This post is overdue, as I recently connected with two amazing women; One named Raven who started the The Free Your Mind (FYM) Project which seeks to highlight women of color doing powerful things in the world! Her blog is amazing ! I also recently connected with an amazing yogi named Sandra Thornburg ! You can check her beautiful poses out at facebook.com/yogawithsandrathornburg. Both women, so passionate about their purpose to empower others through an exchange of powerful messages and energy, it makes me ponder, why can't this be a norm?
I remember when Beyonce's "Run the World" was released. There was a dichotomy between individuals who felt empowered and were all "YEaaaaah!" and another group, very socially conscious, who thought, "Umm Beyonce, what world do you live in." For one: I don't think by any means we run the world, if so the global economy would look differently, political relations would look differently, and many human injustices, such as sex trafficking, and female mutilation, would cease to exists. It has been researched, that the more women are educated in a nation, the higher the economic index.( An awesome read for you would be Half The Sky by Kristoff and WuDunn). Secondly: The US and the World are two separate entities. I do believe women in the US have many freedoms that women in other nations could not conceive as possible, nonetheless...I do believe that women are powerful, and could be even more powerful if they lift one another up.
What I know for sure is that BE! is not only committed to teaching self love, but I'm committed to connecting with female entrepreneurs and leaders across all sectors. If we are all trying to empower one another, and live our best lives, all of us needs each of us, and each of us needs all of us. I think this mindset of scarcity of opportunities for women has created an energy of unnecessary competition. Everyone can be number 1 in their own lane. Whatever you do, when you do it authentically, there will be people that are attracted to your authentic self. I may relate to Sally different than I do Jesse, but that doesn't make Jesse any less powerful. Impact should not be determined by your money or social media following. There's impact made everyday, and when you send positive vibrations into one woman's life, she will likely do the same for another, and its a chain of paying it forward. Learn to lift up, empower and support others. For what you do in the absence of return, will undoubtedly be received 10 fold plus. Give and support for the beauty of just doing so; A revolution does not occur by the doings of just 1 person, but by the interlocking of arms of many. Learn to reach out and support one another, and we could undoubtedly rule the world with love, compassion, and understanding for all! Reach out to at least 3 women, compliment them and acknowledge what they stand for as people. If you're on social media, maybe give a shout out to their business, or direct a friend or 2 to like their business page!
Written By: Tiffany Wright
Everyday I have conversations with women whom I've never met, but connect with so quickly and on a very spiritual level. This I believe is because we are all connected and we go through very similar phases when it comes to a journey of self love, or in actually just love of self and being love. In the midst of these conversations, the idea of self sacrifice always come up. Sacrificing self care for the sake of a partner, children, career, just because of the desire to GIVE GIVE GIVE! or HEAL HEAL HEAL, or even SAVE SAVE SAVE.
One true lesson that I learned: You can only truly give what you have. When you give of yourself, it takes emotional and mental energy. Emotional and mental energy which we don't realize is pretty much depleted when it comes down to the time when we need to take care of ourselves, if we are not constantly filling it up.
Think of your BEing as a gas tank. You cannot fill the tank up once, and expect to provide endless energy and fuel to other cars (people). The tank will only go so far, and if you fill others with your supply before at least keeping reserves for yourself, your tank will be empty. There are endless cases of this. The one that comes to mind is the classic situation of the new found riches one attains with celebridom...and an individual chooses to save the neighborhood, give to every cause and every person in their life...and ends up financial dyer. In one of my cases, I would see Social Workers burned out on a daily basis because they expended so much energy caring and holding for their clients, yet not taking time to care for themselves. Or an even more common example, the mommy that gives gives gives, yet never takes time to herself...she ends up getting ill, developing insomnia, or worst entering depression or having anxiety issues.
Too often, women as naturally nurturing beings fall into this ploy. My suggestion, STOP!
