You are a Spirit BEing. All the love, answers, and direction you need is INSIDE OF YOU. Looking for fulfillment thru others and thru things will not complete you.
As women, our strength is in our ability to love, nurture and connect. Far too often we're trying to love, nurture and connect to others, yet neglect ourselves. You are your first priority. No matter what you're life's obligations are, the center of your being must be put first.
As you understand the importance of mindfulness, trusting yourself, and being aligned, you'll see how important the 5 Commandments of Self Love are. ( Honor Thyself, Honor Thy Mind, Honor Thy Body, Honor Thy Spirit, and Forgiveness).
Remember that fear is natural but courage is a choice. Walk, run and live thru your fears because on the other side of fear is a life you deserved.
Afraid to use your voice? Do it. Afraid to say no and set boundaries? Oh please do it. Afraid to leave behind the people, environment or job that traps, starves, or diminishes you? Do it!
Happy Self Love Sunday BEautiful BEings!
Research has proven time and time again that generally speaking, positive people have a higher quality of life and live longer. They have stronger social connections, better health, and bounce back from difficult life circumstances faster.
As someone with a background in Psychology, I'm often delving into new research and have become somewhat obsessed with a rather new branch of the field called, Positive Psychology. I recently completed a free online 5 week course offered thru University of Pennsylvania through my favorite learning platform, Coursera.
The most important takeaway I got, which is just a scientific confirmation, being positive should be a lifelong habit, pursuit and way of life.
There's some people who choose to be positive under certain conditions and around certain people but there's a tribe of individuals who chose to be more optimistic, more forgiving, more encouraging, more open mind, more giving, and more joyful than the average person. I challenge you to join them.
In my recent studies, I learned that Positive Psychologists have pinpointed 10 basic positive emotions.
I love being able to find something to focus my attention on and being mindful of gratitude, amusement or even awe has shifted so much for me.
I get that you won't always feel positive, but you can choose to see positivity in anything. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% your reaction.
I just prefer to react (on average) in a positive manner. It's no fun being a downer, tearing others and the atmosphere down. People used to ask me, why be so happy and bubbly? Well I'd reply, why not? Feeling ehhh sure doesn't enhance my own or other's lives.
I contribute my strength and tenacity to my positivity. I acknowledge that positivity is what keeps me going and besides anything, has guided me into walking in my purpose.
I believe if you choose a life and attitude of positivity, you too will notice major shifts in your life and in all you choose to watch, see, hear or speak. Come join the tribe! because the world could ALWAYS use more love!
By: Tiffany W.
Definition: Reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc. of a person or thing; confidence.
We often speak of trust in
terms of other people around us. We discuss and reflect how others affect the level of trust we have in them. We discuss how the past may affected our abilities to trust in general. But rarely do we have conversations of self trust. You know, trust in yourself.
Do you trust yourself? Do you trust your own judgements? Do you trust the process you use to make decisions in your life? career? love? friendships? with families?
It may sound silly but consider how many women live in stress, anxiety and worry about life. Is not having faith in any process in life the same as not trusting it?
You don't trust that you're good enough for a friend, job, potential lover, or even an outfit you want to wear. You make decisions and then worry if they were the best for you.
Why don't we as women have more confidence in ourselves? and for the ones that do, why is that confidence often limited to one area of life (career vs. love)?
Seek to become one within yourself. When you become one within yourself you can honor your spirit and in all goodness, TRUST Yourself. Listen, as you become more aware of who you are, what is life, and what is right for you, you can actually trust yourself.
You deserve to seek within and be ok with not only the answer you get from yourself but the decision you make as an outcome.
Dear BEautiful BEing,
I've recently had conversations with people who have made me realize there are lots of people who literally lose their zeal for life, and I want to make the plea that you, if you are a part of that group, expand your mind and never get so content that you believe there's nothing left.
I get that many people wrap their life satisfaction in 3 things: job, money, and family but there's so much more. There are 190 countries. There's hundreds of religions. Billions of artists. Millions of beautiful pieces of architecture. Billions of years of history captured. Thousands of cultures that exists. Hundreds of languages. An unlimited amount of experiences, places, and people you know NOTHING about. There are billions, millions, thousands, hundreds or even a couple of people who need your story, your life, your truth to be shared.
There is so much life to be lived! Regardless if you're single, married, with or without child, if you have breath in your body, you have the option to do and be more. I believe life is centered in love with the capacity to reach one's highest expression of whatever that may be. Reaching to fulfill your great potential is a life long journey.
