One of my 5 Commandments of Self Love is Forgive Thyself. As we reflect in others, what is in ourselves, we must learn that forgiving ourselves means to also foegive others. See, forgiving yourself is one side of the coin, and forgiving others is another. I think this lesson has been one of major challenge in my life, and coincidentally in others. We are all doing our best, and some people's best, often includes hurt and selfishness. What parent, family member, lover, friend, or colleague have you had/ are you having trouble forgiving? It could just be one, but that one case could be blocking much from your life. Remember, you and that person are aligned. In a recent breakup, I learned that once I completely forgave myself, then I forgave my ex. When I thought, I just needed to forgive my ex....it doesn't work that way. Remember, energy is never destroyed, just transferred, so whatever you hold onto, whatever is actually end you, must be released.
Allowing the residue of bitterness, hurt, or dissapointment to remain in your life is like having a clogged sink. Even though water may flow correctly from time to time, at any point, water can rise and major damage can occur. At times, love and your spirit may be in flow, but some triggering event or thought can impact and cause total disarray in your being because you have unsettled issues.
Release what you need to, so you can have an open heart. We all make mistakes, constantly. People hurt people, people disappoint people, and people are selfish intentionally and unintentionally. You (&I) are never perfect enough to look down on or be unforgiving of another. In the wake of national and international news spotlighting wars, murders, domestic violence cases, and discrimination, emotions are high not only for those involved, but also spectators, and I say, be open and forgive.
See forgiveness isn't just an act that must occur because of what someone directly did to us. No no no, it's just not that simple. We are all connected, and everything that goes on around us affects how we feel and think. Therefore our interaction with the world, others and ourselves, are directly impacted by events outside of us.
So on all levels, learn to forgive. Learn to understand. Learn to dissect the source of pain and hurt. Learn to let go. Breathe in love, exhale peace and understanding. Let's just pray for each other's healing hearts and minds.
One of my 5 Commandments of Self Love is Forgive Thyself! Let's just sit for 2 minutes and think about all the decisions we've made that our ego has inflicted guilt or regret upon our spirits for. I'll wait.......................................................
Seriously. Some of our greatest lessons come with a period of, "ugh why did I do this/that?" "How did I let this/that happen?" It's normal and that's why hindsight is 20/20.
Whenever you make a decision, it's based off of the emotional and mental information you have available at that moment, and with each decision, you make the best choice possible. Of course for every decision, there an infinite amount of other decisions that could have also been imparted. The powerful tidbit is that no matter what your decision is, you will always learn a lesson. So love yourself hrough each decision, each choice, and each lesson.
Different seasons, different reasons. This is a short, sweet, and incomplete sentence that means so much. It's derivative is from the Bible in which we learn everything in life has a different season. Understand that everything serves a purpose no matter how short or long it's season was in your life. The challenge that most of us have is loving and trusting ourselves enough, to let go when it's time. Holding on to whats meant to be let go can absolutely stifle and interrupt the divine flow of your life.
Remember that everything you need comes from you; and things you WANT may enhance your Earthly experience but they are mere illusions of what love, happiness, and success look like. All of the greatest things that purely come from a place of joy, come from within you, and when you can be in joy and love no matter what, you automatically increase the abundance and beauty of life!
People and "things" will come and go. You are the center of your universe and kingdom. Loving the Queen (or King) in you is what matters above everything. Connecting to the pure essence of your being and all that you are blessed with will sure enough allow you to walk with the confidence in life to expect great things but not get attached to them. Expect greatness because you are greatness. Expect love because you are love! This journey takes work, but if you do the work, you will surely reap it's rewards. Release the joy within you BEautiful BEing.
You are uniquely, powerfully and beautifully you. No one can BE you. No one has your smile. No one has experienced your joy and pain. No one completely sees the world as you do. No one can do what you do, how you do, and how you're supposed to do it.
As Dr. Seuss says, "Today, you are you! That's truer than true! There is no one alive that you - er than You!
As a millenial, we have an insurmountable amount of information coming at us that could be catalyst to begin comparison. Social media allows to peek into people's lives. We're usually glancing at the super positive lifestyles of people who are fitness addicts, perfect bodies, happily married or in relationships, happily employed, successful materially, and world travelers. We see more and more young people with successful start-ups and successful six and seven figure earning online businesses. Whether you are a spectator or living that life, just keep staying focused on doing what you have you do.
Learn to honor your journey, perspective and voice, DAILY! Once this becomes a practice, the need to always entangle yourself in what others are doing will diminish. I ask that you don't only honor your true you thru acknowledgement, but use your journey to help others or contribute to a greater purpose. I know at times when I've had a wondering eye of comparison, me just giving of myself in that moment always seemed to attract a statement of gratitude from another, and in turn would re - boost my own confidence.
In general, people often want more than they have or something different, but just by walking in faith, learning to listen and trust your spirit, know that you will get to where you can go in life. When you catch yourself longing for what another has, whether it's their lifestyle, happiness, success, or relationship, give gratitude. When you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, and thinking about the "if's", give gratitude.