As a business owner and leader, I have truly understood the importance of building mental and emotional strength due to attracting what you want in life. When you want too attract success, consistency, wealth, and even supportive, valuable people, you have to be that, and you have to be able to emotionally and mentally "support and hold" for those people. There's been periods where I felt week, and I didn't hold for others; I was caught up in judging myself versus loving myself. My true journey began when I cut my hair last April, as a way to learn self love through acceptance. Once that happened, my focused shift to being love, so that I can give and share with others; learning to face pain, challenges, anger, and forgiveness. Two pivotal books for me were "Reduce ME to LOVE" by Joyce Meyer and "The 4 Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz. They opened my self awareness and I try to stay aware of my inner thoughts and feelings towards myself and others on a constant basis. Its a journey, and I know I'll never be perfect, but I learned how to shift from just giving giving giving, and learning to BE, and receive.
Likewise, women are too occupied giving, and decide to neglect themselves, therefore over time, giving becomes burdensome, challenging, and sometimes despised. Everyone has a tipping point, just like every care has different gas mileage on it. When you are E, and you don't fill up...that's the end of it.
Some of the surest ways I can tell a woman lacks honoring herself in love, is by her lack of a diet, frequent exercise, and happy time. Its tempting to sacrifice and save everyone because its in our nature, but there is surely a time and place for everything. Find something to restore your happy and flow everyday, preferably in the morning. Dance, sing, workout, read, pray, meditate, watch something motivational or funny...whatever it is...do it with the intention of BEing whole; of BEing peace; of BEing LOVE; of BEing you.
When you are filled with love, you walk in walk in love; you radiate love; and you only receive that which nourishes you, while still being able to love any object around you. It is a journey to get to this place, but its also not a destination. Make your life, a walk in love.
Written By: Tiffany Wright
This is going to be a very interesting piece because the first part was half written...I left it in my drafts because I didn't feel compelled to finish it or post it. The second half of the post comes from my current state.
Written: January 6, 2014
Lately I have been consciously working on living with intentions of happiness and joy to battle any feelings of pity, distress, or discontent that may arise. Creating different buckets of happy can allow people to pull out whatever pieces of joy they choose to at any moment. What is a "bucket of joy"? Well that would be any form of expression you feel boosts your happy. My number 1 bucket of Happy is MUSIC! I love music and research shows that different tones in music can stimulate different responses from the brain. Faster tempo songs create more positive feelings, as opposed to slower, deeper tones stimulate feelings of sad, or melancholy. Which is why most r&b, love, blues songs are in such tones, and why house, pop, and electronic are more upbeat.
Written: March 7, 2014
The above excerpt continues to stand true. I created a "Happy" playlist because I felt almost anything but Happy: Debt, broken hearted, seclusion, confusion, lost...those were the most prevalent feelings (even though I know those are circumstances). Fortunately at the time I was still operating, for the most part, in gratitude, so I had faith my "feelings", mindset and situation would change, but in quiet moments it was overwhelming sometimes, and even though I did have support, I felt alone...so I turned to my music, prayer and writing once again.
Music is such an amazing tool that allows you to shift your mind and emotions. Every since I was a child, music was something that allowed me to escape into the being I wanted to be! My grandfather has countless videos of me dressing up and singing to Music Box Mariah Carey, Mary J. Blige, Whitney Houston, Luther Vandross, Sade, Paula Abdul, Michael Jackson and you wouldn't believe, Michael Bolton ( I can totally laugh now because I was never allowed to watch BET until about the age of 9/10 ,so I only saw VH1 videos which at the time really only had pop, and smooth sounds). I escaped to a place in which I was on stage, accepting awards, talking to the world and performing! I was even escaping "reality" as a child. That was feel good music.
I discovered how therapeutic music was when I was about 15. At that time, I was often having suicidal thoughts, and made several attempts, but clearly it was just hurt that made you feel like you want to disappear. It was the release of Lauryn Hill's Miseducation of Lauren Hill...wow that saved my life. I must have listened to it at least 3 times a day for about 8 months and wrote in journals EVERYDAY! Once I realized how important my presence in this world and my struggles were, I really had my first spiritual transformation. I switched between Miseducation, and a lengthy Gospel playlist filled with Donald Laurence, Kurt Carr, Clarke Sisters, and Fred Hammond. I became so in tuned with how impactful your environment is on your mind; environment meaning the people you surround yourself with, your physical environment, what you watch, read, and listen to.
