Joy is all around you, do you see it? Even on a beautiful Monday, it's here, but you have to open your eyes to it. There is beauty in you being able to read this right now. Sit, and really think. Think of all the times you cried or wanted to cry. Think of the lessons that hurt you to learn, but you willingly and confidently shared them with someone else. Think about that time where you just asked, why? Why me? Why now? Well, why not ? Are you so special that you should be exempt from living the human experience? Are you so special that you shouldn't actually feel loss or pain so that you can really appreciate abundance and joy? Think about how those times have changed; how beautiful, strong, and determined you are!
Joy. It's not the same as happiness. Happiness is a manifestation of joy, but joy comes from the inside. It's what happens in the midst of positive mental and spiritual alignment. It is the product of a silver lining acceptance of life and the moment you live in. It's a state of the upmost gratitude and content.
People are more concerned with appearing ok and happy rather than seeking authentic joy. It's understandable because we are humans and we feed off group behavior and logic. It's comfortable to appear a certain rather than face who you are or truly be yourself because of the fear of judgement. Well guess what? You kill your soul. Why allow yourself to be a caged bird? You have the power to radiate and be whoever and whatever you want, whether authentic or not. But authenticity and transparency is so empowering! It allows to reach a state of joy because you operate at a higher state of BEING with little to no resistance. You feel more comfortable and open up an opportunity for genuine connections.
You may not be a super bubbly, in your face kind of joyful type, and that's ok. But allow yourself to feel joy, no matter what day it is, and when you want to feel pain or sorrow, allow yourself to do that as well because no matter what, you can find joy in just living your truth. So today, I challenge you, be still. Think of a time in which you felt a massive amount of joy, connect to that, and think of all the greatness that exists in your life. No reflection of gratitude and thanks is too small.
Written by: Tiffany W.
In the beggining there was an obsession with perfection. Pain. Self Destruction. Hopelessness. Self Judgement. Not good enough. Not pretty enough. Not smart enough.
But now there is acceptance. Connection to being perfectly imperfect.Freedom. Connecting to my inner source. Confidence. Transformation. Forgiveness. Uniqueness. Self discovery. Purpose. Self Love.
These are some of the key phrases exchanged yesterday at The BE Experience: Love Uplifts Love. I can honestly say it was such a powerful, open and honest conversation. Here were 6 women from different backgrounds, all describing their journey's which were defined by so many similar emotions and feelings in the beginning. The 2 guests I personal invited, Arielle Caputo (www.deapinlove.com) and Dawn Dai (www.dawndaispeaks.com) could not have been more perfect. Arielle is a suicide prevention expert and really uses her personal experience and journey to help empower others. Dawn is a confident radiance of sunshine who is rooted in love and truly motivates others to go after their dreams and live their purpose. What these women, and the other attendees shared, re-affirmed the link of our human experience and existence and the journey of womanhood. We as women may face different challenges but we all have to face the stories we often tell ourselves about our worth, value, beauty, and abilities. Often these stories play out and our affected most by our romantic relationships. Few of us have the privilege of being rooted in having really healthy esteem or an accurately positive self image by way of our upbringing and early experiences. For those that do, bless your upbringing. There comes a time in a woman's life, or several points actually, in which you experience aha moments about your relationship with yourself. Who you want be. Who you want to represent. Most importantly, how you can authentically love your self with full acceptance and the boldness to live your own purpose driven life. Our journeys involve learning to forgive ourselves. Forgive ourselves for decisions we regret but learn there's no regret only lessons that may hurt and change the trajectories of our lives. We forgive ourselves of lies we tell ourselves about our beauty; about our skin not being flawless enough, being tall enough, not having the perfect butt or cup size, not having hair we love, not being light or dark enough, etc. Our journey is determined by getting to know ourselves and unlearn all the stories we've been told by others, whether in hurt or praise. Our journey becomes one of accepting that we are imperfect and it's ok. Learning to find out what we need to re-affirm our power and how to fill our own love tank up with gratitude.
Self Love is a journey, but not one you have to be on by yourself because if there's another woman in your life who is open to being her, and really learning what it means to live, you can be open about your journeys together. So often we think we have to experience certain aspects of life alone, and we don't. Even those who have the most self defeating and life threatening thoughts need someone. Not just a counselor, but someone who understands that the journey can be really challenging. There is no moment in which the journey will be complete. You will continually transform, and everyone won't be around to see it, and that's ok. I'm just overflowing with gratitude and can't wait for the BE message to continue to spread: Self love is the key to living a life worth living. Furthermore, it's not just about living a life for you, but learning to lift others up along the way. They say real recognizes real, well I say, Love Uplifts Love. Too many women compete with or get jealous of one another. Who cares about what she's wearing, how she speaks, how "relevant" she is, how beautiful she is, how awkward she is, how successful she is. The two things you should care about how you will support, empower and love that women and how you will do the same for yourself! Women can be so empowered when they choose the state of BEing that defines them. It takes knowing who you are and connecting with yourself by practicing self love to just BE and shine your light to the world.I choose to BE Love. What's Your BE?
