REPEAT THESE WORDS:
I will love myself no matter what. Through the gains and losses. Through the storms and rainbows. I know that the imperfection of my human experience will allow me the constant opportunity to grow, learn, and transform. I will be patient, kind, non judgmental of myself.
This is a mantra of patience and understanding. For all that needed.
"I'm stronger, I'm wiser, I'm better, I never would never made it without you"-Marvin Sapp.
Life happens. We make mistakes, and rarely really have the answers to anything. We are all in search for answers for the right way to live and unlock the best life, but there's no perfect life and no perfect us. Everything is what it is, and its best to be patient with life itself. BE patient with life and yourself because despite all the self help books and blogs, experience is your best teacher, and know one can ever feel exactly how you feel in the space that you are experiencing challenges, difficulty, hardship, success, joy, happiness, love or whatever. You are like a constantly growing flower, and under favorable conditions with great care and patience, you will blossom. Take every day as it comes, and never guilt yourself for not completing a task. If you do your best, what more can be done? Seek to improve, to love more, do more, learn more, and know that at the end of the day, everything will be what it will be.
BE Patient~BE Still
Written by: Tiffany W.
How easy it to become frustrated when you feel like nothing is happening the way you want it? You desire. You work. You SET goals. You stay focused. Even though you know the formula, sometimes you don't get the results you expect in the time frame you want them. Guess what, its ok. It seems as Gen Y and those who come after us, have no concept of time because we in general, want what we want, when we want it and we actually believe that we'll get it. Yes we are an ambitious bunch and are an outlier generation due to the amount self made millionaires we have. The challenge for most of us is understanding that ambition does not have to have an expiration date. We are the most timeline and goal oriented bunch thus far, and when what we want doesn't come to pass according to our plans, the result is depression, anxiety, anger, and much distress. From marriage to career success, to even just being accepted for ourselves, there's a sense of rush and pressure, but its not necessary. If you don't get what you want when you want it, its ok. You are still amazing. You are still worthy. You are still powerful. Abundance, joy, success, wealth, and happiness is available for you. The journey of life is marked by patience; Understanding that you will become who you need to become in due time.
Ever notice when you are soooo caught up in the hustle and bustle, something in life will slow you down? It could be an injury, illness, or major life transition. There is always a greater force that will interrupt our plans. Something will always put us "in check". No matter what barriers seem to present themselves, the "things" that slow us down, are always in place to propel us to a point of transformation that will allow us to successfully experience what we've been wanting. It takes us to be able to step back and get a greater picture of our circumstances, wants and desires; such circumstances can be beneficial in grounding us and allowing us to connect to greater focuses within us, if we are patient and connect to the flow of life. As I often say, nature is absolutely our greatest teacher, and as the quote suggests, any setback that forces us into our natural states, is powerful. Its' realigning, and its' an event that serves a purpose. So if you are reading this and you're going through a tough time right now, please BE still. Connect to peace, and open your heart and mind to seeing what the leasons at hand are. We beat oursleves up, and its not necessary. We put our value in these deadlines and life events we expect. Do what you can do, and just live. I always speak to you, as I speak to myself, so I say, Let Go, Let God. Let Go, Let Life. Just BE.
Written BY: Tiffany W.
As women of today, it seems that perfection of beauty continues to reach a higher level. Especially in the US, we are bombarded with enhancements: body, face, and hair. We all have different definitions of beauty, but across the board there's something about a curvy fit body, with stunning makeup,and long hair that people love. Because of the selfie revolution, women are constantly gagging for attention thru the "likes" of their duck faces, puckered lips, or prophetic "I woke up like this" photos. Instagram has become a new playground for business owners in fashion and makeup.The fantasy went from the magazines to our smart phones, and so many of us stay wrapped in it. My little sister refers to the ladies with the perfect nails, eyebrows, makeup, and trendy clothes as "instabaddies." Sometimes I feel kind of guilty as a sister because she admires that so much, and I will never BE that; she probably wants someone to emulate like that, but none of the women of family are like because we truly are naturally BEautiful and confident in it. Makeup may be limited to eye and lip for the most part, with exceptions of special days and outings, but what exists for many women, is foreign to me, and even my closest friends.
Makeup is BEautiful in it's mere existence. Make up artists create masterpieces on women, and its absolutely astonishing how BEautiful some women look. Even though we are virtually exposed to so many BEautiful women who are just "normal everyday people," does this impact the reality that there's a lot more of us "normal," non-adorned, perfectly fine with being imperfect looking women out there? Secondly, how will "instabaddies" ever learn to unconditionally love themselves if they fear walking out "normal" or "natural"?
