Wounded woman.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
You say you feel broken,
But you did not break yourself.
It was your mother, your father, your family, the system, the lovers, the friends, the acquaintances.
The lies, abuse, neglect,  and sickness.
You took the brokenness and pursued what you thought was life but only seemed to be mirrors of your wounds.
Don't worry you can be healed if you want.
You can choose to be more, live more, and love more.
Brokenness is a state of mind. Its a state of helplessness that you do not have subscribe to.
I know sometimes you wonder, what's wrong with me?
Am I good enough?
Am I beautiful enough?
Am I smart enough?
I know sometimes you feel hopeless.
You see others smile and hope that your smile can be as genuine as theirs one day;
You see others in love, and you hope you can have a love as beautiful as that one day.
You see other women radiate, and hope that you could have that much confidence one day.
Sometimes you wish the cause of your pain didn't happen, but that is not self love.
That is not acceptance.
You must choose to evolve.
Own your hurt.
Honor your wounds.
Work towards healing and welcome with an open spirit, change, growth and transformation.
See seasons rotate, and caterpillars turn into butterflies, snakes shed their skins,  and the leaves turn colors.
Look at your teachers...the creatures and life around you.
Look at the ocean, the moon and the sun. They love like you. They live like you. They are essential to the circle of life. They are one with you.
The moon spends most of its monthly parts in pieces but what everyone remembers is her fullness.
Her wholeness shines bright and illuminates the last. Ever so often, her wholeness emits colors that the world is fascinated at and gathers to see.
You will change and one day youll feel whole and then go thru a process of evolution once again.
Despite your wounds, choose to love yourself through and through; as you do so, you teach those around you how to love you too.
You will see that the greatest love, is the love you have for yourself.
 
By: Tiffany W.

It's a funny thing when you start to really put yourself first...

I mean, when you intentionally set boundaries with people, walk away from relationships, offer up the word NO more often, be comfortable with doing what you want, and actually believing in some dreams you have...

The funny thing is that the people around you will respond:  some people will admire you, others will respect you, and others will think you are being rude, selfish, standoffish or "Different".

Well I say,

How dare you tell someone you won't tolerate their disrespect...
How dare you tell someone you don't want to hear about the negativity they want to spew about their own or others' lives...
How dare you set boundaries with energy vampires and people who don't seem to appreciate you...
How dare you spend less time with people who don't add to your life or feel you have a mutually beneficial relationship with
How dare you be honest and say, no, without reason because you're an adult who reserves the right to choose what you do and when you want to do it
How dare you say no because you've learned that you are human and that rest and restoration are important to your physical, mental and emotional health...

I mean...how dare you begin to love yourself as much you do others...

This is the thing, it's ok to change. I want you to give yourself permission to do so. There's some unrealistic expectation that humans have about people never changing, and when they do, others get surprised. No matter what the change seems like, albeit negative or positive. Seasons change, weather change, and people change. Your body changes, your circumstances change, and how you navigate the world change.

The only thing constant is change, so embrace it, and if those around you don't, learn to be ok with it.

A new me on my new journey of self love years ago would have said, oh well who cares, but the reality is, we do care if the ones we love the most will embrace our transformations. We do have a hope that people will be happy and accepting of our new wings, but unfortunately this is not always the case.

As you come into yourself, you must realize that choosing to love on yourself does not make you selfish. It means that you are conscious of the fact that you are the center of your universe and without intentionally taking steps to stay aligned with your center, your world will be chaos.

It does not serve you to let people treat you ways that you don't want to be treated. You must not only learn and reflect upon what you NEED emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally to thrive, but you must hold others accountable to providing that.

It doesn't serve you to overcommit, run yourself into the ground, neglect your health, neglect your me time, and neglect self care. It is your role and responsibility to maintain peace and joy in your life. On this journey, as you come to realize how to do so, you will transform, you will have to choose you over others, and you know what? It's ok. Choose to BE Centered.

BE Unapologetically Centered,

Tiffany W.

Greetings and Happy New Year BEautiful BEings!

It has been a while since I have posted something and I must admit, even though I have not been posting, I sure enough have been writing. Writing for me, writing for you, and writing for the world.

Why the break?

I had to take time to get clear. I got to a point, not only of frustration, but also monotony. I had to become clear as to why I was writing and what the purpose of The BE Life was.

What is the value of taking time to get clear?

Well for one, I believe it's important to take moments from time to time, to consider WHY you are doing what you do? If your WHY is not strong enough or if your WHY is not driven by passion and a balanced well intention, I believe its time to step back.

Even though I love writing and am passionate about producing content that would be equivalent to a sit down convo with my girls, it was important for me to chill so I wouldn't feel like writing was an obligatory task. Obligation stifles my creativity and authentic expression and I was definitely starting to feel my own internal pressure to make sure I was producing content if not every day, at least every other day. The world (in my head) would be affected by my inconsistencies and "The BE Life" would never be the platform I'd want it to if I wasn't constantly posting.

Well I'm glad I took a break because I realize that crap was Bull... Clearly the world is still going and I haven't received any angry messages about my short sabbatical.

A renewed lesson on the value of taking a break: We are not superhuman...we are human and its ok to re-energize. Its also ok to question or doubt what you're doing, only to commit to closely examining what you're doing and what you would like to do.

Clarity in tasks and clarity in purpose is a driving force of productivity I any realm. When clarity is present, so is intention, and a convicted mindset. A made up mind is more effective in manifesting  desires; and don't we want to be in a place where we our constantly manifesting our desires?

Clarity allows you to cease the internal chatter and stop comparing your processes and outcomes to others, as well as experiencing the deadly trap of belittling.

So I ask, what is it that you need to get clear about?
Are you clear about what life you want to live this year?
Are you clear about the relationships you have and if you have the desire for more, what type of relationships do you desire?
Are you clear about how you feel about your self?
Are you clear about what its going to take to get you to the next level in your life?

No better time than now, as you're reading this, to begin or further marinate on some of these questions.

BE Clear~
Tiffany W.