For the mere fact that there are 7 billion people in this world, there are millions and billions of examples of the possibilities that exist, so it just really isn't a reason why you doubt possibility.
Why doubt your self? Why speak negative about yourself? Why focus on what you're not? Why focus on what you don't have? Why stay in a situation or around people that bring out the worst in you? Why contribute your age, religion, sexuality, or even color as the reason to support your limiting beliefs? Why?
See if you didn't know any better, if you had no model or awareness for possibility, it would make sense. But the very fact that you're reading this post means you have access to a magical portal that allows you to look up any piece of information you have a desire to learn more about. Think you're too old or young to go to school? Invent something? Travel? Start a new career? Start a business? Make a difference in this world? Think again.
The special function of our brain is that it continues to be available to receive and process new information. Your brain doesn't know your limits, your mind creates that false reality. Once you are exposed to a new experience whether its read, heard or even seen on TV, it creates a new neuron connection and thus a possible occurence in your brain. Therefore if you want to do something, if you want to be something, just look for an example around you, and begin to believe in yourself.
It can be something as simlle as completing a 5k. Are you out of shape? No problem. There's someone with more medical conditions and older in age whose completed a 5k. Don't think you're smart or wealthy enough to start a business? Please. ..just look up stories of entrepreneurs online or in books. There's thousands of accounts dedicated to profiling entrepreneurs.
Self love IS about accepting all that has happened to you, it is NOT creating visions of what you think is not possible.
Having some issues around self worth? Having some issues around self esteem? Having some issues throwing away the negative self talk? Its ok. Work on yourself. Work on your mind. Work on your spirit. Forgive yourself. Practice the 5 Commandments of Self Love.
Every one has a different journey and yours is perfect for you.
There seems to be something about your self love journey that really impacts how you communicate.
I mean advertantly, your relationship with yourself is becoming stronger therefore, as a result your understanding of yourself gets deeper. Through honoring your spirit and even constantly practicing forgiveness your communication style begins to change.
You might become more empathic to others, clearer in conveying what you want or desire, more transparent when it comes to your faults and mistakes you've committed. You learn to own your ish and it feels so very good to do so, boldly and powerfully.
I used to have a problem with interrupting people during a conversation. It wasn't because I was being rude, I was just so excited and wantes to be able to share my point. At a certain point, I realized that it was selfish and a reaction to not acknowledging the importance of anyone else in the conversation. So now that I choose to remain silent (for the most part) in conversations, I always find it amusing that people who have known me for a long time before (consciously transforming) frequently check to see if I'm paying attention while talkin because I'm silent. What they don't realize is that my inner transformation, is evident in ways maybe they wouldn't think are evident, such as in communication.
Even when it comes to forgiveness, maybe in the past you took statements really personal, or you'd snap back when someone would say something offensive, but as a BEautiful BEing on a conscious journey of self love, practicing forgiveness will allow to release any negative energy you absorb from a conversation, and just keep flowing. Your form of reaction will change. Your choice of words will change. Your desire to be passive aggressive or back biting will change.
One of the first clear signs of how you are changing will show up in your communication. Others around you may not take notice, but I encourage you, BE Mindful, stay mindful and honor your own growth accordingly. Every step, makes your journey that much more valuable.
By: Tiffany W.
Humans share a lot of characteristics. Bones, organs, opposable thumbs, communication skills, and basic emotions. There is more that connects us than distinguishes, but let's be really clear, everyone does not think or act the same.
In a world of similarities, there are outliers. Outliers are those who don't necessarily operate in the same capacity as others, for different reasons. The extremely mentally ill, artistic geniuses, the super wealthy, social movement leaders, tech genuises, inventors, and spiritual/mindfulness leaders. These people's lives are a reflection of what's going on in their heads.