The idea of perfection and obsession with narcissism and esteem based on looks, especially via social media runs deep. Think about it. Ever know someone who had to take at least 10+ pictures before posting because it had to look perfect? How about using photo shop, not for fun, but to truly enhance perfection? They say image is everything, but I say, if you are so attached to your image, your beauty, and especially your youth, BE advised that time will change; your body and face, WILL CHANGE! Continue to radiate and shine! Allow us to see your beauty bother enhanced and natural, just just make sure that you can say you LOVE yourself in the mirror, no matter what.
Written By: Tiffany W.
In honor of The BE Experience: Love the Light Within, I wanted to post in relevant to the topic discussion: Who are you really?
Do you know how to embrace your inner and outer beauty naturally?How caught up in your enhanced beauty are you?
Are you the "Before and After?"...you know, the before and after "BEat Face" transformation picture.
That's not you. That's your face. Your hair. Your adornments.
Who are you really?
This is inspired by the mighty Before & After picture. The testimonial revolution influenced by the influx of amazing make up artists building their businesses on instagram. We've all seen them. Pictures of women that look like night and day created offspring. Beyond the Before & After, there are women who are known for or have an online image as actually looking perfect at all times. These women are enhanced head to toe. Some may have natural bodies, but are fitness obsessed to look perfect. Others may not care about their bodies, but their hair, nails, lashes, and face are all done and "BEAT" to a T! Before there's any confusion, I acknowledge the beauty you represent and present to the world. I acknowledge the time you spend in taking pride in your appearance, but for some I have concern.
Why do these transformations often create more importance in our lives than our inner transformations? the transformation of our minds? of our spirit? Tell me who are you really.
Yes you are beautiful enough to be a canvas. Yes I understand all that you decide to where is a Beautiful form of art, that has been around since our early kingdoms in Africa. You are the result of a masterpiece but do you know that it is not real. Art is meant to be captured forever. In most cases it does not last one day to outshine it's canvas. Of course, with meaning, purpose and intention, there are pieces of art that are meant to be temporary, but more the sake art on a canvas; the canvas was created to for the art. Not the other way around. You were created with a purpose, and so was all you were adorned with.
Up to the many perspectives of interpretation, makeup is meant to enhance, and help you feel Beautiful, but your BEauty is not the result of the makeup. It was created to make you feel and think a certain way. It contributes to fantasy. Fantasy is great to escape into, but when we stay in a realm of fantasy, we ignore the realness of the present. The BEauty of the presence.
Could you comfortably and confidently walk around with just you? No makeup, eyebrows, lashes, nails, fancy clothes, or hair? If those items do not complete you because you feel whole as soon as you wake up, truly flawless, then pay no attention. But for the women, who find it hard to truly face themselves, face their face, we have a bit ways to go on this journey of self love. if your existence is wrapped in the arch of your brow, the hue of foundation, the shade of your lipstick, the length and texture of your hair, or the success of your contouring, I ask to re-examine bucket of self love. Believe me I understand. Makeup was never my thing, but hiding behind my hair was, which is why I cut it off. I wanted to learn to accept me because I never truly had.
The world will continue to give you reasons why you're not good enough, why good enough is bad, and why better is always better. You have to strive for something...but what if what we strove for, wasn't SOME THING (eg. the idea of perfection) but it was Some BEing? I understand that my thinking is not reflective of the masses, but BE! is a movement of self love. No matter what you wear, say, look like or do, as long as you are on a journey to truly, unconditionally love and accept your raw self, success is present, and the world is better because of you! Self love allows us to accept ourselves, project and nurture love unto others. The world always needs more love, and always needs more people, accepting themselves, and learning to BE their true selves. Makeup is Beautiful! It serves it purpose. It's fun, allows you to escape and express yourself, but never forget who you really are, and what you have to offer the world! I challenge you to tell yourself at least 3 reasons why you're beautiful/ whats beautiful to you about your BEing?
