Let's talk about mindfulness.
Have you ever heard of mindfulness?
Its a field of study and also a method of concentration that centered around in-the-moment and present awareness. Awareness of your body, of your surroundings, and even in your mind. The idea of mindfulness comes from Eastern cultures spread throughout Asia. Mindfulness is the ability to be presently aware with no focus on what you did or what you have to do.
It's not quite the same as meditating but very similar. You don't have to be in a quiet space to be mindful you just have to be present It's so beneficial because if you're a busy body like me, your mind can be constantly working at 100mph which can actually result in worry, stress, anxiety, and issues with concentration.
So what do you need to do to practice mindfulness?
For one, if you are standing or sitting, you can take a really deep breathe in for 10 seconds and release it slowly over 10 seconds. Secondly, let your eyes wonder until you become fixated on a point. When you do just stay fixed on it. Do this for about a minute.
If you are in a place where you feel comfortable closing your eyes, take another 10 second breathe and listen/connect to what going on in your body. Your pulse, your breathing, etc.
If you're just out and about, take a few deep breaths and focus on your body, focus on the moment. Say to yourself quietly, I am present.
Mindfulness is such a great practice because we are so used to living in the past or the future but rarely in the present. Additionally, we are constantly judging and labeling every emotion, experience, thought and circumstance within and around us. It causes to be prisoners of our own minds.
Mindfulness allows you to connect to the moment with a sense of freedom and peace. In that conversation or interaction in which someone said something triggering being present will allow you to regulate your emotions and response based on your awareness of the changes in your body.
Mindfulness serves a purpose of grounding one's mind and spirit. The world can be chaotic. Your mind can be chaotic. But mindfulness creates the stillness and gratitude you deserve to operate on a high frequency.
Make an effort to practice it today. Being still, quieting your mind, and noticing whats going on in and around you.
By: Tiffany W.
Do you ever feel like you've lost balance?
When you're able to connect to what works for you, you can easily take notice of when it seems like life is off balance.
In one of my favorite movies, Eat Pray Love, Julia Roberts character, Liz, goes on an international trip and internally revitalizing journey to obtain a sense of peace and clarity about herself and life. After a life fulfilling prophesy about her divorce and financial loss comes to pass, she leaves life in New York City to spend a year between Italy, India and Bali to reignite a passion for life and gain a sense of centeredness. On her travels, she grows to love a man at the end of her journey. This romance, as joyful and positive as it is, distracts her from her "self work". Her meditations, her reflections, and her writing. At one point she gets in an argument with her new mate because he wants to take her to a private island and spend time with her as an act of love. Even though she knows she loves him she can't get herself to say it, and she doesn't want to go away with him because she feels her fleeting and intense love has taken over her life and now she feels imbalanced. All that she did, she kind of let go for love.
What is it really? Can it really exist? Is it unattainable? How do you know if you have attained it?
As someone who's recently experienced a lot of transitions, at times, I've felt that I've lost my balance. But in reflection of being a recovering control freak, I realize life isn't about balance. Its about moderating all the moving pieces of life and keeping them in tuned with whatever serves your mind, body and spirit. Life is always going to be changing and we have to learn how to let some things in and let some things go while still staying connected to our higher selves.
Maintaining "balance" is a task but it's a task that takes a beautiful level of skill and discipline. The discipline in balance is really about doing what's best for your spirit because if you're serving the essence of your being, your mind, body and world will proactively respond.
How do you know if your "disconnected"?
Are you giving up your known creative expression? Are you having trouble sleeping? Are you having issues with your appetite? Are you losing or gaining unintentional weight without any difference in nutrition or exercise? The above questions are indicators of stress. Stress, even though is normal, is your body perceived reaction to a sense of imbalance.
Wherever you are, it's perfect. You always have the power to control your perception of life and even how you will respond to what life is handing to you. You are not a victim; you are a catalyst. There is a constant exchange in energy with the world around you. If there is something occurring in your life, the first step is to not complain and exclaim how overwhelmed you are, but to look within yourself and explore what energy have I been emitting? What thoughts have I not been careful in selecting? What can I do to improve my condition moving forward?