Written by: Tiffany W.
Rejoice in how things are
How often do you rejoice in where you are? Yesterday I posted a video on my
The BE Life vlog (visit and subscribe ♥ ) on How to appreciate your Journey in Life. With any concept that's not really apart of your current state of BEing, it's easier said than done, but if its an age old philosophy of well being, there has to be some truth to it right? This morning was a meditation focused on the thought, I Am Content, Just As I Am.
The idea of contentment doesn't serve to override our desire for improvement, but its a matter of learning to BE Present, Still, and Joyful about your life at all times. There are so many messages of BEing More and Getting More, but these messengers rarely speak about being grateful for where you are. To always focus on the future and what you should be doing, what you should be having, how you should be living, etc. allows us, steals away the joy and happiness you can experience.Obsessing over anything that resembles worry, anxiety, control, or impatience, does not add joy to your life; more than anything, it robs you of life's beautiful moments, and increases your stress while potentially decreasing your health.
"Nature always moves to restore balance."- Deepak Chopra
No matter what happens in your life, a cycle of restoration will occur. What goes up will come down, and often go back up. If you are in a time where you feel stuck, remain grateful and in positive spirits; be open and your opportunity for abundance will present itself.
Heartbreaks are wack, but they happen and can fuel amazing growth and transformation in life. Dissapointment arises when you live in expectation, but peace can be present when you live from a place of openness and acceptance. This is not to say you have no standards, or you're not allowed to feel pain or hurt,
but how you survive or thrive in that post heartbreak time is determined by which space you operate out of; judgment or acceptance. As I often acknowledge, pieces of advice like this are definitely easier said than done, but its a sure enough process that you can go thru to help you heal.
Here are some tips I've found helpful:
1. Don't be angry
For whatever reason, you dodged a bullitt, and you are blessed to be separated with someone not aligned with you at the time. It's all about perspective. We are not all the same, so it's unfair to assume that others will always feel how we feel, think how we think, and act how we act. Try to accept the Heartbreaker's decision/ train of thought, and be mindful of what you will do differently in the future.
2. Hindsight is 20/20
Reframe from thoughts of regret. This can be a tough one. BELIEVE ME, I KNOW. Been there, done that, umm check please? We are the sum lf our actions and experiences, even the one 's diverged. Take the good of the sitiation with you in the future, and look at any possible lessons
3. Don't blast your business on social media
The easiest thing to do, is take advantage of social media and go on a venting rant. Don't be a she-woman manhater. If you want to write, get a journal or create a blank word document on your phone or computer. Unless your rallying up positive upliftment, or offering major epiphanies for others to connect to, keep it to yourself. It's necer necessary to defame anyone's character no matter what they do.
4. Allow yourself to feel
There are some people who feel everything, and because of some situations, can easily get caught in a downward spiral of blame, sadness, pity, regret, and depression. Others, may have a get-that-dirt-off your shoulders, nonchalant attitude and can move on from anything as if nothing happened. The goal is to allow yourself to be somewhere in between. Feel, reflect, and then move on. We are all human, and it's ok to feel hurt and pain from disappointing situations, but always remember the pain will only last as long as you give power to it. When you're ready to stand up, smile , and keep fiercely strutting, only then, will you begin healing.
5. Live Life.
It's easy to sit in, stay sad, eat everything in sight (or completely nothing if you're one of those types) because of such an event. But BEautiful, you're going to have to put effort in igniting your joy. Exercise, dancing, listening to uplifting music and watching comedies work for me, find what works for you. BE around loved ones, go explore your city; BE bold and take yourself on a date. Read a new book. Just make sure to keep going; not as a means to distract yourself, but as an act of self love, and knowing you deserve to keep living no matter what.
Everyone deals with life differently, but like I said, just deal with it. Choosing to deal with it, also means to reflect and grow, and that's the most important thing you can do. Secondly it's about finding the healthy place of taking responsibility vs. not blaming yourself. We don't ask for terrible things to happen, but consider if at any moment you saw signs? you ignored your intuition? you stayed longer than you needed to? you based your relationship on hope and potential vs. reality? you didn't feel like you could have anyone else? and maybe none of these come up, and you and your partner just wasn't working out anymore. No problem. Make sure to reflect and grow .