BE BEautiful~BE You
Written By: Tiffany Wright
One of the toughest yet most cleansing occurrences within the last year was losing material items that I found so much value in. I've never considered myself materialistic. The only labels I've been attached to were the ones in grocery stores, but even that has changed. I'm not label obsessed but I like nice clothes & shoes. I'd usually hunt the likes of Marshalls, TJ Maxx, Forever 21 , H & M and sometimes thrift shops for my cute finds. I did absolutely have a lot of shoes and clothes (as my friends would claim). I didn't have luxury apartment or car, or even a high paying salary but losing those things in whatever sense you have them, will make you rethink about life. I learned to find peace and not allow my happiness or joy to come from things, but boy oh boy was it and is it a challenge. I learned that no matter what I have or don't have, its really my health: physical, mental, and spiritual which is priceless.
So often when we have things, we neglect certain parts of our health; for some they neglect eating healthy or if they make the excuse of being too busy, its fitness. For others, they go go go are sooo goal oriented, and never sit to BE still, present or appreciative of what they've done. Others have had so many people, or very few really important people hurt them, and they neglect their emotional or mental health by creating barriers and never facing issues or people when need be. No matter what, I find that in this walk of self love, you must love yourself enough on all levels to keep your health a priority because money, cars, status, relationships, etc. mean nothing if when you wake up or go to sleep, you're unsatisfied, hate life, feel unfulfilled, are unappreciative, or can't physically function properly.
Reasonably enough, everyone has different value systems, and I can say a year or 2+ ago, so did I. It's all up to you, but if you ever lose everything, you will probably lose your mind and have to regain a new sense of identity. Things and titles provide false identities, connecting with yourself, the essence of your BEing and the place that it dwells within, provides a whole different level of operation, anything else, is just an extra bonus. I challenge you to partake in 3 steps/activities everyday that strengthen your mental, spiritual and physical health. In addition answer these questions: What do you think you're attach to? and if you lost it, how do you think you would operate?
Written by: Tiffany Wright
Recently, I saw the movie, The Fault in Our Stars, and let me say, it was was not only a tear jerker, but a really spiritually transforming and thought provoking film.For anyone into love stories, miracles, nature, history, and the mere appreciation of life, you would absolutely love this movie. It was a big deal. With so many meaningful metaphors, it really shined light on our obsessions with perfection. The perfect life, career, relationship, and all around existence. We live thru life with so many romantic-like idiosyncrasies ( I am absolutely guilty) about what should happen or our expectations. When in reality, there is so much possibility in life, we could never fathom the infinite combinations of existence that will occur in our life. Every day, every moment, every second, one decision can lead to an infinite amount of reactions, so from day to day, moment to moment we must choose to just BE! and consider what road of infinite possibilities do we make? It's an intriguing idea that every thought, decision or action can absolutely change the rest of our lives, but in those very decisions, we can never know the impact. You will never know. You can hope, wish, pray, be responsible, be healthy, be positive, but no matter what you will never know. You can "do everything right", but still never know. It's an understanding that we have much control, but no control at the same time. So do what you can, with what you have. Move through life with love, acceptance, and the knowing of all possibilities. Life and death occur alongside, light and dark, as well as good and bad, health and illness and of course love and hate. Depending on where one is on their journey of mindfulness, it can be a really loopy concept, but to me, it makes life more appealing; more exciting. Everything, at the end of the day is unpredictable. We BElieve that the world and our lives are single handedly controlled by us, but we are connected, and all events are attached to a long chain of happenings, even before our existence. When you can truly understand the difference between what you can control, and being open to the possibilities of the unknown, their is a peace, a stillness, a state of BEing present that may consume you. There is no perfect. Let it go. You are as perfect as you want to be, until you want to change. Your circumstances are as perfect as they are until you do something to change them or they somehow change by another agency. Stars are not always as BEautiful as they seem because in reality, they are just big burst of gas emitting light, and it's our attachment to perfection, that makes them more than what they are.
Written By: Tiffany Wright
So often we search for answers to challenges from others. We ask for signs. We pay a host of individuals for their expertise: psychics, psychologists, social workers, counselors, spiritual minds and more. We look at movies, magazines and read self help books. As someone that is a trained Social Worker, I would say those experts are valid, and its' nice to have someone to speak to, or get extra insight, but from my experience, we use others to confirm and affirm what we often already believe, know or fear. We don't always realize the root or why, but when it comes to decisions of the now, we know. To know the answers of some of our deepest or even very basic questions we ask ourselves, require us to know and trust ourselves. It doesn't have to be so complex but most times it starts with mindfulness.
