hope, but you just experience despair over and over again.
Ladies, honor your experiences and be truthful with the parts of you that need to be healed. When you heal, you strengthen, and when you strengthen you light up, and when you light up, you know the value of the treasure that is your BEing. When you know what your value is, you hold a standard up to those in your life to honor that value, no matter how high or low.
If you know someone is not with someone they deserve, help them see their worth. Just because someone is bruised doesn't mean they are "bad", they just need a little healing so they can be the healthy partner someone else deserves.
How will you help yourself or another heal?
Written by: Tiffany W.