With that being said, you may be one who thinks and acts differently than many around you. At times it can be frustrating because you may be misunderstood or even ridiculed. If you're a big thinker, a dreamer, and a visionary, others will confront you with doubt. If you are on a serious journey of love and higher thought, people may call you unrealistic.
Embrace it. Yes you can be an unicorn while still accepting others views and behaviors.
One idea that many people have is that their way is the only way; the right way or the best way. Their way of living, speaking and especially thinking.
I have a friend who acknowledges that they think outside the box and they think for themselves, but if you attempt to show an alternative perspective, they're extremely closed.
The greatest minds know that there is more they don't know. When you ever get to a place in life that you feel you reached the pentacle, it might be time to surround yourself with different people and a new environment because you don't know what you don't know, and you definitely don't know that there's a different perspective that will push you.
Embrace who you are but be conscious not to let your ego be bruised by the judgments of others neither let your ego become too inflated to believe there's no other way to think, live or be beyond your own understanding.
By: Tiffany W.
Yesterday was the special day we call Mother's Day (in the U.S.). It's the day that a number of individuals give praise to their mothers and mother-like figures who've impacted their lives. Other individuals reflect on what it means to not have or ever had a mother because of loss, abandonment, or just never knowing them.
Mother's Day can mean so many things to different people but one thing is for sure, honoring your mother, is a step in your own self love journey.
Because you came from her, you have the ability to live and thrive; no matter what, her presence or absense shaped you. Her kindness or pain shaped you. Her affection or dysfunction shaped you. Her openness or pride shaped you. To follow the first commandment of self love is to Honor Thyself; to acknowledge everything about you and every being who's contributed to you being who you are.
Granted, most people post and share pictures with smiles and positive captions, the reality is that there's a small number of households where life actually resembled those pictures.
So what's the truth? There wasn't always smiles. Some people grew up in horrific circumstances with biological, step or even foster mothers. Some people still feel a sting pain trying to connect to the memory of a lost mother if she passed away. Some people can only try to imagine what she would have been like because she was never there for whatever reason.
The truth of the matter, honoring the presence or absence of your mother is one in the same because she gave life to you, and whatever capacity she decided to fulfill motherly duties was her choice. But this day, you are here. You are an open, conscious, self loving being who can honor every facet of your being and you know you can choose to be whoever you want.
Remember that who you become cannot come to pass without the person you've been. Therefore as you grow and expand, walking more confidently in your truth, choosing to face every page of your story will empower you. When it comes to your parents/caretakers, etc. consider their humanness. Consider their wholeness and brokenness. Consider them being your age and doing the best they could, just as you're doing.
By: Tiffany W.
Its simple. Some people look at the glass half empty, half full, and completely full with half water and half air. Everyone has different perspectives and they have the right to them, but if you're an unicorn flying through life thinking and hoping for the best, be selective of who you spend your time with and who you allow to influence your thought process.
Years ago, I realized I never doubted myself in taking on a task until someone told me I couldn't. The very idea of that phenomenon astounds me.in hindsight, I realize according to my world perspective, limits may not exist or even be big enough for me to pay attention to, but it was the verbal affirmation (or lack thereof) that would put limits on my own mind.
So now, I use my spirit to discern who I can share dreams with, but also make sure to spread positive words to others because I realize how jaded most folks are.
The other reality is that many can't see beyond what exists. They live with no or little faith and hope. They live with little vision and are attached to notions of "realism." Well you know what, " being realistic is the most common path to mediocrity," said Will Smith. Nothing is wrong with mediocrity for those who decide to live that way, but if you desire elevation and greatness, you must recognize they there are some small minded folks out there.
Our world and way of living is often transformed by those with optimistic passions. Whether that's in social change, invention, technology, research, science or art, optimism does help make the world go round.
It's ok to smile, give affirmations, provide encouragement, and literally remind people to be positive. Your light is your gift to the world. You must honot yosur mind and your spirit thru continuing to feed it positivity and allow it to be released.
By: Tiffany W.