When speaking to yourself, do you know when your untrustworthy side is speaking? You know, that side often labeled as the "bad conscious". If you do, then it sounds like you're aligned with your intuition. Your intuition or primal self comes thru by means of "my mind is saying this but my heart is saying this. " As a truly cognitive BEing, an often someone who just over-thinks too much, I do trust my mind but have learned in on a journey of self love that true inner power knows how to satisfy both mind and heart (with the mind in the lead).
For some its' challenging tapping into and channeling that inner power but that's because there's soooooo much noise inside. Finding environments or activities that stimulate the trust process definitely help. For the creative BEings, it might be entering that flow, creating your art be it visual, physical or even culinary. Others may want to exercise, BE in nature or just BE silent. Whatever it is, use that as an incubator to nurture that inner space of silence.
The reality is, if you have to make a sudden decision, retreating won't be an option, and you'll really just have to breathe. Walk thru pros and cons and maybe ask yourself some guiding questions.
The Point: One of the greatest realizations is to know YOU HAVE POWER. To know you have power shifts the possibilities of your world. Once you know, then the challenge become tapping in and using it. What's the best way for you to tap into your power?
Written By: Tiffany Wright
What if you finally decided to live your life according to your purpose and will, and absolutely released any ideas around the expectations of what others have for you, or think you should do? That would be one free life.
It's simple, but we make it hard. We have a spiritual compass in us. We all know what we should do, but because we are not still or present to the moments, and our "gut feelings," we tend to overlook the nature of our being, and rely on information from other sources. Live YOUR life. Not anyone else's. Live YOUR life, without jealousy, envy, or over-admiration of another life. When people find their purpose, walk on a path that aligns their purpose with a passion, those people are happier, more joyful, and more productive in life! They become so productive, they actually get what they want! and they become the ones you "wish you could be like." Guess you are not them, but you have the potential be LIKE them. You have the potential to be joyful, happy, overflowing with gratitude and abundance. When you take a chance on yourself, you'll take a chance to live an overall better life. Don't worry about your shyness, or the judgement of others. No need to think about if they are going to accept you just because you want to do things differently. At the end of the day, you are the only one that has to live with your decisions, and die with the dreams you never let come to reality. So LIVE! Live unapologetically. Even if you fall on your back, as Les Brown says, you can look up, and get up!
Written By: Tiffany Wright
No one got to where they were, without brick walls and stumbling along the way- Anonymous
What if I told you, that ruin isn't just the road to transformation, but also to abundance? When you experience hardship, struggle, or anything like it, you actually have the unlimited potential to become what you're supposed to be.
Are you willing to get past the walls in front of you? The walls exists to signify how bad you want something. No business or endeavor was magically created over night. When you actively are seeking transformation in the midst of your hardship, you will get stronger. You will get better. You will get smarter. It will hurt, it will be challenging, but I believe if you focus on how you can become better, you will become better, and opportunities will be presented to you. Opportunities that just might never would have happened by your own hand. But to me, by the grace of God.
Transformation allows you to strip your soul of the past, become a new, renewed and a better you. A better you will attract new clarity and opportunities.
This post is inspired by a powerful encounter I had over the weekend. Years, through prayer, I knew I was going to be a motivational speaker. I would say about 3 years ago, I read Think & Grow Rich,and created a visualization statement. I said I'd be a millionaire by 30, be an international motivational speaker, have a #1 book on the NY Times best sellers list, and have a global brand of inspirational products. Certain steps I took in the journey seemed wrong at the time, but my new conviction of truth is that everything truly works perfectly together if you stay open. To pray one day and ask God to send you someone with an answer, and not only get an answer but also a powerful person...it must be ordained. It could only have been the triumph past some struggles which allowed me to walk in faith love and attract this situation. What is this encounter? Who is the powerful person? The vessel of greatness himself, Les Brown. If you don't know who he is, YouTube him because he will change your life, and the honor is that he wants to help change mine. I have launched a GoFundMe campaign to raise funds for my 1 on 1 mentoring and coaching experience which will span 2 years, to work with Mr. Brown. He would work with me to become a great international motivational speaker, and all I can say is Thank You God, Thank You Struggle and Thank You Growth.
If your spirit is inclined to invest in my message and future, please donate at www.gofundme.com/beinspiredbeloved
There is something special in BEing present and still in the midst of what seems like pandemonium. There is power in stillness; there's a confidence in the higher purpose and higher power of the moment. There's a sense of gratitude which is the real trigger for abundance. So connect to the power of your struggle; its truly transformational when you stay present and grateful.
Written by: Tiffany Wright