This is the official day of gratitude!
Some people are gathering with family and friends over an abundance of food. Others are traveling the world. Others are getting ready for one of the biggest spending days of the year. Conversely, some are spending today in hospitals, on the streets, in shelters, or alone. No matter where or how today is being spent, make sure that gratitude is a part of it.
There's a golden rule across all notions of spirituality, faith, and human existence; the more you give, the more you get. Not only physically, but also in thanks. BEing mindful of and expressing gratitude for your blessings tends to increase all that you have and can be grateful for.
This is a perfect opportunity to uphold one of the 5 Commandments of Self LoveTM, Honor Your Self. Honor all that has brought you to the point of existence that is present today! Honor who you are and what you can share with the world. Honor all the great BEings in your life which has shaped you to be the strong, beautiful, and wiser BEing that you are!
BE Grateful. BE Thankful~
By: Tiffany Wright
What is the root of your love?
All that you know and define as love seems to be shaped by the types of relationships: parental and romantic.
The hurt, pain, dishonesty, betrayal, neglect, abandonment, or sheer disappointment. The beauty, joy, encouragement, butterflies, passion, nurturing, and warmth.
In exploring my own understanding of self love, I realized that so much that we do is shaped by our understanding of love in relation to our being. See, there are some life defining relationships which totally shape who you are in life and to yourself.
relationships can infuse confidence, compassion, sincerity, joy, hope, renewal and faith in your life. they can also, and for most not so well adjusted adults, leave a trail of fear, discomfort, low self esteem, and issues with trust and vulnerability.
There's no wonder why so many choices outside of our relationships reflect the insecure trail mix left behind by these relationships. Someone told you some things, attacked your character, seemingly took your power and it shaped not only how you perceive yourself, but also how you navigate this world.
How women are insecure of their body or features because a parent or mate ridiculed them? Dont have the confidence in their abilities because someone said youre not good enough or are meant to do something else? Are afraid to be in love because of past hurts? Distantly fall in last with sequel encounters because that's easier than trusting someone or they're so scarred from sexual assault or rape?
You understanding the root of YOUR love is essential to unlocking some unknown secrets in life. Because I don't know you, I don't know what that is. I do know that we all experience fear; often for different reasons, but it very well affects our lives in 1 or another.
Self love is the answer. It will help you face some truths, learn some accountability and practice acceptance.
Need somewhere to start? Purchase my new book, BE Love: Daily Intentions Guiding You to Self Love
By: Tiffany Wright
When I speak about self love, I never want anyone to assume that what you accept and honor in yourself, ends with you.
Because Love is an ideal that embodies and an array of spiritually and emotionally inclined qualities, it always begin with self but can be understood to be shared with others; Shared with others no matter sex, sexual orientation, faith, color, nationality or age. The critical point I want you to always understand is that the answer to the highest level of BEing is SELF LOVE. The best relationships, the best communication, the best self image, and the best life are all a reflection of how you choose to love your self.
When we have not completely accepted who we are or all that has occurred in our lives we live through fear, doubt, anger, hate, anger, guilt, and distrust. Living with those lenses affects the choices we make in ALL areas of life.
Why am I sharing this? Because the answer to a better world is love.
#TruthMoment- for most people who don't live life through an understanding of "awareness" and "mindfulness," the ego is in complete control of your thoughts and actions. A life governed by the ego is one in which judgement, wars, hate, massacres, inequality, self destruction, and self hate reign supreme.
Every time you've wanted to hurt another or wished hurt on to another was because of hurt that existed in you. Every time you judged another based off how they looked or things they've done was because you have challenges with acceptance. As a woman, you judge other women's "beauty" based off your own ideas of body image.
When love reigns supreme, acceptance is front forward.
How you view, treat and honor yourself effects everyone you interact with, thus effecting the world around you.
Happy Friday Beautiful Beings!
In times of reflection, I tend to shift and think about what and what has shaped me to become the person I am today. In moments of gratitude, I privately send light to the memories and teachings provided by experiential, observational, and studied knowledge. One advantage of formal education, is being overwhelmingly bombarded with names of individuals who've contributed to the field. In my studies of Psychology, one of favorite psychologists was Carl Jung, the "Father of Analytical Psychology." I can admit half the time, even though I enjoyed how different his perspectives were from Sigmund Freud, I wasn't too connected to some of his perspectives. Merely because my level of consciousness was no where near the level necessary for the comprehension of what he would say. But as I began my own journey of understanding, he would pop up everywhere!
Here are some of my favorite, simple yet inciteful sayings by Dr. Carl Jung
This doll is revolutionary. Why?