If you're not going through recent or prolonged heartbreak, make sure to that you be there for someone who is. Regardless if they don't want to talk to you, sometimes just knowing that someone is willing to comfort you, reminds you that you are loved and are special.
The best way to heal hurt, is with love. When someone is fueled or driven by love, their sense of joy radiates on high, and when joy is present, there is light in the world. BE love and give love. No one knows how you truly can be affected by heartbreak, nor do you
Written by: Tiffany W.
"They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for." -Tom Bodett
"When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy." -Rumi
"Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God." -Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
"Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are."-Marianne Williamson
"Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day." —Henri J.M. Nouwen
In honor of my meditation challenge, I'm emploring you to make this Monday magical, and live out your joy! Sing, jump, run, smile till your cheeks hurt, spin around, laugh until your tummy hurts, give out lots of love! It's a blessing to feel joy deep down in your spirit. It's a blessong because so many people are stuck in a mental and emotional space in which joy seems unknown and unfathomable to them. Joy is a beautiful state to be in. It opens the possibilities of life. It's an experience that connects to the place of peace and stillness within you. Sometimes it can be a calm and present joy, and other times you'll want to express it, but you may be to self conscious to do so. Why? You better be grateful for that joy and express it! It's transformative for you and those around you! Expressing your joy, is you expressing YOU! Why let society's idea of what decorum should look like affect how you express yourself?! I don't care how mature you are, what position you have in life, or what responsibilities you have. Let go and BE Joyful!
Releasing that energy connects you to your highest state, and the more you connect to it, the stronger and more positive your Earthly experience is! Struggle is a part of life, but we are not meant to operate out of struggle. Bear fruit of your blessed life because you are blessed. If you can read this you either have a smartphone, computer or a job to reading this from...hello, blessing! Express joy for that. Your joy may be for the smallest of gratitudes like having a bed, food, or health. Ultimate joys can come from having family, true friends, love, peace of mind and clarity. Express joy just because you are truly an amazing and beautiful person, and your light is what this world needs! Consider all the struggle, turmoil and unrest happening. These people need some joy! BE that agent.
Written by: Tiffany W.
Being in a state of constant gratitude, really changes how you view the world. When you can stay focused on yoir connection to the blessings and abundance you have, it leaves little to no room to think about what you WANT and don't have. Everyone looks to difference sources of their blessings. Some believe in ancestral spirits, deities over nature, one God, or themselves and their vibrations. Whatever your source is, we know that the more gratitude we give, the more blessings seem to flow.
I just wanted to give a brief testimony because for some reason my phone wouldn't allow me to post yesterday. Well, I went on a 3mi run at one of my local parks yesterday at about 8:45 am. I was finished at about 9:30, and when I returned to the car, the car key which was on a lanyard around my neck was gone! Now this was a big park. One lap around is about 1.5 miles, and I walked around the 4 times looking for the key. I was scanning left to right, on the pavement and especially in the grass. It was a bit overwhelming because I knew a child or dog could've snatched it up, but as I walked, I listend to my master Gospel praise playlist. As I walked, I sang, and declared over and over that something good would come out the situation. I thanked God that at least I was down the street from my home, I was safe, I was able bodied, and I had my phone. Of course there were a couple of times I thought, dang Tiffany , why!? Omg why did you have to run this morning? HaHa o yes, but then I would cast down that thought and continue praising. As I walked, I saw a park instructor, and told him about the key so he said he would ask around. For some reason yesterday seemed to be a day of reunions, birthdays, games, and football practices.
After 1.5 hours of searching, I decided to call auto locksmiths to see get quotes on what it would be to come out. Basically I got, $150-200+. Part of me was petrified because it just wasn't in the cards to be spending that much money on a key! Sheesh. I called my cousin to come get me so I could go home, charge my phone, and solidify a technician. Still praising by the way. I found one, and when I got to the car at 2:30 , my key was placed on the windshield! I started jumping up and down, and looked to the technician and said, " oooooh look at my God! He is sooooo good. Thank you Lord, oo yess thank you!Sorry I'll still give you your $15 for coming out. I'm thankful because is was going to be difficult to pay." He looked, laughed and responded, " I'm happy for you, do you want to get a spared made?" No thank you.
I was sooo beyond thankful and grateful, and staying a praising disposition mattered. When we go thru life, whether grand or small circumstances, BEing optimistic may take extra strength, but it's worth it. Singing and speaking positive words releases power which is returned in the form of a blessing. I know sometimes it's easier said then done, but it works. No circumstance is too big or small to give a testimony about, and no blessing in your life is too small to give thanks for!