May you know that age is a blessing but it should never be a reason for you not to explore the possibilities of life. Even of you've done alot, learned alot, and feel well traveled, there's still more. The book you read at 15, is a different book at 30. The vacation you had at 25 would surely be experienced differently at 30. May you know that your height, skin color, beliefs, language or even location have nothing to do with the depth of passions you can go after.
Too many people alive stop living! Don't be that person. Live a life that not only awakens your soul but also someone else's. All I ask is that you really live a life worth living.
Never stop growing, loving, exploring or doing.
With Sincerest Love,
Your life is shaped primarily by one process: thought.
How you think affects how you see and experience the world; it affects your choice in relationships, careers, and lifestyle. Your thoughts affect your relationship to fear and love.
One of my 5 Commandments of Self Love is Honor Thy Mind, which essentially means recognize/acknowledge the power of your mind along with its sensitivity. Honoring your mind means to actively be aware of all that you do which may shape its existence.
What are you listening to? What are you watching? What are you reading? What are you believing? What are you visualizing? What are you saying to yourself?
The condition of your mind truly does affect the condition of your life. I don't believe anything is absolute, so I don't believe that every single thing in your life is a reflection of your thoughts but, just as the Earth and our bodies are nearly 70% water, I do believe a high percentage of our lives are merely our thoughts manifested.
As a woman of today, you have more pressure than ever to do and be so much.
More often than not you're comparing your body, love life and sense of success with other women. Stop. Use others as inspiration not as a platform for comparison.
I want you to know that striving for your highest best self is a noteworthy goal. When you reach for something more, you challenge yourself and grow. The issue is when you stop reaching, you block your mind from continuing to develop, thus your life stands in a place of stagnation. Most people are comfortable there, but rarely does anything special happen in your comfort zone.
I challenge you to let go of limiting beliefs. Let go of thoughts that are opposite of, I'm good enough, I am strong, I am beautiful in and out, I am a conquerer, I am bold, I am loved, I am important, I am me.
Go forth today with an intention to focus on positive thoughts, even if it comes to not so positive people and situations.
By: Tiffany W.
Thank GOD it's Monday!
The beginning of a new week. It's a fresh day, a fresh morning which means you have made it beyond your past and each moment is closer to the future, as even the future becomes the past.
It's really an exciting concept when you think about how beautiful time is. Allowing us to experience the miraculous event of life itself, but far too often we don't even pay attention to the beauty in each moment and even each minute that might be ahead of us.
Yes the weekend is over. You're weekend was either great or completely uninteresting (maybe somewhere in between). Spring is here so your favorite shows are ending (or starting). Your social media timelines are being flooded with remnants of breakups or weddings (it's definitely wedding season but for some reason it's arrived a bit early this year).
All in all, just like Monday, spring represents the beauty of new life. The transition from cold storms to the blossoming of beautiful flowers.
In each new season, new month, new week and new day, take with you the lessons and values of the past, but choose to leave worry, discontent, dissatisfaction, loneliness, hurt, anger, or even indifference in the past.
As always, everyday can be as equally amazing if you see it that way. Set a powerful intention. Seek out positive encouragement. Choose to shift any perspectives that aren't serving you. Honor yourself and those around you throughout the whole day.
By: Tiffany W.
There's no denying that confidence looks so good on a man that it's mere presence can make a less attractive man look even better. Men who speak with confidence are able to get farther in life because they influence others to believe in them, and when people believe in you they give you opportunities and support you.
There's a powerful energy that entraps another when someone walks with their head held high, a stride that says, I belong here, and have clarity of direction.
Women must learn to walk in confidence and be comfortable in who they are. Celebrate yourself, shake off intimidation and doubt. We are discouraged from being "too confident" and encouraged to be docile, unresponsive, and to remain as an image in the background.
But you are more than that. You are strong in more ways than you can count. You look to women that you idolize assuming they have no faults. No honey. We are human...its definition in itself means to be im
Embrace all that you are. Walk with your head up high and chest out straight. You are phenomenal.
By: Tiffany W.
You are simply what you believe you are.
If you believe yourself to be beautiful, strong, visionary, powerful, and significant, that is the invisible cloak you will walk through this planet with.
People will respond to that power. You will choose to live a life that feed those beliefs and continue to expand and elevate your life.
We are at a point of consciousness in which we know very well that everything has energy, and furthermore every belief, word, and action has energy. The strength in your belief of affirmative thoughts carry an energy that transpires to how you speak and carry yourself.