When you answer these questions, you can get to the root of any experience and empower yourself to take the necessary steps to realign yourself.
What do you do that helps you feel balanced?
It might be learning to say "No", walking away, spending time alone, organizing your time better, doing what bring you joy more often, writing, or even just taking some alone time.
Find and maintain your balance; it benefits you and the world!
By: Tiffany W.
Every now and again life lessons come rushing to mind, and its great to capture what has resonated with your spirit. Reflective moments can bring about a lot of clarity as to who you were, are and can be.
Here are some recent reflections that I wanted to share with you
- Our past shapes us but it does not define us. At any moment of awareness you have the choice to acknowledge and own who you arr. Each moment thereafter, you can choose to the degree at which you want to transform
-I have learned as an imperfect person with the best intentions, that those who deeply love you are the ones who truly stick around
- Be weary of gaging your growth based on the responses of people who knew your old self. They have more difficulty seeing change. Evaluate your growth based off new relationships. At every point in your life, you're constantly attracting similar energy.
- Between entitlement, esteem and expectations, one can create an internal world of extreme pandemonium.
- The deeper in love you become with yourself, the clearer your understanding of love becomes
- If you want to understand the essence of love, connect to your most pervasive imperfections and pay attention to those that embrace and accept you despite them
- what matters in life becomes clearer and clearer over time. Between loss amd hurt, you realize what you can do without. You learn to operate on simpler and higher frequencies.
- there is something intriguing about traveling for pleasure. The thrill seeker often has an obsession with escape. Realize that escape on the outside has little to do with what really exists on the inside.
-If you want something then be someone different
The power of perception, as well as opinions, is that everyone sees the world different. Now of course there are similarities between how some people perceive the world, but those perceptions are still in opposition to another's perspectives. Of course this could be understandable topics such as religion, social justice, war, morality, etc.
But what about someone's perception of you? Furthermore, how are other's responding to you? Because the truth of the matter is, you have no control over how other's perceive you. You have no control over what others think about you. But the energy you give off is real. And if you are aware of the energy you radiate, and the thoughts, obsessions, and fears you are emitting to the universe, do you realize the people in the world around you are just responding?
One way to check is to ask yourself, are my ideals and what I am actually living aligned? Do people see the alignment? Do people respond to the alignment? Or are they responding more to misalignment?
There are few absolutes in life. And one is absolutely human behavior. No human acts a certain way "all the time." Different circumstances and situations can bring up different emotions and reactions out of us, but on AVERAGE, on a primarily consistent basis, ask yourself, do I feel aligned?
Misalignment occurs when there is dissonance or an internal resistance to what you know, what you feel and you do. When you live your life in such a way that most of what you do is not aligned with what you feel or believe, its time to take a look in the mirror.
On this self love walk, do you believe its important to accept yourself, but you truly are speaking constant negative self talk allowed and in private? Are you turning down opportunities because you don't believe in yourself? Are you slightly discouraging the dreams of others? That is misalignment.
What's the solution? Awareness. Acceptance. Owning where you are and ultimately keeping yourself in check by changing your thoughts and behaviors. Because your ideals are different from your actual thoughts. Ideals are grandiose principles but your thoughts are what actually influence your behaviors.
So mind your thoughts because they are shaping your world.
By: Tiffany Wright
Resistance is that feeling you get when it seems that your spirit and your mind is in battle. Its the thoughts or actions that may appease your mind or emotions but leave discomfort in your spirit. As a result of living in resistance, we unknowingly block the flow of positive experiences to occur.
The desires that we say we want, don't come as easily because we are living in both a negative and positive state of vibrational energy.