I believe that our lessons of joy and pain are not to be kept to ourselves. That's why I don't mind being transparent about anything if someone asks me, or if I feel they are reaching out for love, comfort or insight. Therefor I wanted to share some songs that I love, and make me feel good. I'll probably break this up in a couple of posts because I have several different types of playlist. Happy, Grooves, Lets Get It, Women Rock!, Hyped Praise, and Lifted Praise (Now of course, I have way more than playlist than these, but just providing some general grouping) Below is some of my fave songs on my Happy Playlist. I typically play these songs throughout the day because they are about living a great life. They are not about love, hurt, materialism, but joy, individuality and power! A playlist of songs that I really needed to hear at the time I made it!
1. Pharrell- Happy
2. India Arie- Just Do You
3. Jill Scott- Golden
4. Goapele- Closer
5. Rihanna- Hard
6. Michael Jackson- Jam
7.Mary J. Blige- Just Fine
8. Nina Simone- feeling Good
9. R. Kelly- Happy People
10. Whitney Houston- I'm Every Woman
11. Outkast- B.O.B.
12. Michael Jackson- Wanna Be Startin' Somethin'
13. Blackstreet, Mya, Mase & Blinky Blink- Take Me There
14. Michael Jackson- Butterflies
15. Janelle Monae- Electric Lady
Do you have goto songs you can listen to that make you feel good? If not, think of them, write them down, and make them readily accessible. What are some songs that put you in a Happy Mood?
Written By: Tiffany Wright
Whenever I have a consultation with someone about improving their nutrition and overall health, I always ask about water intake. Getting an insight into water intake can actually provide a general snapshot into someone's health. Did you know that your body is estimated to be up to 60 percent water, the brain is composed of 70 percent water, and the lungs are nearly 90 percent water? Lean muscle tissue contains about 75 percent water by weight, as does the brain, body fat contains 10 percent water, and bone has 22 percent water. About 83 percent of our blood is water, which helps digest our food, transport waste, and control body temperature. Lastly, at least 20 percent of the water that your body needs come from the food you consume and the rest the rest will come from beverages you drink.
All this to say, water is a pretty big deal, and most people don't even realize it. Ideally you should drink half of your body weight in oz of water a day. For example, if you're 140lbs, you should drink 70oz. If you are active, get in 8-16oz additional for every 300 calories. Why is water important?Well it actually benefits your joints by providing lubrication allowing for better movement. Its imperative for digestion. Water helps cleanse and filter unecessary toxins to be flushed out the system. In additiin water helps deluver nutrients in your cells to all the necessary organ systems.
Many times I've had people tell me they workout and eat well, but then I find out they're not drinking enough water. Dehydration actually encourages your body to store fat, and if you have that extra full belly, its probably toxin build up that just needs to be washed down with lots of water and green veggies. Water is so important in weight management because not only is it working through your digestive tract, but also aiding in regulating metabolism, hunger and your kidneys. It is said that 75% of time we think we're hungry, we're actually thirsty. After really learning how simply important water was for weight management and digestion, I did a "Gallon Challenge", drank a gallin of water for 7 days straight and loss 5 lbs! And during that point, I was already eating very clean.
A gallon seems like a lot for some people but its all in your head. Once you stay consistent, it will seem easier. Make progress and time marks on a gallon bottle so you can pace yourself if you decide to take it on. It will be interesting to see your body change within the matter of a week. Lots of water can be challenging depending on the strength of your bladder, so be prepared, and really just do the best you can.
Going forth, if you have any friends or family with digestion, kidney, weight, headache, or cardiovascular challenges, encourage them to up their water. Support them by taking advantage of preparing water bottles, canisters, etc. ahead of time. To be earth friendly, by home filter system and a large cute water bottle so you don’t have to constantly use plastic bottles from the store.
Written by: Tiffany Wright
"Learn to hear what your inner voice is telling you and your whole world changes, " Oprah.