It's so easy to fall in negative thought patterns about life and ourselves. In psychology, this is called a Negativity Bias. We tend to believe the negative before the positive about ourselves and life. But from even an evolutionary point, for a means of survival, do you think its more beneficial to see negative or positive?
What benefit is there in believing that you're ugly, too weak, not good enough, undesirable, not worthy, or unimportant? There could be no benefits in those thoughts! Merely believing such things, literally entrap you and shrivel your being from living life and taking chances that increase your chances of love, enjoyment, peace, success, and well...survival. What benefit is there in believing you will fail or never obtain the life and love you want? What is the benefit in you believing you are of no importance?
Every living organism has a purpose and is beautiful just in its right. From algae, to grass, to a bee, to a lion, to you...There is beauty in everything.
As women, let's work to let go what we've been told is considered "BEautiful" and empower ourselves to expand our conception of that word. Let's consider the dimensions of our complexities, our perspectives, our gifts, how we love, what we give, and all that we are.
To me, your smile is beautiful. The excitement you express from your favorite food, tv show, outfit, or travel destination! I think your scars are beautiful, physical, emotional and psychological because they leave trails of your story.
You are beautiful because of your love; being here and reading this post. Not only is their beauty in you feeding your soul but also supporting another woman's passion to empower other woman.
You are BEautiful. Now, look at yourself in the mirror, say, mean it and believe it!
By: Tiffany W.
It's so easy to get caught up in believing that life will never change. Especially if you are in state of mind, body, or spirit that you've been "stuck" in for a while, you may begin to take the idea acceptance as a state of entrapment.
Acceptance to a degree is about being present in what exists, but also accepting that you have power to affect all that happens in your power. Accepting your power is just as important as you accepting all that has occurred in and shaped your life.
Understand that it takes time though to find a balance between accepting the old and creating the new. The balance comes in also connecting to what it means to honor yourself.
Here are 7 reasons why spending TIME to find, connect and live your truth are important:
1. When you spend time alone, in silence, with your own thoughts, you actually learn about yourself. You can become aware of your thought patterns, how positive or negative your perspectives are, and what issues impact your mind the most
2. What you do, say and believe is so heavily impacted by what others have told you and what you read, watch and listen to, that taking time alone with no influence will actually help you sort out your own beliefs
3. Once you connect to what you believe to be true (your beliefs, every aspect of your personality, your "agreements") whether negative or positive, you can choose to erase, change, or improve what you've encountered
4. The clearer you can become in who you are and who you want to be, the clearer the vision you receive to go after the life you want becomes
5. Spending time to honor yourself and accept everything about you, especially your greatest lessons (let's stay away from the word "mistakes" because every experience can serve a purpose even if we're the catalyst) will increase your confidence about your own power and areas of weakness. When you know your weaknesses, you can build up your strengths, stay away from maladaptive people/situations and improve your life
6. Once you can connect to who you are, who you want to be, and what you want, you can live a life full of freedom from judging yourself and being affected by the judgement of others
7. Living life the way you see fit and connect to most deeply, will increase your overall health, sense of purpose, and allow to be an inspiration for others
Take the time to know your self. There can be a lot of pandemonium in around our lives but we must know that if decide to live through the truths of life around us, we will never be satisfied and feel whole. You will go after a life that was never meant to be yours. You will take dreams and talents to the grave that were meant to be shared with others. You may compromise your mental health and literally drive yourself to a place insanity, depression, anxiety or extreme stress.
To me, Women's Month is about really honoring women who decided to be themselves, fight for what they believed in and go after goals deep down in their hearts. BE Empowered to BE More and BE You!
By: Tiffany W.
The Empowered Woman, she moves through the world
with a sense of confidence and Grace.
Her once reckless Spirit now tempered by Wisdom.
Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her Truth without doubt or hesitation
and the life she leads is of her own creation.She now understands what it means to live and let live.
How much to ask for herself and how much to give.
She has a strong, yet generous heart.. and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart.Like the mythical Phoenix, she has risen from the ashes and soared to a new plane of existence, unfettered by the things that once that posed such resistance.Her senses now heightened, she sees everything so clearly.
She hears the wind rustling through the trees;
beckoning her to live the dreams she holds so dearly.
She feels the softness of her hands and muses at the strength that they possess. Her needs and desires she has learned to express. She has tasted the bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life, overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife.And the one thing she never understood, she now knows to be true, it all begins and ends with You.
By: Sonny Carroll