Written by: Tiffany Wright
It's the beginning of a new week, and a great day to recenter, refocus, and realign yourself with the present, your purpose, and your degree of self love. Taking time to just be still, and reflect to move foreward is important to our state of wellness. When you have a typical week of work, Saturday of fun, and Sunday of sleep/do laundry all day, you live room for and transformation. Stress is one of the top 10 killers of Americans because it is a root cause for many major illnesses we face, but we can do something more preventive, we can love on ourselves. Research shows that people that practice some form of spirituality, tend to be higher on the happy index, and have lower levels of stress.
So whatever your spiritual practice is, take part in it today, and never forget to express gratitude for where you are and what you have. Connect to the present and declare the blessings you feel will manifest in your future. Send blessings and prayers to those around you.
Written by: Tiffany W.
This was the first week of
Deepak Chopra and Oprah's 21 Day Challenge focusing on happiness. It's my 5th challenge, and they always seem to come at the right time. Each day is a different focusing thought, and todays was, " I am Playful." Playfulness is so important to breaking free of the responsibility of an adult. Everyday, choosing to be silly, have fun, or tap into that childlike spirit that remains in all of us is one way to revitalize your spirit and increase your happiness.
It's so easy to get wrapped up in work and responsibilities, the seriousness of life and that which surrounds us, we simply forget to take time to laugh so hard we can't breathe! We forget what its like to dress up and impersonate a fantasy; to just let go and be the innocent open self we may have been as a child. Even if you were a quiet and introverted child, there was something that aroused your imagination, and took you to another level. Tap into that, as often as you can.
For me, I sometimes just dance and sing around my house, I still "play dress up", or even randomly walk around the house in heels like I'm in a runway show. Life can be serious on its own, but we should take time to just play and enjoy ourselves. Especially during a week like this. News being bombarded with human atrocities, the world needs more love, joy, happiness, and fun. If there was more, we wouldn't want to hurt eachother or even ourselves. So it starts with the woman in the mirror. How will you play today and spread that joy to someone else?
Have a fun playtime today and this weekend BEautiful BEing!
There is a lot going on in the world and the media is having a great August so far. Story after story about international combat, death and violence; national story after story about police brutality, suicide, violence, and racial discrimination. These stories are powerful and the words used to report tell as much of a story, as the commentary the public has about them. Todays edition of "What We Can Learn From Wednesday" is dedicated to power of story telling! There's too much going on, that I don't feel justice is singling out one event or person.
One of the major premises of BE! lies in the power of story telling. Sharing of your mind and spirit to others or even back to yourself in reflection is powerful. Life is defined my transformation. To have life means that one organism is birthed, serves a greater function, duplicates, and passes along. From the amoeba, to the rose, to the elephant, to the human. We have the elaborate gift of communication, higher thought, and extravagant invention and innovation.
We as humans depend on one another for everything. Food, labor, and most importantly love. The lives we live are never just for ourselves. No matter how selfish or introverted one may be, we are connected and of course we get to choose how to embrace those connections. Story telling is truly utilizing the power of words to connect us to one another; to connect the past to the present and the present to the future. There are power in your words, no matter what others say.
There's many idioms that seek to play down the power of words.
" Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me."
"Actions speak louder than words."
"Talk is cheap."
" Its not what you say, its what you do."
With anything in life, its just not that black and white. Those statements are not only inaccurate but absolutely contextual. It depends on the culture, the person, and the context of the situation. Words are powerful. Words create wars, fights, relationship conflict, job terminations, and total shifts in people's self esteem.
Why am I bringing up all of this? Well I've had an overcharge of words since the weekend, which is partly why I hadn't wrote a post. There are so many stories currently circulating about death, hate, depression, rape, abuse, and violence! International, national and local news, everywhere, and it's become a little overwhelming. It's overwhelming because the words used to describe the incidents are so pensive; the stories told along with such incidents, spirit arousing. There power in words.
Make sure you understand the power of your words. The power of life's story. Do you share to heal and help, or hurt and spread hate? Do you know that your story, any story, of your life can change someone's life? There's so many stories I remeber from childhood that my elder family members , family friends or whomever else would probably never remeber sharing with me. There's power in words.
Because humans respond to matters of sex, violence and negativity, our society is really good about promoting anything along those lines. It gets people going. Likewise, social media perpetuates those storylines as well, but what if more people just shared themselves? Shared their true lives? Decided to be transparent every now and again, o how this world would change. It's began to happen with transparent figures like bloggers, vloggers, instagram, twitter, and facebook superstars!
The power of our words and stories can transform the world. It's been done time and time again. Words can bring about revolutions, healing, deliverance, joy and so much more.
When you speak, consider your words. When you want to speak about someone, consider your words. When you entertain someone speaking negatively about another, consider the words they're speaking. When you overcome or go thru a trialing period, consider the worss you can share.
Written by: Tiffany Wright