I believe that it is in the moments of stillness, peace, spiritual connectivity, silence, supreme relaxation, and sleep that we see visions for our lives. Scientifically speaking, there are specific states in which the brain releases feel good and trance-like chemicals during certain states, but I feel the process that our bodies go thru cannot scientifically be explained. Research says that dreams are not truly symbolic, but more so electric signals received by our senses and put together during our sleep, but we know that there is more to a vision than just impulses. There is something special, something spiritual about visions that we receive at "random" moments. Sometimes, these visions play as snippets in our heads throughout our whole lives. NO matter how you receive a vision, make sure you connect with it. Make sure you write it down. I keep my visions in a journal, and I keep a small notebook with me when I'm out and about, so that I can transfer anything special to my journal. No matter what culture you're from, you will always be able to find a spiritual leader that emphasizes the importance of writing down your visions, and making plans.
Many people experience the moment of "having a great idea" and maybe years down the line, seeing that idea come into fruition, attached to someone else's name. Or even the constant, pull of "Ughhh I need to do XYZ, I can do it so much better." Well the problem is that most people come up with hundreds of ideas a year, but don't work on them! Therefore, connecting to your vision, is a very spiritual process. Your vision always serves a purpose, and it is your responsibility to pursue it.
In the bible, Habukkuk 2:2 states to write the vision and make it plain so that others may run with it. If God gives you a vision, it will never look like someone else's, therefore be content that the vision that was placed in your spirit, is "good enough" to pursue. It is your uniqueness that will serve the vision justice. Often times resources may be a reason one stagnates on action; Just know there is always someone somewhere who's waiting to invest in you. It just takes connecting, networking, and really articulating what you want to do. We are blessed with gifts, and we GET to share them with the world! We MUST share them with world because if we don't, the world may not change. What would happen if Beethoven, Albert Einsten, John D. Rockefeller,Thomas Edison, Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Mother Theresa, Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Michael Jordan, Oprah Winfrey, Barabara Walters, Madame CJ Walker, Mark Zuckerberg, Michael Jackson, or Lupita Nyong'o amongst millions of visionaries, hadn't followed the vision in their hearts.
Commit to writing down all the things that come up in your spirit. Be still. Believe. Do what you can to make them come true, and God will do the rest.
Written by: Tiffany Wright
Recently, I was sitting down with a few ladies and a guy friend, and the topic of discussion came up to be "What's wrong with the men today?" Basically, why don't men (on average) court women, and why are they so quick to try to get some. Opinions were exchanged. Thoughts such as
There's several reasons I didn't give much feedback. For one, I'm not dating and haven't dated anyone new in 3 years, so I'm not really in the know of this matter. Secondly, I feel that these special group of men and angry dramatic female outtakes are irrelevant to my life and space. Let me explain. I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction. In addition, I am a self-aware being, on a constant journey of transformation and personal development, which I know the average person, let alone man in my age group, probably is not. Lastly, since my last relationship, I do everything stepping in the name of self love ( I hope you got that R.Kelly innuendo haha). What does all this mean?
Think about this, when you set expectations of what and who you want, do you represent that which you desire? Its the idea of "Look at the (wo)man in the mirror...if you want to make the world a better place, you gotta look at yourself and make a change"-Michael Jackson or even "BE the change you wish to see" -Ghandi. At any time in our lives, we attract beings who are similar in thought, values, or behaviors. "Something" attracted you to whomever you decided to give a chance, and I believe its this unknown spiritual connectivity that will happen, not just what you want. Not only that, but the golden rule " As a (wo)man thinketh, so is he"-the bible . We attract what we constantly think about; whether that's goodness or negativity in life. Even if you have a not so pleasant encounter with a man or woman, I say be thankful for a new lesson, instead of bashing them...because it just might lead to a continuous pattern of bashing, unless someone else fixed you up. Secondly, everyone is in a different place when it comes to personal development and transformation. The most "successful" people and greatest leaders of our world, read. They read a lot. Not only do they read, but they read for the purpose of becoming better at their crafts, at leadership, and being their best selves mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. Its called a never ending journey of personal development and learning. I too focus on constantly improving myself; reading books, watching and listening to different motivational speakers, life philosophers, and spiritual leaders. For starters, its necessary to find where someone's mental, spiritual and emotional state is when you first meet them. If they are at a 3 and your at 7, you must be realistic and know they're whole being is going to be different than what you may desire. Be honest, and love yourself enough to be real. Lastly, if you love yourself, you know what love or a simulation of love will look like based on how you view, treat, and appreciate yourself and time. You are the best measure of how someone should treat you.