In my book, BE Love: Daily Intentions Guiding You to Self Love, I discuss the value and importance of Honoring Your Body. In reference to how we as women see our bodies, "too often, young girls become women who believe their beauty is identified through the perfection of anther woman in a magazine or on a TV screen. When women become ashamed of stretch marks, varicose veins, moles or any other natural impression, it's as if they are denying their life's journey. p. (14)
I was beyond ecstatic to come across an article in TIME today, discussing the release of this "New Normal Barbie" whose name is Lammily. She is created with the intention to show "what the Barbie would look like if she actually had the measurements of an average 19-year-old woman’s body (based on CDC data). And brown hair. (She also comes with a sticker extension pack, complete with cellulite, freckles and acne, but we’ll get to that later.)."
There is even an amazing video that shows young students' reactions to the doll.
I've read reactions on the doll and it's amazing how many millennials think its "stupid."
Awareness will change your world. People who are confident and conscious seem to forget what it was like to not be that way and question who they were. Or on the flip side, maybe they have no idea what its like to not be the most confident. Feelings of awkwardness and damaging body acceptance does not stop at 17. It continues way in to adulthood and can even become more damaging.
Women have to deal with images like the recent Kim Kardashian magazine cover. Ideas of perfection. Perfect hair; if its curly you want it straight and vice versa. The right touch of makeup. The most figure flattering outfits. Eyebrows. Nails. Waxing. Etc,etc.etc. Have a fit and toned body. Don't get too muscular because that's not feminine. Thick and big booties are in, squat or inject. Big is beautiful. Everything in between.
For someone, who is not grounded in their BEing, all these images and standards can be very overwhelming. The foundation of who you are begins at childhood. No matter how you choose to veer or transform, your childhood experiences shape who you are. This doll might not completely change how girls who become women view themselves, but I guarantee, it will make a difference.
The reality is, you are BEautiful. At minimum, make sure you are eating well and are physically active 3-4 times a week for at least 30 minutes, after that embrace nature, and let yourself BE! One step beyond yourself, make sure you take time to affirm a young girl, in your family or even the daughter of someone you know. Affirm her beyond what she looks like. Affirm her strength, character, intelligence, creativity, compassion, etc.
By: Tiffany Wright
People feel entitled to know you. It's an ego trip.
People's ego even emerges in how they relate to you. They want to feel in control of your persona and be able to feel like they " know" you, so if you do veer from some new way of being, they get to throw in the old you in your face to appease there own ego. Ooh, " I knew you haven't changed", I know you still want to do that." They can't let it go.
We are naturally creatures of habit and consequently, when people are used to your habits, they get to a level of comfort in which they assume your predictability. They assume they know what you're thinking and feeling. Some people even say to you, "I know you better than you know your self." Even if there was truth in the likelihood of them guessing your thought and behavior patterns in the past, what happens you begin to change?
People feel they are entitled to know you.
They project an idea, the previous idea of who you used to be. They don't acknowledge your transformations until much afterward. They try to push you to be who you were. No matter whether your changes seem positive or negative, it's challenging for those closest to you to acknowledge. Whether you used to seem rather gentle, and now speak up with harsh tongue. If you used to be really extroverted and hungry for attention, and now you lay low. Maybe you used to have an addictive habit and are on a road of recovery.
I discuss this often with people who are aware of how they are changing, and it's something I think of often.
People assume positive change means perfection. I've had people throw behaviors in my face and say, oh what about self love? It doesn't bother me because they're judgement has nothing to do with me. When I know a past Tiffany would have went off or interrupted someone and the present doesn't, that's proof enough. Or if I know I would've jumped to certain assumptions and judgements, and now I don't, I know that's growth. You know not to run a red light or to come to a complete stop at a sign, but guess what, you might bypass that rule if you feel like you're in a hurry or under certain conditions. Awareness does not lead to perfection.
It's easy to be judgmental. It's habit. I've had to let go of a lot of expectations and ideas I have of people all the time. It's a challenge. It's something I work on everyday, that's why I don't take it personal when others want to project their assumptions on me. But in all of our journeys we must be aware, speak up and apologize when we inaccurately project something on to someone else. Likewise, we don't have or need to feel obligated to correct one another for an incorrect projection.
People feel entitled to know you.
You don't ever need to justify or defend who you are, it takes too much energy. People don't like being wrong anyhow, it's displeasing to their ego. Just be confident in your transformation, who you are, and wherever you are on your journey.
People feel entitled to know you, but that has nothing to do with you or your reality. So continue to BE who you choose to BE.
By: Tiffany Wright
When you experience a lot of emotional and mental challenges early on in life, it’s sometimes difficult to believe that there will be a time in which happiness may take over your life. I know women (and men) who’ve been hurt so deeply by the time they are 25, they believe they will never get married or be in a great relationship. Some who feel so entrapped by their past, they find it very difficult to the light in their future.
I love having conversations with people who've seemed to have so many lives wrapped up in one. People who've lost love and were able to find it again. Who sacrifice for their lives for their children, and start anew once all their children are out the house. Even others, who've been able to advance in several career fields.