Today, this week, focus on being mindful of where your mind and spirit are. In that mindfulness, follow a path of least resistance. It could be as simple as, giving someone a compliment when you pass them. It's calling that loved one you haven't spoke to in a long time, but your ego has stopped you from doing so when they've popped up in your spirit. It's apologizing to someone you may have hurt. It's taking that step into following through on a goal.
When you step out, release inhibition, and go with the flow of your spirit, life just feels different. Doesn't mean you will always see a change in your life, in your body, or in your relationships, but you will experience an ease that's very peaceful.
Remember, the ego knows struggle. It will puff up to appease itself. It will say, I don't have to, they better, the world better, etc. Find your balance and remain there.
On the path of least resistance, remember we're always seeking to let go of thoughts, actions, people, surroundings that do not serve us.
This morning as I was waiting for my train, a man sat next to me, tapped my shoulder and asked, Why is life so complicated?
Part of me was taken back, but most of me laughed inside. This is what God often does. I no longer believe in coincidences. I don't believe in random awesome interactions. I do believe that unknown people happen to be unexpected Angels, bearers of often needed messages, and opportunities for spiritual reflections.
Below is a, hmmm probably 95% correct transcript of the conversation. In a flow that had nothing to do with my conscious self, I shared with him the following
Him: Why is life so complicated?
Him: I'm sorry. I just want to know. I mean, I try to do right. I try to be spiritual and then, I don't know...
Me: Well, you don't have to try to be spiritual. Just be spiritual. You don't have to try to be good. Just be good. Whatever that means to you. Keep your faith in God and keep a positive mind. Just do your best; the truth is that looks different every day and every moment.
Him: yea...really. Why do you make it sound so easy?
Me: Because I believe it is that easy. We make it complicated. Especially when we judge ourselves through the eyes of others.
Him:Even our family?
Me: Yes, especially our family. Anyone. Everybody has judgements, even if they try not to. When what we do doesn't line up with what others say, that's when we often feel the worst about ourselves. We're taking on the judgements of others and judging ourselves at the same time. It makes living unbearable at times. But God's judgement is what matters. It's not always easy but when we try try try, we live in resistance to allowing life to just happen.
Him: Yea. What do you do about it? Especially with family?
Me: Nothing. You just be the best you. Family is tough because even as you change, they'll hold on to old ideas of who they believe you are. Most people do that. They can't help it. But just keep doing you and don't be so hard on yourself. ( then my train arrived).
Him: Thank you
Me: Thank you
As I walked away, I was overcome by a sense of gratitude.
His question allowed God to use me as a vessel for both him and myself. There is knowledge we have in us, that we can often forget, even in our own lives.
When life seems complicated, remember that its not. Remember to be mindful and just let go of emotions and thoughts that dont serve you to become your highest self. Let go of the judgements you're experiencing. Let go of the pity and self inflicted victimizing you have going on. Let go of the regret. Let go of the judgements.
Be mindful of where you are, who you are and how you're showing up. Accept the past, stay in the present and be whoever you want to be, and don't be so caught up in the future.
Life is complicated only if you disconnect from your role in shaping your own life. Simplify life yourself because you're world is in fact, largely created by you and the world outside, is only responding to you. The alignment (or misalignment) of your thoughts, emotions and intentions is what the world, the universe, the greater power within and outside of you, responds to. It's responding to your love, fear, anger, distress, distrust, and confusion.
Simplify life and learn to Love yourself and all around you.
BE Clear. Be Free. Be Flow. Be Love.
By: Tiffany W.
For centuries, Eastern societies have known something that only Westerners have recently began exploring within the last century: the practice of being present and mindfulness.
Mindfulness is a concept of being of aware of where you are in the moment with no concentration or judgment on the past or future. With focus on the future you can practice gratitude and be truly aligned with your mind, body and spirit. Practicing mindfulness reduces stress, tension, negative emotions, worry and so much more.
According to Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, "mindfulness is the miracle which we master and restore ourselves."
Today, I wanted to share your some words that may impart some mindfulness in your life
BE Present. BE Still. BE Expanding.
By: Tiffany W.