In dating, you must understand who you are. Don't expect someone to give you the world, moon and stars. A relationship isn't about what a person can do for you or give you, or even fill in what you think you lack. Those are bonuses. A relationship is about BEing in a state of love, compassion, spiritual connectivity and growth; this can truly match the qualification for any type of relationship. It's so important to understand 1) If the same outcomes repeatedly occur for you, revisit who you are and how you show up in the world 2)Everyone isn't in the same place as you, so if you meet someone in a different space, from a loving place, share with them how to learn a new perspective or connect to a channel of growth. pay forward your knowledge and awareness because someone somewhere payed it forward to you. Lastly, a huge undertaking of self awareness, is to know that anyone is the sum of their experiences, so be understanding. There may be a pattern of undesirable behaviors , but there's also a pattern of broken homes, media uplifting one night stands, and more women who don't care about courting. Anyone you meet, you must consider where they're from, their family structure, and even their past relationships. Take a look at yourself. We are human, which solely means to be imperfect. We are complex beings, and it goes to deeper than laying a blanketed generalization of frustration; no matter who it is.
Written By: Tiffany W.
This was an amazing weekend for BE! On Saturday, March 1st we celebrated the grand launching of The BE Experience! Brought to you through BE Inspired, The Be Experience will be special events in which attendees Experience a Beatific Ecstasy! Exchanging stories, love, growth, and spirits which empower! BE is about life enhancement, not just motivating. When people attend a BE event, its intended to BE an experience! Not just a fee good, hype, high emotion seminar or workshop. I want bonds to be built, stories to strengthen and heal, and most importantly, instant growth and awareness about self love to be experienced walking away from every event!
BE! has been a spirit brain child of mine for about 4 years, so to launch the BE Empowered and BE Well activities in 2013, and share with the world what it means to BE Inspired beginning 2014 is such a powerful testament to living your dreams. BE Inspired is all about the lessons and connections offered through events; BE Empowered is all about the empowerment exchanges through media, and BE Well is about a healthy lifestyle journey! It has been a journey, but it started with a vision from God, and developed into a self pursuing, daily obsessed dream!
Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”- Apple
Every Dream begins with a dreamer.
Every passion, dream, idea that dwells in you is no accident, but it can be a missed opportunity if you don't do what you have to do. I've heard many occasions when someone said, "oh I could've thought of that" or "that's an idea I kind of had." When you get inspiration, I think its important to start moving right away. There is no such thing as perfect timing, just perfect inspiration. There may be thousands of athletes, inventors, speakers, designers, chefs, etc. but know one is going to BE like YOU and that's what makes your dream special. A dreamer prevents themselves from becoming a doer when hey begin to doubt, question, and challenge the beauty of their dream. Resources are often a reason why many don't go after their dreams, but this too should not be a reason. There's ALWAYS a way, and if you pursue your dream with faith, the right people and opportunities will be presented to you.
With all the events I have organized for others, for some reason it went all out the door when considering what it would take to have this launching, but I'm blessed to be surrounded and supported by amazing people who believe in what I'm doing, and that's what it takes. Vision, and others to support that vision, even if its at least 1. There will always be naysayers, doubters, and those over-analytical "what if " people in your life. No problem, they mean well, but JUST DO YOU!! If you people don't laugh at you, and your dreams don't scare you, they're not big enough. My supreme dream is to create a global impact, and work with some of the most influential people in this world, such as Oprah Winfrey. I don't know how , when, or where these goals will play out, but I stand by faith and the clarity of my vision!
Written by: Tiffany W.