There is proof everyday around you that happiness is abundantly available. There is so much opportunity for greatness, impact, success and amazing experiences. Always know that as long as you have breath in your body, you have life right in your hands. In the name if self love, honor who you are and the deserving nature of your presence to feel love and joy while spreading love and joy. Disappointment happens. Loss happens. Heck life happens, and sometimes our "plans" are derailed," but never let such occurrences keep you completely away from living and being open to renewal.
Happiness is a choice. Joy is a concentrated way of life. Choose to always move beyond feelings of "blah", unworthiness, defeat, and doubt. You have choices. You always have choices, and the life you want to live is available.
How will you live today?
Written by: Tiffany W.
Women begin dreaming about their big day as little girls. Planning extravagance and preparing for one of the most special days of their life.
There are approximately 2.5 million weddings a year. Everyday someone gets married. The wedding industry is a 30 billion dollar industry.
In the US we are used to witnessing the announcements of celebrities nuptials. This was no different when this weekend, pictures of the style icon, DJ, and artist, Solange Knowles emerged. Something was a bit different though...people went crazy over the pics, in an awe-inspiring way.
The photos were symbolic of so much, but in an effortless manner, Solange was the embodiment of beauty and the value of simplicity. There was no large wedding, over the top location or dress. Everything was simple. She wore a beautiful customized pants jump suit with a cape. All of her wedding party wore simple white dresses of their choosing. Her and her husband departed the scene on two white bikes. Simple.
The classic simplicity is what really has people buzzing about the event, but even more so, it’s a reminder, you don’t always need “more”, “bigger” or “better.”
It’s in the pursuit of appeasing our ego that we often lose sight of what values and people in life matter most. Applying matters of simplicity to all areas of life can contribute to balance.
Pressure is great. Wanting more, keeps you moving and growing. Desiring to obtain as much as you can get is proof that abundance is always available. Yet in all those desires and environments that may exists, they don’t make up for the intangibles like emptiness, loneliness, love, joy, and health.
Anyone that follows Solange, knows she's an earthy, simple, and au naturale woman. She is truly an ambassador of self love because she often talks about people learning to become comfortable in their own skin, embracing their individuality, and living a life of passion. Values that are simple and lead to so much gratitude.
So next time, when you feel discontent, truly consider your blessings. Take time to consider the difference between things you really want vs. need. When it comes to bigger, better, or more, could you be simple and still be satisfied? Consider, what would really make you joyful? Not artificially happy, but joyful from your core.
Written by: Tiffany Wright
I love to wake up to thought of love, abundance and possibility in the morning. I don't always feel that poetic when I wake up, haha, but often I do. For me, it starts with whatever I do the night before. Not necessarily actions, but the thoughts and words I speak right before preparing for bed.
When I lay down to go to sleep, I often speak statements of gratitude, pray for people that come across my spirit, and set an intention to do something powerful and flow in some powerful potential the next day. When I do that, my spirit wakes up really revved up. I awake, restate my gratitude, go through my task list, set an intention for the day, and listen to my spiritual message. This is my routine for a powerful day, always.
The words you speak shape your world. The thoughts you think shape your world, therefore you want to select both as you do your wardrobe or favorite meal. When you select an intention, you lay a foundation for the possibility of experiences to have throughout the day.
This is what my new book, BE Love: Daily Intentions Guiding You to Self Love is all about , (which you can purchase at the top right of this page).
Learning to set powerful intentions that keep your mind, body and spirit aligned so you can be, see, think, feel, and receive the best everyday!
So today, try it! Set your thoughts higher. Set an intention. Share it below!
Written by: Tiffany W.
How in love with your body are you?
I don't mean "satisfied", I mean how deeply do you admire and love it?
One of my favorite commandments that I discuss in my new book, is Honor Thy Body! The body is really a physical manifestation of our BEings. It's a magical vessel that is used to carry out our purpose. It brings forth life and allows us to connect with others. Unfortunately for women, it is not as celebrated as it should be. All that you do to, put in, and believe about your body, matters.
Appreciating and honoring every crevice, curve, scar, skin impression, and wrinkle matter. Things will sag and stretch; it's a part of the process of living. Accept what you've been born with; the texture of your hair, the color of your skin, the size of your breast, the shape of your butt, the length of your body. You being dissatisfied with who you naturally are is not only dishonoring yourself, but also your parents. Regardless of how you may feel about them, they gave life to you.
See but loving your body isn't just about embracing how it looks. It's about respecting the essence of it as a temple. How do you take care of it? Do you keep up your hygiene? What do you put in it? Do you stay physically active so that it can perform at its best? Do you protect it in all realms o intimacy?
Your body is the temple for life. Honor that in every way possible. You are BEautiful. You are powerful! You are amazing!