Speak life to yourself and repeat the following: I am grateful for the life I have lived and the path which I have travelled. Every part of me serves a greater purpose and I am thankful to recognize the power of my impact. I take joy in knowing that God designed only 1 me, and no one can do anything like I do. I love myself and honor that I will BE ME, BE Unique, BE Love, and BE Grateful.
Imagine that your spirit fills up a space that resembles an all white home. White rugs, walls, decor, furniture. All of a sudden, you allow people, dripped and drowned in mud, soot, and dirt to come in your home, sit on anything and wipe their hands on EVERYTHING! What happens? That space will get dirty, and may become difficult to clean. That's exactly what unhealthy and poisonous people do to you. Learn to create boundaries, and love people from afar. It may be difficult, but if you care about the home you dwell in, you will learn to take care of it, and keep the dirty one's out, until they decide to change how they enter your space.
Written by: Tiffany W.
Everything in your world begins with you. Love, friendship, joy, happiness, and success, all begins with you. From a child we are taught the importance of being respectful, honest, friendly, giving, helpful, and likeable in regards to others, but we don't really get exposed to the concept of all those actions beginning with us towards ourselves. Of course how you treat others is absolutely important, but how we treat others, reflects what is going on within ourselves.
One of the easiest things to overlook is how we treat ourselves. How do you speak to yourself? How do you acknowledge yourself when you do something well? Do you keep your environment in the same condition for yourself, as you would for others? Do you dress the same to impress yourself as you would for work, colleagues, special occasions, etc.? Do you try to impress yourself? Do you encourage yourself, just as much as others? Do you believe in yourself, as much as you believe in others? Are you as nice to yourself, as you are to others?
We must learn to be our own best advocates, friends and lovers! Seriously think about the questions I've asked. I know what my answers are to some of them, which is why learning to love myself is a daily effort. Now some people, choose to be unloving to themselves and others, and that pattern causes for deeper exploration, as their life may be marked with intense hurt and pain. For others, it just seems easier to be a bed of roses for others before ourselves. Especially as women, we have an innate disposition to be nurturers. Often nurturers sacrifice themselves, for the sake of their loved one. Fortunately we are in a time where we know that self care and self love enhance our overall wellness and human experience, and this is why I say to you, BE NICE to YOURSELF!
Learning to be your own #1, will keep your own love tank filled so that you can pour into others. This looks different for different people, and sometimes you have to learn what works for you. Whether it's writing daily affirmations for yourself, looking as yourself in the mirror or taking selfies to acknowledge your beauty, or even just giving yourself recognition throughout the day, practice being nice to yourself everyday. Practice spending alone time with yourself as often as possible. Take yourself out. Fall in love with yourself because we all deserve to be loved, and it begins with us.
Written by: Tiffany W.
Greetings BEautiful BEings! Last week I was on a brief vacation and really focusing on getting some magic together for BE! I will be self publishing my first book to help women everyone learn to love themselves better! Leading up to the release of BE Love: Daily Intentions Guiding You to Self Love, I will be sharing my thoughts on what self love is! Self Love is manifested in so many ways, and has so many levels. It's never a destination, but just one of our many paths on this journey of life and BEcoming. Get ready to expand and love on yourself, just a little bit more!
Written by:Tiffany W.
One of the most beautiful realizations in life, is that you don't have to live it alone. If you have an open mind and open heart, you GET to willfully allow others in your world and share life with other BEautiful BEings, whether they are family, friends, or lovers. Of course the reality is that humans are imperfect, and we will all experience our share of disappointment and wrongdoings imparted on us by others, but that is a part of life. Sometimes people use this reality as a reason to not be around people or make connections with others. I know holidays can go three ways for most people. There is excitement because you can spend the day(s) with some of your favorite people; there is slight solemn because you feel like you have no one, and will be alone; or there is stillness because you've decided it's a day off, and you choose to be to yourself, relax, catch up on movies, shows or reading.
Well today, I charge you to do something, that connects you with others. Regardless if you want to stay in, or if you feel alone, there are billions of people out here, spreading good love and energy. You yourself can spread good love and energy, and enhance this human experience. No matter what, we are all connected, and when we put ourselves in a position to laugh with, enjoy the company of, or encourage one another,it's a beautiful experience. Healthy human connection and interaction also enhances our lives! We are not meant to be lone creatures, and on holidays, there are people all around you who want to experience that joy, fun and laughter!
Think of at least one time when you were around one person or a group of people, and it just felt so fun! Your spirit was at ease, your energy was high, and your soul felt like it expanded! That is a BEautiful feeling! You may not remember everything about that day, but you definitely remember moments and how you felt because BEautiful experiences (and even not-so-beautiful experiences) leave those types of marks on us! Go ahead! Go out, have fun. Meet someone new. Give someone a compliment. Go laugh and spread your BEautiful spirit. We all need a little sample of it!
Written by: Tiffany W.